The Most Crucial Skill To Achieve Success
- Mar 7, 2023
- 3 min read
Written by: Lainne Love, Executive Contributor
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People often come to me for coaching because they want something more. Something bigger and better on the business side of life. They are entrepreneurs who want to innovate, disrupt, build their legacy, and make more money, or professionals who want to rise and lead in their fields, wishing for more career success and a more impactful sense of contribution. When we sit down and assess how to achieve those things and what obstacles are in their way, it turns out that the things holding them back are not directly related to the business or professional side of life.
We need to address some aspects of self-mastery, which I define as; the willingness and ability to commit to yourself, to improve every day, to meet challenges with intention, to analyze, and reflect on your thoughts and deeds, to direct your mind, to keep going ‒ no matter what hits you, to be better every day.
Self-mastery is a lifestyle in its relentless pursuit of the constantly evolving better version of you. It requires taking responsibility for everything that shows up in your life. Discipline, practice, contemplation, growth, on repeat.
If there is one message I can isolate both from my work with clients and my own experience working full-time, single parenting a neurodivergent child, building a successful coaching business, authoring books, and furthering my education, all while being a kickass human, it is that self-mastery is the single most crucial skill for anyone who wants to achieve more of their professional goals.
There are three reasons why self-mastery tends to come up in business life coaching. First, there can be a disconnect in the person’s vision for their business life. We always start by talking about that vision: what is the goal? What is the mission driving them in their work? What do they want out of the professional side of life? Our conversation frequently shows that the person has some ambition but isn’t allowing themselves to think big enough. Or that they’re too afraid to go bigger. Or, they think they’re asking for too much. So job one is to gain clarity on the ambition and do some healing—or, as I think of it, restoration ‒ on the person’s idea of themselves.
The second way that self-mastery comes up in business life coaching is that there can be a disconnect between the person’s vision for their professional path and the rest of their life. They are often unsure how to make their business vision work with the other aspects of their life. It might be that they do not fit their business life well into the whole package of their life. You don’t have a business life cut off from the other aspects of your life—sometimes, we might imagine that we do. But taking care of our bodies (exercise, eating well), parenting, and relationships—all aspects of the same life. They draw on the same body, mind, time, and energy. So we need to put all those things together in a way that creates harmony. That certainly involves self-mastery.
And thirdly, there is always a link between our business lives and self-mastery when we pursue greater ambitions because when you want bigger things in your business life, they will demand bigger things from you. And those increased demands will impact all aspects of your life. You need to make sure that you can handle that. That’s where self-mastery comes into play.
On the business side of life, self-mastery looks like this: your work life is a conscious and satisfying choice. You have clarity about where you’re going in your work life and confidence in how to get there. You are running your professional life instead of it running you.
My message is to encourage everyone wanting to achieve success with a gap between their ambition and reality to consciously build up their self-mastery skills. I have studied and applied many tools to my life that build self-mastery and taught my clients to do the same thing. None of us has regretted it—and neither will you.
Lainne Love, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Lainne Love, is an Award Winning Intuitive Business Coach & Author, Leading Edge Healer, CEO, Mystic, and Momma. Growing up in a toxic environment left her feeling broken, worthless, and powerless. To overcome her limited beliefs and create a new legacy, Lainne did a deep dive into healing and mastery to uncover how to restore her power that felt lost in the chaos of trauma. Now she inspires others to break free through self-mastery so they too can reclaim their power and birth the legacy they are here to deliver.
