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The Role Of End-Of-Life Doulas In Embracing Life's Final Chapter

Written by: Nadija Bajrami, Senior Level Executive Contributor

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Executive Contributor Nadija Bajrami

Let’s talk about death, dying and the role of end-of-life doulas during the final stages of life. As a trauma focused hypnotherapist, certified grief educator, energy and spiritual worker, I have been felt that there is a real gap as regards helping people nearing the end of life and their families, and this is also why I trained as an end-of-life doula.


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In our bustling and fast paced world, filled with the highs and lows of life, there is a topic that often remains shrouded in silence – death and dying. Society, in its quest for perpetual youth and vitality, has inadvertently cultivated a sense of discomfort and fear surrounding these inevitable aspects of the human experience. When we hear about people being diagnosed with a terminal illness or when we hear about someone we know losing a loved one, we do often feel awkward, lost for words or just very uncomfortable and our first instinct is to find a way to make their pain disappear, to make them feel better. Indeed, as humans, we are hardwired to avoid and escape pain.


However, it is now time for us to shift this narrative, as embracing open conversations about death and dying holds immense significance for both those facing their final moments and their loved ones.


Breaking the taboo


Why is it that we find it so difficult to discuss death? The fear of the unknown, coupled with societal taboos, has created a culture where these conversations are often pushed aside. Yet, avoiding discussions about death can lead to feelings of isolation, anxiety, missed opportunities for connection as well as practical and material issues.


The importance of open communication


Open conversations about death allow people to express their fears, desires, and concerns. It creates a space where people can feel heard, understood, and supported during a challenging time. This not only helps the person facing death but also eases the burden on their loved ones.


Facilitating closure and acceptance


Acknowledging the inevitable allows individuals to reflect on their lives, make peace with past experiences, and find closure. This process of acceptance can bring about a sense of tranquillity, enabling both the dying person and their loved ones to make the most of their remaining time together.


Empowering end-of-life choices


Open conversations empower people to make informed decisions about their end-of-life care. Discussing preferences regarding medical treatments, funeral arrangements, and legacy wishes ensures that their final chapter aligns with their core values and desires.


Changing the narrative


The time has come to transform the culture of death from one of fear to one of celebration of life and reflection. Here are a few steps we can take to change the narrative around death and dying:

  • Education and awareness


  • Create safe spaces

  • Normalize grief

Embracing open conversations about death and dying is not just a matter of practicality; it is an act of compassion, empathy, and love. By breaking the silence and changing the narrative surrounding these inevitable aspects of life, we pave the way for a more connected, understanding, and supportive society. Let us celebrate life by acknowledging its natural conclusion and, in doing so, find strength, comfort, and inspiration in the shared human experience.


Now let’s talk about end-of-life doulas and how they can help with life's inevitable and final journey.


What is and end-of-life doula?


At this moment of life, there exists a profound and often overlooked role, a guiding light, a compassionate presence known as an end-of-life doula. Also referred to as a soul midwife, the end-of-life doulas are trained professionals who play a pivotal role in supporting individuals and their families as they navigate the delicate passage towards the end of life. End-of-life doulas are not medical people. Far beyond the realm of traditional medical care, end-of-life doulas provide a unique blend of emotional, psychological, and spiritual support that acts as the missing link between patients, their families, and medical staff. End-of-life doulas also help addressing practical matters.


One of the key roles of an end-of-life doula is to provide emotional and psychological support, acknowledging the fears and anxieties that often accompany the final chapter of life. In a society that often shies away from discussing death openly, these compassionate souls encourage conversations that lead to a deeper understanding of the dying process. They offer a listening ear, a comforting presence, and a beacon of hope during what could feel the most difficult and sometimes darkest moments of life.


Holistic support for life's final chapter


At its core, the role of an end-of-life doula is to bring comfort and solace to those facing the inevitable at a time that can be fraught with uncertainty. It is a calling that transcends the clinical aspects of healthcare, acknowledging the holistic nature of the human experience. These compassionate companions are equipped with the ability to foster open and honest conversations about death and dying, creating a safe space for individuals to share their fears, hopes, and wishes. As Soul Midwives, their mission is to foster an environment of comfort, compassion, and empowerment. While medical professionals address the physical needs, Doulas attend to the intricate tapestry of emotions, ensuring a holistic and dignified transition.


End-of-life doulas embrace the spiritual aspect of the dying process. They honour the diverse beliefs and values of each individual, providing guidance and rituals that align with their spiritual journey.


This holistic approach aims to create a sense of peace and fulfilment, ensuring that the final moments are filled with love and meaning.


A beacon of compassion in the dark


Often, discussions about death and dying are shrouded in silence. End of life doulas illuminate this challenging path with compassion. They create safe spaces for conversations, allowing individuals and their families to openly discuss fears, hopes, and dreams. This compassionate dialogue becomes a powerful source of comfort and healing.


Bridging the gap


End of Life Doulas are the missing link in the intricate web of patient care, connecting patients, their families, and medical staff in a seamless dance of understanding. In a world where medical procedures can sometimes eclipse the human touch, end-of-life doulas provide a bridge, fostering communication, and ensuring that every aspect of a person's well-being is acknowledged. In many ways, end-of-life doulas act as the advocates for the wishes of the dying. They empower individuals to take control of their narrative, ensuring that their last days are lived on their terms and to the fullest. By fostering open communication between patients, families, and medical professionals, these compassionate companions enhance the quality of care and bring a human touch to the often-clinical landscape of end-of-life experiences.


It is also important to mention that nowadays, it is quite common for family members to live far away from each other and in this case end-of-life doulas can definitely bridge the gap and be present to help people in their final stages of life. People nearing the end of life are still alive and deserve to make the most of their final moments. Working with an end-of-life doula will also bring comfort to the family members who do not have the possibility to care for their loved ones nearing their final moments. 


Practical matters with a tender touch


Imagine having someone by your side who not only understands the intricacies of the human soul but also possesses the wisdom to address the practicalities of the final journey. End-of-life doulas seamlessly blend empathy with practicality, helping families navigate the complexities of paperwork, legalities, and funeral arrangements. This unique skill set makes them an invaluable bridge between patients, their loved ones, and the medical community. End-of-life doulas ensure that the journey is not only emotionally enriching but also logistically manageable.


Embracing life's final act


In the hands of an end-of-life Doula, the final act of life becomes a poignant celebration. By addressing the multifaceted needs of individuals and their families, they weave a narrative of understanding, love, and acceptance. It's about empowering people to express their wishes, fostering connections, and leaving behind a legacy of compassion.


Final words


In a world that often shies away from discussions about death, end-of-life Doulas emerge as beacons of light. 


In embracing the profound role of end-of-life doulas, we are reminded that death is not merely an end but a transition, a journey that deserves to be traversed with dignity, compassion, and understanding. 


As end-of-life doulas continue to bridge the gap between the practical and the profound, they inspire a paradigm shift in our approach to death and dying – one that celebrates the beauty of a life well-lived and honours the sanctity of the final journey.


The role of end-of-life doulas is a very important one, and even though the concept is still quite unfamiliar to many, there are more and more end-of-life doulas being trained worldwide and I do hope that they gain the status they deserve and get recognition for the wonderful work they do for people reaching the final stages of life and their loved ones. 


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Nadija Bajrami, Senior Level Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

French by birth, Nadija lived in Scotland for 7 years and travelled the world. After recovering from some serious health issues, Nadija had a wake-up call and came to Ireland to find her path. She has been living in Dublin since 2017. Nadija is working mostly online worldwide and shares her time between Ireland, France, and Switzerland.


Nadija is a multi-award-winning trauma and empowerment specialist and holds a double diploma in Hypnotherapy, Mind Coaching, and online therapy. She is also a Reiki master as well as a grief educator and trained with the international grief specialist and best-selling author David Kessler.


She is dedicated to helping her clients get empowered, supercharge their confidence and self-esteem, overcome their limiting beliefs as well as manage anxiety, and symptoms of traumatic experiences and help people on their grief and healing journey through her therapy, coaching, grief education and support programmes and spiritual work.

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