The Power of the Vulnerability Seat
- Brainz Magazine
- Nov 4
- 3 min read
Updated: Nov 6
April Wazny specializes in trauma-informed, evidence-based therapy. Passionate about helping others heal, she works alongside individuals and families to process generational trauma and build lasting emotional resilience.
When I think about vulnerability, I’m struck by how differently I see it now compared to how I once understood it. Vulnerability used to feel like weakness, something to hide or avoid. But now, I see it as a doorway to authenticity. To be vulnerable is to embrace our true selves, our quirks, our odd habits, and our unique ways of being shaped by life’s journey. That may sound scary, and at times it is. I’ve had many moments when I questioned my own quirks, my value, even my sanity. Yet I’ve also discovered that when I stop holding back and allow myself to simply be me, I feel lighter, freer, and more alive.
In therapy, sitting in what I call the “vulnerability seat” can feel intimidating. It is a place where people confront their stories, their pain, and their truth. But it is also a place of possibility, encouraging, freeing, and even life-giving. Living authentically means examining the good, the bad, and the uncomfortable parts of our journey, and then allowing ourselves to feel so that we can heal. It is never easy. Vulnerability can challenge us, stretch us, and make us question our courage. But it can also reveal our resilience, our strength, and the beauty we carry.
As a therapist, I’m reminded daily that anyone who walks into my office is already brave, whether they realize it or not. Taking a seat and opening up is an act of courage. Sharing our stories creates connection and transformation. My role is to hold that sacred space, to listen deeply, and to encourage growth. It is a privilege I don’t take lightly, because in that space clients feel truly seen, heard, and valued.
My role is to hold that sacred space, to listen deeply, and to encourage growth. Vulnerability does not just happen in therapy offices. It can happen in your home, by choosing to share your truth with those you love. It can happen in your workplace, by speaking up when something matters to you. It can happen in your art, your relationships, and even in small everyday moments when you let yourself be seen. Choosing vulnerability is choosing connection.
Vulnerability is not weakness, it is courage. It is a quiet strength that opens the door to healing, growth, and deeper human connection. As Brené Brown so beautifully reminds us, “Vulnerability is not winning or losing, it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.”
So, if you or someone you know is stepping into therapy, choosing to take the “vulnerability seat,” know this, it is not easy, but it is powerful. And perhaps the greatest gift you can give yourself is the courage to sit there, fully and authentically, and let yourself be seen.
I invite you to consider, where in your life could you take the “vulnerability seat”? What would change if you let yourself be truly seen?
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April Wazny, LCPC, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor
April Wazny is a trauma-informed therapist and founder of Winora’s Hope Counseling. She’s passionate about walking alongside those who are hurting, helping individuals and families heal from generational trauma and reclaim their wholeness. Currently pursuing a Ph.D. in Social Psychology at Liberty University, April’s work explores the lasting impact of inherited trauma and the power of safe, compassionate connection in the healing process. Through both her writing and clinical work, she creates space for people to feel seen, supported, and empowered in their journey.
References:
Brown, B. (2012). Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Gotham Books.
