Why Changing Jobs Won’t Fix Your Life and What Will
- Brainz Magazine
- Feb 14
- 4 min read
Updated: Feb 16
Rebekah King quickly became known as 'The Brain Changer' after transforming her own life by retraining her brain. As co-founder of Moonbeam Monday, she uses her skills as Master NLP Practitioner and Hypnotherapist to help people take back control of their own mind and revolutionise the way they think so they can create a life they truly love.
I once worked with a woman named Lisa (not her real name). She’d had six jobs in five years. She was convinced her latest job was the problem. The boss was toxic. The work was draining. The office smelled weird. And every time she switched roles, she’d get a little rush of excitement - new people, new routines, new stationery (oh, the stationery!!) But within months, the same frustrations crept in.
I'll let you in on a little secret: this was me! Ok, I didn't exactly have six jobs in five years, but I wasn't far off. Maybe you’ve been there, too. Maybe you’ve scrolled seek at 2 am, too, convincing yourself that a new role with a fresh team and better coffee would finally make you happy. But here’s what I finally learned: Changing jobs doesn’t change you. In fact, it just reinforces a pattern that isn't serving you.
Why we believe a new job is the answer
Our brains are wired to seek external solutions. It’s why people jump from one diet to another, hoping for a miracle. Or why buying a shiny new planner feels like productivity (even though you still don’t use it after week one). A new job promises a fresh start. But what if the problem isn’t the job at all? What if it’s the mindset you’re carrying into every role?
The ‘same problem, different desk’ syndrome
Lisa’s (or my) pattern is incredibly common. She wasn’t just changing jobs; she was running from herself. The same insecurities, the same limiting beliefs, and the same frustrations followed her like an unpaid parking ticket that refused to disappear. Because unless we change our internal world, our external world stays stubbornly the same.
So, what will actually change your life?
1. Get clear on what’s really missing
It’s not always the job that’s the issue; it’s the misalignment between what you do and what truly matters to you. Ask yourself, "What do I actually want from my career? Autonomy? Creativity? Recognition?" If your job doesn’t align with your values, no amount of salary increases or free Friday pizzas will make it satisfying.
2. Recognise the patterns you keep repeating
If you’ve had the same complaints in every role, that’s a clue. Maybe it’s not all your past managers who were terrible. Maybe you struggle with authority or boundaries. Maybe you can learn a better way to communicate with different people. Maybe you take on too much and burn out. Understanding these patterns gives you the power to break them.
3. Upgrade your thinking, not just your resume
Your thoughts create your experience. If you constantly tell yourself, “Work is just something to endure,” guess what? You’ll keep finding jobs that reinforce that belief. Instead, start shifting your mindset. What would happen if you approached work as a place for growth rather than survival?
4. Learn to manage stress & overwhelm
Let’s be real: no job is stress-free. Even people with ‘dream jobs’ deal with deadlines, difficult colleagues, and days when nothing goes right. The key isn’t finding a stress-free role; it’s learning how to handle stress better. When you can navigate challenges with resilience, you won’t feel the constant urge to escape.
The bottom line
If you’ve been job-hopping, hoping for a magic fix, take a breath. The change you’re looking for doesn’t come from a new boss or a new title; it comes from within. And the good news? That’s something you do have control over.
Ready to stop the cycle?
If this hits home for you, we talk about it in-depth on the latest episode of The Brain Changers, a podcast hosted by Rebekah and Yvonne King, dedicated to teaching you how to revolutionise the way you think and live by mastering your mind. Listen here. Tune in to hear real stories, practical strategies, and how you can start making real changes today.
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Rebekah King, NLP Master Practitioner and Hypnotherapist
Known as ‘The Brain Changer’, NLP Master Practitioner and Hypnotherapist, Rebekah King, transformed her life when she eliminated debilitating depression and anxiety after more than 20 years by learning how to retrain her brain. As the co-founder of Moonbeam Monday Training + Coaching, her mission is to reach as many women as possible to demonstrate that when you revolutionise the way they think, you can take back control of your mind and live a life of joy, meaning and happiness. Because when you change your mind, you change your life.
