Written by: Tara Best, Executive Contributor
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What will you remember the Covid-19 pandemic for? Will it be fear and worry or opportunity and success? The global pandemic has had a wildly different impact on us, depending on our location, family situation, job, and mindset. But as we start to leave our third national lockdown here in the UK, I’ve noticed a pattern when I talk to my coaching clients. If they’ve hit targets or smashed goals, then they’re feeling a strange emotion alongside happiness, gratitude, and pride. They’re feeling guilty, and that’s often coupled with worry that they aren’t worthy of their success. How crazy does that sound?!
These people have worked their hearts out during the most unpredictable time most of us can remember, and their reaction to success is to feel guilty about it! Then they start to attribute it to other people or external factors… But dig a little under the surface, and you can see why they’ve reacted that way. Our news and social media feeds are full of stories about people working tirelessly on the front lines against the virus, tales of inspirational community workers, and tips for coping with homeschooling pressures, working from home, and social isolation. It’s natural to feel empathy for those struggling and to offer support where you can. It would be downright inhuman not to! But it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t celebrate your hard-earned success. In fact, I think it’s actually more important now than it ever has been before.
Here’s why I believe you should work on recognizing you are worthy of success and celebrating it too!
To develop a positive mindset.
I work with my clients to develop a more positive and productive mindset, turning their limiting beliefs and thoughts into affirmations to move them towards their goals. If you’re new to mindset work, then you need to investigate it! It’s the best way to turn that voice which says, ‘I’m not good enough’ to ‘I’m getting better at this every day and then “I'm amazing at this!”. Celebrating success and using them in your affirmations is an incredible way to instill some positive thought patterns in your unconscious mind.
To boost your confidence and self-esteem.
We all have wobbles; we wouldn’t be human if we didn’t. But it’s how we react to them which helps separate positive people from those who let negativity take hold. Recognizing and embracing successes means you have that amazing memory to go back to. I love getting clients to make an epic list - whereby they write out 10 things they are insanely proud of, and I encourage you to do the same! Think of things you have achieved in your career and life, hard times you’ve overcome, breakthroughs you’ve had, or just things you’re proud of. Then, if you have a day when you can’t find that inner confidence, you can read your epic list to remind yourself of the many reasons why you are an amazing human.
For your own learning and development
They say it’s important to fail in life, as the knowledge and experience you gain from failure are invaluable. Whilst that’s totally true, I say it’s equally important to recognize when you’ve succeeded, and for the very same reasons! Taking a little bit of time to look at why something worked well and what you learned along the way means that you can replicate it again in the future. And who doesn’t fancy a little more success coming down the tracks?!
For your support network too!
You know those people who you turn to for support when times are tough? Your partner, your team, your colleagues, your mentor or coach, or your parents? Well, if they’re there for the tough times, then make sure you include them in the good times too! A positive, happy phone call, a special meal at home, or even a glass of wine on a Zoom call are all ways to say ‘thank you’ to your support network for their part in your success!
To get the happy hormones flowing!
It can be tempting to view hitting a goal as a box ticked before it’s time to move on to the next task at hand. But surely the chance to celebrate success in your business, career, or personal life right now is the perfect tonic to the strange and unsettling times we’re experiencing? Even if you haven’t had homeschooling, work uncertainty, or money worries to contend with, life has still been downright odd for the past year. Allowing yourself to celebrate and share successes is a great way to get happy hormones flowing. Put on your favorite music, enjoy your favorite food and drink and even dance around your house. Because why not? Anything which gets the dopamine and endorphins flowing has to help at the moment!
Tara Best, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Tara Best, of Tara Punter Coaching and Tara Punter PR is incredibly passionate about all things mindset and marketing and helping business owners thrive, while taking control of those limiting beliefs likely to hold them back in business. As a certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Coach, NLP Practitioner, Practitioner of Time Line Therapy and Hypnotherapist, she has the tools required to help clients re-wire their subconscious mind, to help them create unlimited success. She combines this with her marketing and public relations expertise to truly help her audience thrive. Best is also the voice behind the popular podcast, Tara Talks and soon to be a published author.