The Challenges of Motherhood and Creativity & The Struggle of Single Moms Pursuing Their Passions
- Brainz Magazine
- Feb 24
- 3 min read
Danijah is a Brand Identity Strategist, Publisher, and Creative Director specializing in helping businesses craft impactful branding and marketing strategies. As the founder of a newspaper highlighting independent businesses, she empowers entrepreneurs with innovative branding solutions and visibility opportunities.
Motherhood and creativity, two forces that often feel like they belong to entirely different worlds. One demands presence, patience, and consistency, while the other thrives on spontaneity, freedom, and boundless energy. Trying to balance creativity with parenting feels like walking a tightrope, each step a tug-of-war between duty and passion. And when you're a single mother raising a child alone, that rope can feel impossibly thin.
I’ve learned that being a mother and an artist is not just tough; it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. My creativity and my child don’t mix. In fact, there are days when it feels like my creativity doesn’t like my child. Maybe that’s a hard truth to admit, but it’s an honest one. It’s as if the one thing I’ve created, my daughter, somehow stops all my other creations in their tracks.
There are days when I sit in my workspace, staring at blank pages or unfinished projects, and the whispers of “Mama, can you?” cut through the air like a sharp blade. It’s not her fault, she’s just being a child, full of curiosity and need. But in those moments, I feel torn between two people: the Mama who will do anything to nurture her and the Me who just wants a few uninterrupted hours to nurture myself and my art.
Sometimes, I feel like I’ve failed her. She deserves a team, a village, but it’s just me. And in those moments, the weight of single motherhood feels overwhelming. I never knew the love of an emotionally available mother, yet I’ve birthed the most emotionally available child. The irony isn’t lost on me. There are nights I wonder if I’m enough for her, if I’ve already let her down by not being everything she deserves.
My creativity feels the sting, too. It carried me through pregnancy, giving me a sense of security and purpose. It told me we’d always be okay, no matter what. But now, I see the strain. My creativity has become the invisible glue holding our life together, paying the rent, putting food on the table, but it doesn’t get the time or care it deserves anymore. And it shows.
Yet there’s a delicate, fragile beauty in this tug-of-war. Little by little, I’ve learned how to honor both sides of myself. I’ve found small moments where my creativity can breathe and my daughter feels loved. It’s not perfect, far from it, but it’s something.
To every single mother pursuing her dreams who feels like her aspirations have been put on hold or pushed aside, I see you. To every artist who feels stifled by the demands of motherhood, I see you, too. This journey isn’t easy, but it’s possible.
Some days, it’s about finding the smallest victory, a quick sketch while your child naps, or a late-night brainstorming session after bedtime. Other days, it’s about surrendering to the chaos and trusting that your creativity will wait for you, even if it doesn’t feel that way in the moment.
I don’t have all the answers. I’m still figuring it out myself. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: you don’t have to choose between being a mother and being an artist. It’s okay to be torn, to feel like you’re falling short, to grieve the life you imagined while embracing the one you’re living. Just don’t stop.
Motherhood doesn’t have to be the end of your creativity. It can be the beginning of a deeper, more honest version of it, one that isn’t perfect but is profoundly real. And sometimes, real is enough.
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Danijah Colas, Publisher & Brand Identity Expert
Danijah is a Brand Identity Strategist, Publisher, and Creative Director passionate about helping entrepreneurs build impactful brands. She is the founder of an independent business-focused newspaper, where she spotlights small businesses, creative entrepreneurs, and innovative products. Through strategic branding, marketing, and storytelling, Danijah helps businesses elevate their visibility and connect with their audiences. She also leads workshops, consults on brand strategy, and creates engaging content to empower entrepreneurs in standing out in their industries.
