The Gate Was Never Locked – They Just Needed to Know They Could Walk Through It
- Brainz Magazine
- 3 hours ago
- 4 min read
Danielle McKinon, Founder of Eat Sleep Ride, a rural-based charity in Scotland, and a certified Equine Leadership Coach. Part of the global TeachingHorse network, Danielle applies the Diamond Model of Shared Leadership to help individuals and teams lead with confidence through uncertainty.
A quiet moment brushing a pony, the rustle of wind in the trees, the muffled snort of a horse breathing gently over my shoulder, this is why I didn’t give up. These are the moments that anchor me when the world feels too loud, too fast, too broken. They’re the reason Eat Sleep Ride exists.
The breaking point
There’s been more than one. But the lowest? It wasn’t a dramatic collapse. It was the slow erosion of belief. I remember sitting in a homeless hostel, years ago, after all my training, BHS, NLP, riding the Genghis Khan trail, learning with the French School of Lightness. I had skills. I had passion. And yet, I had no home, no income, and behaviours that hurt me more than helped. I didn’t see a future. I didn’t see myself.
The system wasn’t made for people like me, neurodiverse, non-traditional, unpolished. I had spent so long trying to fit in, to contort myself into spaces that didn’t welcome difference, that I lost the thread of why I started. That’s what nearly broke me.
The turning point
But there was always the horse. Always Ace, my heart horse. I first met her on the Isle of Bute. She was considered “untrainable.” Others walked away, but I saw something in her: a fight I recognised. A spirit I had, too. That partnership became a mirror, a lifeline. And when my goddaughter came into my life, a girl navigating grief, self-harm, and exclusion, it was the horses who held us both steady. Her mum had helped me build Eat Sleep Ride from the ground up, and when she passed from cancer, the only thing I could do was keep going. For her. For her daughter. For all of us.
What we've built since
Eat Sleep Ride has never been just a riding school. It’s a sanctuary. A recovery plan in motion. A place where people who don’t fit the mould can come to heal, learn, and lead. We’ve supported women with cancer who just wanted to feel seen. Young people with trauma who’d stopped speaking. A woman with early-onset Parkinson’s who reconnected through the scent of the horses. We’ve held sessions for over 300 young people, launched the Empower Her programme, partnered with justice services, and brought refugee families into nature for the first time since arriving in Scotland.
What I see constantly through our programmes is the quiet emergence of emotional resilience and empathy. I remember once during a session, someone asked, “What do I do if I want to walk?” and I said, “Move your feet.” They asked, “What if I want to stop?” and I said, “Then stop your feet.” That’s the clarity horses give us.
One man from Yemen told us our refugee event was the most welcomed he'd felt since arriving in the UK. A participant at our leadership day said, “We came as strangers and left as a community.” The most anxious woman in the group stood up first to lead the horse. These are the moments that prove the work.
Every time things get tough, I look into the eyes of the horses or the people, and I see the change that could be, the legacy that’s already forming.
We run off-grid, surrounded by hills and sea. We grow our own food. We rescue horses that others give up on. And we invite people to sit in stillness, to notice, reflect, and connect. The healing is mutual.
Our team includes global specialists in neurodiversity, trauma, and leadership. Coaches like Midi Fairgrieve, Kat Terry-Sharp, Morgan Ridenhour, and Riyami help shape our work. Lizzie Rasponi, a leadership coach transforming the equine industry from the inside, and Loretta Windsor, a consultant in neurodiversity and nature-based coaching, round out our core team. We are a teaching network, a movement, a herd.
What horses teach us about leadership
They don’t lie. They don’t care about your title. They care about presence, trust, and consistency. You can’t hide with horses. You have to be congruent to lead from your centre. The leadership they model is shared, fluid, and relational. One leads, another rests. The roles change depending on the needs of the moment.
That’s what we teach. That’s what we live.
A message to other changemakers
You’ll want to give up. More than once. You’ll think the system isn’t built for people like you, and you’ll be right. But systems don’t change us. We change systems.
Start small. Feed one person. Help one horse. Plant one seed. Stay in your lane of magic. And when you can’t hold it all alone, remember: the gate was never locked. You just needed to know you could walk through it.
Closing with hope
The laughter of young people, the rhythm of hooves on the trail, and the garden we planted from nothing, now in full bloom, this is the life we built from the edge. From broken pieces. From belief.
This is why I didn’t quit.
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Danielle McKinnon, Equine Leadership Facilitator/ Social Entrepreneur
Danielle McKinnon is the founder of Eat Sleep Ride | Social Enterprise in Scotland, a rural charity using horses, nature, and coaching to support disadvantaged and neurodiverse young people. She is a qualified equine-facilitated learning practitioner, coach, and licensed facilitator of shared leadership, working locally and globally to build brave spaces for change. Her work is rooted in lived experience, community care, and the wisdom of the herd.
To explore Danielle's leadership programmes, visit the Leadership at Eat Sleep Ride page at Equine Assisted Personal & Professional Development
