Written by: Sherille Marquez, Executive Contributor
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As we kick off a new year, I’m excited to share a game-changer for me post-divorce – the extraordinary power of self-love. In the process of healing and change, I found that loving yourself deeply is the key to unlocking a life full of joy, purpose, and unexpected happy moments. Let’s explore how self-love can be your guiding light in 2024.
Discovering your authentic self
One of the best things I did for myself after divorce was taking the time to find my real self. I tried new things, stepped out of my comfort zone, and embraced the unfamiliar. It wasn't always easy – often very scary and uncomfortable – but as I opened up to new hobbies, embraced different interests, and found comfort in my own company, I came across forgotten aspects of myself.
As I kept digging, I found pieces of myself that somewhat disappeared during my marriage. For all you strong ladies out there, think about trying things that make you happy to rediscover the wonderful parts of who you are. Maybe it's drawing, having a dance party in your living room, or just taking a walk in the park. These simple things have the power to help you heal.
Let self-love be your guide on this journey. Celebrate the real you, imperfections and all, and welcome the ongoing adventure of figuring out who you are. Here are some easy ideas for you:
Surround yourself with things that make you happy. Whether it's trying out painting, dancing like no one's watching, or just going for a walk at a park, these moments of joy can help you connect with your true self.
Turn up the music and let loose with some dancing. I loved doing this! It's not about being perfect – just let yourself move and feel the joy. Whether it's in your living room or at a dance class, let the music help you rediscover the joy of laughing.
Find peace in nature's beauty. Take a quiet walk in the park, sit by a calm lake, or go for a hike on a pretty trail. Nature has a way of calming your soul and giving you a space to think.
Building strong boundaries
Loving yourself means knowing you're important. It's about saving your energy for people and things that really matter. I started kindly saying "no" to invites that weren’t in alignment with me, ended relationships that were draining instead of uplifting, and embraced the freedom to choose myself without guilt.
Building strong boundaries isn't like putting up walls; it's about making a safe and loving space for the real you. It's telling your subconscious mind, "I deserve to be treated well." Thanks to loving myself, it reinforced my worthiness and became fiercely protective over it.
Easy tips for setting boundaries you can implement now:
Politely say "no" to events that don't resonate with you. You can thank them for the invite but let them know it's not your thing.
Pay attention to how people and situations make you feel. If your gut is giving you a signal, do not ignore it. It’s telling you it’s not for you, and it's okay to step back.
It's important to prioritize yourself. If something doesn't align with your values, confidently say "no" without any guilt. You deserve kindness and respect in all situations.
Attracting serendipitous moments through the art of self-love
Now, here's where the magic truly unfolded. As I continued to radiate self-love, something extraordinary happened – I became a magnet for serendipitous moments. The universe, like a cosmic dance partner, responded to my heightened vibration, and I found myself at the right time, at the right place, and with the right people.
It's incredible how the energy we put out into the world shapes our experiences. When we vibrate with self-love, we attract positivity, abundance, and the unexpected wonders of life. You can become a magnet for the magic with these easy tips:
Start your day with a positive mindset. Focus on the good things in your life and express gratitude. By radiating positivity, you'll naturally attract unexpected happy moments. Using a mantra is a great way to start the day.
Be open to things you haven’t done before. Whether it's joining a new class, exploring a different part of town, or attending social events, opening yourself to new experiences creates opportunities for pleasant surprises.
Surround yourself with people who share similar interests and positive vibes. Join meetups or online groups where you can connect with people who share your interests. These connections can lead to unexpected and joyful moments in your life.
Conclusion
Reflecting on my post-divorce journey, I'm filled with gratitude for the transformative power of self-love. It allowed me to rediscover my authentic self, set empowering boundaries, and become a magnet for serendipitous moments. As you navigate the path ahead, remember that you are deserving of love, especially from yourself.
In 2024, let's commit to accepting the beautiful, messy, and perfectly imperfect divorced women we are. Let's go with the flow, say "no" when it's right, and be open to the surprising joys of life. Here's to a year filled with self-love and all the magical moments it brings.
If you’d like more support, email me to get my FREE guide “3 Key Steps to Discover Your True Self & Reclaim Your Power After Divorce”. You may also schedule a complimentary 15-minute video consultation call here.
Sherille Marquez, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Sherille leads powerful transformations for divorced women, drawing from her own experience navigating a devastating divorce while raising two boys. This personal journey is now her life's mission, dedicating herself to helping others reclaim their power and build authentic, fulfilling lives through personalized coaching and transformative programs. Sherille is certified in Holistic Life and Mind-Body Coaching, Past Life Regression Hypnosis (QHHT), Holistic Nutrition, and Reiki.
