The Space Between Love and Hate and the Golden Thread Within
- Brainz Magazine
- Apr 17
- 5 min read
Summer Jean is most known for her transformational work with trauma, major life transitions, grief, and deep healing of long-term suffering. She is the owner of Agami Karma Therapy and the online transformation program, Ascend.
It’s been written, said, and studied that Love and Hate exist on the same spectrum of sensation, just at opposite ends. Both are intense, passionate, and powerful mirror extremes of the same emotional current.
Between these extremes exists a space that draws curiosity and wonder
If we agree that love and hate coexist on a spectrum, each carrying a potential charge, then can we also agree that we have the power to shift from one to the other? Or do most people dwell in the in-between, constantly teetering from one side to the other in their relationships with themselves, others, and the world, without even knowing that they are doing it. Unconsciously acting out what the subconscious is projecting from within.
I often contemplate War, destruction, violence, and abuse. Where do they come from, if not hate? Hate fuels power. Power seeks control. Control breeds fear. Fear leads to separation. Separation reinforces hate. It is a cycle of suffering.
Those that live consciously understand the illusion of Hate and Suffering. Self-realized people see through the illusions that separate the Divine Source Energy from which we come and to which we will one day return.
The space between birth and death, ego and soul, light and shadow
Neutrality, that elusive middle ground, holds the tension of both love and hate. THIS is the space where choice lives. It’s the place where self-aware people consciously begin to transcend the point of neutrality and its lower frequencies. The lowest emotional frequencies being shame, powerlessness, fear, despair, and grief. Hate is not the true depth of the lowest emotional vibration, as it does come with a charge to it; the intensity of hate raises the frequency from the lowest vibrations, but not by much.
After sitting with hundreds of clients in my psychotherapy practice over the last 15 years, I have observed a common thread within the human experience that speaks to the space between love and hate. This thread is not really spoken of at its core, for what it is. Therefore, it often lies hidden in the blind spots of most who hold it. I’ve come to call it “The Golden Thread”. Because in the deepest, darkest place of existence, I like to think that it is plated in gold, radiating Light.
No one escapes The Golden Thread. Although some may have it easier than others to choose Love over Hate, each human faces this thread at one point in their life. This thread symbolically represents what binds us to love or hate; it is what sews our beliefs to our identity.
The golden thread breathes the very breath as the one it exists in
It is the whispering belief one takes to be true about oneself. Beginning at conception, in a mother’s womb, through the first 18 months of life and beyond, the belief one takes to be true about themself is the fulcrum, the teeter-totter, between love and hate. Through childhood, our teenage years, and the decades of life, this Golden Thread echoes the inner view of how we love or hate our own self. This is vital information for every living being to fully grasp. And here is why: the internal narrator, conscious or unconscious, is constantly running sensory information through the mental filter of our own core beliefs—beliefs we take to be true about ourselves, others, and the world around us. The narrator then seeks, collects, and stores evidence to support its claim of truth. Binding one's identity to the very intimate language of the internal narrator, right or wrong, this becomes the lens through which we fit into and see the world.
“What We Tell Ourselves, Is What We Become” – Buddha
The Law of Correspondence tells us: “As above, so below. As within, so without.” In simpler terms, our inner world reflects our outer reality. When the subconscious mind holds a belief, that belief ripples into our emotional body, shaping the sensations we feel. The emotional state we embody becomes the frequency we emit. And that frequency influences how we experience the world around us. The Law of Vibration expands on this, showing us that our dominant emotional state determines the energetic frequency we continuously send out and, in turn, what we’re aligned to receive. The Law of Attraction then confirms: what we send out energetically, we draw back in. Our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs don’t just stay inside us; they shape our relationships, our circumstances, and our reality.
According to Spiritual Law, the space between Love and Hate is not just a void; it’s a sacred field of transformation. It is here, within the in-between, that the Golden Thread weaves through every human heart, offering a chance to remember who we truly are.
It’s not the outer world that defines our reality, but the inner one, our beliefs, thought patterns, and the silent truths we carry within. These internal landscapes influence the emotional space we occupy, moment to moment, day to day.
Rather than focusing solely on how we feel about others, the true journey begins with how we feel about ourselves. Can we sit in radical honesty with our own sense of worth? Can we meet ourselves with compassion, grace, and the willingness to love unconditionally despite past mistakes, old stories, or buried pain?
The golden thread connects neural pathways that make us or break us
It is the life force of our own self-destruction or self-empowerment. Self-acceptance isn’t perfection. It’s the ability to fall, forgive, and rise again. It’s reclaiming our power, not by controlling life, but by mastering our response to it. This is self-mastery. This is the Golden Thread that connects us to Source, to truth, to Love itself. Ultimately leading us to our own sense of Self Love, for who we are, just as we are.
And when Love begins to radiate from within, authentic, unconditional, and grounded, the space between Love and Hate begins to dissolve. Hate loses its grip. The inner war quiets. The need for destruction, violence, and separation softens.
Peace doesn't come from fixing the outer world; it comes from transforming the inner one. As we align with Universal Laws, we begin to see: the Universe responds not to what we want, but to what we are.
Imagine how the space between love and hate diminishes once love from within radiates outside of oneself and begins to ripple out into the world. Hate has no chance of surviving, and so the gap between them begins to close. War, destruction, violence, and abuse cease to exist.
This requires an inward journey of one’s own psyche to explore the internal landscape of the mind. Knowing Universal Laws will respond to the state of being we live in.
Love. Law. Light.
Let the Golden Thread guide you.
Let it close the gap.
Can you imagine what becomes possible when it does?
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Summer Jean, Integrative Sound Psychotherapist
Summer Jean, owner of Agami Karma Therapy, is a seasoned Integrative Sound Psychotherapist and mother of four, dedicated to empowering others to heal. Combining Western Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, she helps clients overcome trauma, fears, and major life transitions with a deeper sense of Self. Helping those she works with to rewire unhealthy thinking patterns and break the habit of living out of balance. With over 20 years of experience and a distinguished speaking career in the medical, educational, and mental health fields, Summer’s work centers on ascending obstacles and fostering mind-body-soul balance. Passionate about Spirituality and the human experience, she inspires others to create purposeful, empowered, soul-driven lives.
