The Role of the Mind in Creating Our Reality and What It Has to Do with Our Relationships
- Brainz Magazine
- Feb 27
- 4 min read
Beatrice is a multi-award-winning Therapist, Hypnotherapist, CBT Therapist, Trainer, and Author! Beatrice has experience in working with people from all over the world. She is passionate about helping people transform their lives, heal, and manifest their ideal relationships.
Our thoughts shape the world we experience, influencing not only our personal reality but also the quality of our relationships. The mind acts as a filter, interpreting events through beliefs, emotions, and past experiences, often reinforcing patterns that either strengthen or hinder our connections with others. Understanding this dynamic empowers us to shift our mindset, fostering deeper, more fulfilling relationships built on awareness and intentionality.
1. Mirroring internal wounds
Partners and relationships often reflect our internal struggles and unresolved issues. If someone leaves or betrays us, it may highlight fears of abandonment or feelings of inadequacy that stem from past experiences.
2. Childhood experiences
Many of our fears and beliefs about ourselves are formed during childhood between the ages of 0 to 14. Competing for love, feeling compared to siblings or peers, or experiencing abandonment can lead to deep-seated beliefs that we are not good enough.
3. Fear of abandonment
If you have experienced abandonment or betrayal, it can create a fear that these situations will recur. This fear can manifest in relationships, leading to self-sabotage or attracting partners who reinforce these beliefs and you find yourself in the same situation over and over again.
You find that partners would leave you or betray you because, unconsciously, you identify yourself as being abandoned or betrayed.
Manifestation and self-perception
Beliefs shape reality
What manifests in our lives is not necessarily what we desire but rather who we believe ourselves to be. This highlights the importance of self-image and mindset in shaping our experiences.
So you don’t manifest what you want!
You don’t manifest who you are!
But you manifest in your life who you think you are!
For instance: If you identify yourself as being unworthy, then you meet people who will not respect you, do not treat you as a priority, their phone is always more important, or gambling, their family, and so on, because this is what you identify yourself with as not being valuable.
Suppose you’ve been in competition with other children, peers, siblings when you were a child. Now, you are manifesting in your relationship a third party, and that could be another person, alcohol, gambling, distance, depression, etc.
Taking responsibility for change
Rewiring the mind: While past experiences may not be your fault, you have the power to change your narrative. This involves:
Recognizing negative beliefs: Acknowledge the limiting beliefs that stem from past trauma.
Challenging and replacing these beliefs: Actively work on shifting your mindset to foster a more positive self-image.
Practicing self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness, understanding that healing is a process.
What are the steps toward healing?
Self-reflection: Engage in introspection to identify your fears and limiting beliefs.
Affirmations and positive self-talk: Use affirmations to reinforce a more positive self-image and counter negative thoughts.
Seek support: Professional help, whether through therapy or support groups, can provide guidance and tools for healing.
Mindfulness and meditation: Practices that promote mindfulness can help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings, allowing for better emotional regulation.
By addressing and healing our internal wounds, we can shift our beliefs and, in turn, change the patterns and relationships we attract into our lives. It's a journey that requires patience, self-love, and a commitment to personal growth that is ultimately Transformative!
Impact of our subconscious beliefs in our relationships
Consequences of inaction
Repetition of negative patterns: If you don't actively work on your beliefs and emotional wounds, you may find yourself in a cycle of failed relationships. This perpetuates feelings of inadequacy and reinforces negative self-beliefs.
Subconscious protection mechanism: The subconscious mind often acts as a protective mechanism, steering you away from situations that it perceives as dangerous based on past experiences. If your childhood was marked by conflict, your mind might equate relationships with danger, leading to self-sabotage.
Understanding the subconscious mind
The primary role of the subconscious is to keep you safe rather than to facilitate happiness. This means that even if you consciously desire a loving relationship, your subconscious may resist it if it perceives potential harm or conflict based on earlier experiences.
Changing your reality
Reprogramming beliefs: To alter your relationship patterns, you need to address and change the beliefs formed during childhood. This involves negotiating with your subconscious mind to recognize that a loving relationship can be safe and fulfilling.
Self-healing commitment: Committing to a healing journey is essential. This may include therapy, self-reflection, and various healing practices that help you confront and process past traumas.
Options for support
Traditional therapy
While traditional therapy can be beneficial, it often focuses on talking through issues and may take a long time to see significant changes in behavior. You can apply to work with me in the academy, which will provide targeted strategies for manifesting healthy relationships. This program focuses on practical techniques that facilitate quicker shifts in mindset and behavior.
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Group support
Participating in group subscriptions or workshops can offer community support, live Q&A sessions, and shared experiences, which can be powerful in the healing process. Here is my monthly group subscription if you want to check that!
The journey to healthier relationships often requires both self-awareness and a willingness to confront past wounds. By actively choosing to engage in healing practices and seeking support, you can begin to rewire your subconscious beliefs. This process will empower you to break free from old patterns and open yourself up to the possibility of loving, fulfilling relationships.
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Beatrice Zamfir, Transformational Therapist, Hypnotherapist, Author
Beatrice is an expert in helping people who have been through toxic relationships. She is dedicated to her career, where she is learning different methods that will help people change their lives for the better!, Heal, and manifest the person they love back or a new relationship!
