Written by: Danielle Baron, Senior Level Executive Contributor
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The subtlety of grooming can sometimes only become evident in hindsight. In the present era, the internet serves as a valuable resource for information and forming surface-level connections. However, it's crucial to acknowledge that these connections can carry inherent dangers.
Above all else, it's imperative that children avoid conversing with individuals they haven't met in person. This caution extends even further – children shouldn't communicate with anyone, even if they're acquainted, without parental consent. Even family members like Uncle Tony or Grandad George might conceal ulterior motives. While it's against our compassionate beliefs, the unfortunate truth is that most instances of abuse stem from family, friends, or acquaintances, including those initiated through online interactions. Groomers can come from any background, but statistically, they're more likely to be men. In cases involving women, it's often due to wanting to please a partner.
Drawing from my role as a parent who has dealt with my daughter's grooming experience and managed to intervene in time, I share insights from both personal experience and expertise. Education stands as the foundation for safeguarding your child. It's essential to be comfortable having conversations that raise awareness about the possibility of grooming, enabling your child to identify warning signs even before you do. Despite our kind nature, children, in particular, tend to project their own goodness onto others. Unfortunately, someone might mask their true intentions behind a facade of kindness. While it's heartbreaking to temper their curiosity and innocence, it's even more heartbreaking if an unfortunate incident occurs. As a parent, it is better to be labelled paranoid and overly cautious than to face a tragic outcome.
Just as in face-to-face interactions, groomers exploit seemingly innocent avenues to initiate their schemes and seize any opportunity to progress their manipulative tactics. It's crucial to recognize that grooming isn't exclusive to pedophiles. Some clinical pedophiles abstain from grooming or abuse when seeking medical intervention. Groomers can be anyone – married individuals with families- ANYONE!
Five strategies to educate your child about online grooming
Foster Open Communication: Establish an environment of trust and openness where your child feels comfortable discussing their online activities and concerns. Regularly inquire about their online interactions, listening without judgment. Failure to facilitate this communication leaves them vulnerable and exposed – it's a form of neglect.
Teach Online Privacy: Educate your child about safeguarding personal information. Emphasise the importance of not sharing details like their full name, address, school, or phone number. Make them aware that predators can exploit this information for manipulation.
Recognise Warning Signs: Train your child to identify red flags during online conversations. Discuss signs like secretive communication, requests for personal information, and overly keen interest in their life. Encourage them to trust their instincts and exercise caution.
Distinguish Online Friends: Help your child differentiate between online friends and real-life friends. Stress that not everyone online has good intentions, even if they seem friendly. Advise them to limit interactions to people they know offline and to avoid forming close relationships with strangers.
Teach Reporting and Blocking: Equip your child with the knowledge of how to block and report users on the platforms they use. Ensure they understand how to report suspicious behaviour to platform administrators and to you. Reporting is responsible, not weak.
Additional Tip: Stay Informed Yourself: Familiarise yourself with your child's online platforms to better guide them and comprehend potential risks. Keep updated on online safety practices and digital trends to address emerging challenges effectively.
Remember, preventing online grooming is an ongoing effort. Regularly revisit these discussions with your child as they grow and gain more online independence. By nurturing awareness and guidance, you empower your child to navigate the digital landscape safely.
Red flags to watch for as a parent
Secrecy and Privacy: If your child becomes overly secretive about online activities, hiding screens or devices, they might be concealing interactions they don't want you to know about.
Excessive Online Time: Prolonged late-night online activity might indicate inappropriate engagement. Groomers often invest time to build connections.
Sharing Personal Information: If your child starts sharing sensitive details with online friends or acquaintances, it's a sign of potential manipulation.
Emotional Changes: Noticeable shifts in mood or behaviour could signal online grooming. Investigate if your child becomes withdrawn, anxious, or irritable without an apparent reason.
Compliments, Gifts, or Money: Groomers often manipulate through compliments, attention, gifts, or money. Unexplained gifts or money from online sources are significant red flags.
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Danielle Baron, Senior Level Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Danielle catalyses children and adults to rise like a phoenix from the flames 🔥 and to reach their optimum potential. She is an entrepreneur, inspiring 11+ and 7+ entrance exams tutor, rapid transformational therapist®️, business coach for overachievers, a life coach for all, and an NLP Master practitioner, and she is also certified by the ILM.
One of Danielle’s much-loved abilities is being an overachiever because she thrives on the excitement and follows her passion, which is to help people live fulfilling lives.
Over the last five years of her tuition business, Danielle has become extremely popular and respected in the tuition industry and is a mentor and coach to other tutors to help them increase revenue in their businesses, but ultimately to be the best tutors they can be. Her own tuition service incorporates coaching for parents and children throughout the exam process and NLP classes for children to help them with lack of confidence, bullying, and anxiety and to help them focus on the imminent goal of exams and to visualise and believe in their success.
Danielle’s second business, coaching and therapy, has been a long time coming and her personal interest in people and psychology led her to invest in the most high-quality courses to be the best for her clients. For her rapid transformational therapy ®️, she had the privilege of personally being mentored by Marisa Peer, a world-renowned therapist. Rapid transformational therapy is a combination of NLP, CBT, psychotherapy and hypnosis.
It has been Danielle’s personal experiences that have led her to where she is today. At age four, her father died of suicide, which installed in her a determination to help prevent people from ever becoming despaired again. Her best friend passed away at fifteen, which solidified Danielle’s determination to live life to the full. Growing up with a single parent, they struggled with money, but Danielle was very inspired by her mother’s work ethic, which had a huge impact on her.
As a teacher in some schools, the politics and bullying amongst staff were toxic and she suffered from depression, stress and burnout and was treated badly at her most vulnerable time of being pregnant and having a newborn and that’s why she’s passionate about helping teachers. She wishes that she had someone to help her at the time.
She has been through the journey of setting up successful businesses on her own while undertaking childcare as a single parent of two after she divorced and strongly believes anyone can achieve anything they put their mind to with grit, focus, and passion.