The Most Overlooked Leadership Skill We Rarely Acknowledge
- Brainz Magazine
- Feb 2
- 4 min read
Sabrina Patricia Klaubert, founder of She Rising, is building sustainable female leadership pipelines, equipping organizations with future-ready female talent.
In the world of leadership, we often celebrate qualities like decisiveness, innovation, and resilience. But there's one skill that quietly underpins them all, a skill rarely named and often overlooked. Without it, even the most talented leaders struggle to sustain their success.
One day, I received an email outlining a beautiful vision: a multi-day, in-person leadership development program. The client described flying me in, creating immersive sessions, and delivering transformative impact on-site. It was exciting and inspiring. We exchanged numerous emails, and I submitted a detailed proposal aligning with their grand vision. They were thrilled, and everything seemed to be moving forward until they went radio silent.
For three months, I heard nothing; no response to follow-ups, no updates, just silence. By that point, I had given up on the project, assuming it was no longer a priority. Then, out of the blue, they reached out to revive the discussion, and the project eventually came to life.
This scenario is not uncommon. Potential clients often begin with enthusiasm and big ideas, only to disappear for weeks or months. Sometimes they return; sometimes they don't. Navigating these uncertainties requires a skill often underappreciated: frustration tolerance.
What is frustration tolerance?
Frustration tolerance is the ability to manage and navigate setbacks, delays, and obstacles without losing focus or motivation. It's about staying grounded and purposeful, even when immediate results aren't what you hoped for.
According to psychological definitions, frustration tolerance involves the capacity to endure discomfort, regulate emotional responses, and maintain forward momentum in the face of challenges. In leadership, this skill is a cornerstone of long-term success.
Why frustration tolerance matters in leadership
In today's fast-paced, results-driven world, the ability to handle frustration is often undervalued. Many of us are conditioned to expect instant results, whether it's food delivery, social media engagement, or professional milestones. However, leadership and entrepreneurship require a different mindset; they demand a willingness to invest time, effort, and energy without immediate validation or rewards.
Frustration tolerance allows leaders to:
Stay grounded in uncertainty: When the outcome of your efforts isn't immediately clear, frustration tolerance helps maintain focus and composure.
Navigate emotional discomfort: Frustration can create a cascade of emotions, such as doubt, anger, and discouragement. Developing this skill means learning to process these feelings without being derailed.
Connect to your why: Staying anchored in your purpose and vision is key. When setbacks arise, reconnecting with the deeper reason behind your work can reignite motivation and provide the perspective needed to keep moving forward.
How to cultivate frustration tolerance
Building frustration tolerance isn't about suppressing emotions or "powering through." It's about developing tools and practices to navigate discomfort effectively. Here are some strategies:
Emotional regulation: Use mindfulness to regulate emotions and process frustration effectively. Practices like grounding techniques, gentle breathwork, and somatic experiences can help move energy through your body and restore balance when challenges arise.
Energy management: Prioritize rest, set boundaries, and create space to recharge. Leadership and entrepreneurship are marathons, not sprints. Honoring your energy ensures you're better equipped to handle frustration and maintain the stamina needed for long-term success.
Do 'hard things': Train your frustration tolerance by pursuing goals outside of leadership or entrepreneurship that don't offer instant gratification. Engage in activities like committing to a fitness routine, learning a new skill, or exploring a challenging hobby. For example, going to the gym teaches discipline, patience, and the value of incremental progress. These experiences build resilience and reinforce frustration tolerance as a transferable skill.
What makes this skill essential for the future of leadership
Frustration tolerance is the unsung hero of leadership. It allows leaders to endure the discomfort of building something meaningful without giving up. This skill is especially critical in today's entrepreneurial landscape, where instant gratification is often emphasized over the realities of sustained effort.
Developing frustration tolerance means being willing to:
Embrace delayed gratification.
Invest in long-term growth over quick wins.
Stay committed to your vision, even without external validation.
This isn't easy, but it's necessary. Frustration tolerance isn't just about enduring challenges; it's about transforming them into opportunities for growth and alignment.
Reflection prompt
What’s one strategy you can use to build frustration tolerance in your leadership journey? Share your thoughts, and let’s learn from each other.
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Sabrina Klaubert, Entrepreneur, Women’s Coach & Mentor
Sabrina Patricia Klaubert is a visionary entrepreneur and the founder of She Rising, a Talent & Leadership Accelerator designed to fuel female advancement in organizations worldwide. A Copenhagen Business School graduate with leadership training from Harvard, Sabrina partners with HR leaders to create resilient, inclusive pathways to leadership. Through her expertise in transformational coaching and mindfulness, she shapes the next generation of female leaders who drive impact and innovation.
