Six Mindset Tips to Reinvent Yourself Beyond Forty
- Brainz Magazine
- 7 days ago
- 8 min read
Dr. Tanya Hames is a certified Hypnotherapist and Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) Therapist. RTT was created by the internationally renowned hypnotherapist, Marisa Peer. Dr. Tanya Hames empowers clients in Guernsey, the Channel Isles, and worldwide by Zoom to conquer their limiting beliefs in order to transform their lives.
Do you believe that transformation is only possible in youth? I was surprised to find that some clients would sigh and say in a resigned way, “I’m just getting old”, as justification for why they wouldn’t set out to achieve a goal. It might sound like a perfectly harmless comment, a statement of fact, but this simple phrase was gradually diminishing their options in life.
And what if the underlying limiting belief that transformation is only possible in youth is simply not true anyway? A made-up story. Formulated from past events. Conditioned by family, media, and environment?
Did you know that the average age of a successful entrepreneur is 45, not 25? Did you know that female entrepreneurs’ chances of success are higher in later life?
That’s why I always show my clients how midlife transformation is possible. The science of self-renewal illustrates that it’s never too late to rewire the subconscious mind and transform your life.
A great way to start your best season yet, regardless of your age, is to harness the power of hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy, after all, has a 93% success rate after just six sessions, according to UCLA psychologist, Dr. Barrios. It’s the “go-to” for many celebrities, CEOs, and top athletes who realise its effectiveness, given that 95% of life is controlled by the subconscious mind, whereas only 5% by the conscious mind. These savvy individuals know that working in the subconscious mind is powerful beyond measure and transforms their thinking.
My work includes many clients over 40 years old, who have overcome their limiting beliefs about their age using a form of hypnotherapy called Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT). It was created by the renowned hypnotherapist Marisa Peer. This form of hypnotherapy is different from normal hypnotherapy in that it goes back to the root cause of the limiting beliefs that are holding individuals back. It rewires these quickly and effectively, typically in just two sessions.
It’s never too late to start your best season yet. You just need to take a deep dive into your subconscious mind. Don’t be held back by an essentially meaningless number. Your life is precious. Make this the day you start to create a wonderful new reality using the power of your subconscious mind.
Whether you are an individual in your prime with a grandiose career plan or a bold, long-held ambition, or simply want to live a more meaningful, satisfying, and intentional life, here are six practical mindset tips that might help you on your journey of reinvention as you transform your life.
Tip 1: Commit to showing up
It’s your life, it’s your story, why not make it a good one, regardless of your age? Show up in the very best energy every day, always. Wear your best outfits, your fancy jewellery, whatever you like. Do not conform to others’ reality. Don’t shrink into the background because of your age. Don’t save things for later. Later is now.
Live in the present. There is nothing more refreshing than coming across an older person in the office or at a party who lives an exciting and vibrant life against a background of deep experience, wisdom, and knowledge. Contrast that with the older person in the office or at the party, boring everyone with their perceived past regrets and mistakes, saying things like:
“I should have written that book twenty years ago, but I didn’t, because I was worried no one would like it.”
“I should have changed careers ten years ago, but now I am definitely too old.”
Don’t be that type of older person demonstrating that they are over the hill, washed up, obsolete, worn out, yesterday’s news. Make a commitment right now to living a fuller, more empowering life by expanding into the energy in the here and now. Talk about your plans and goals as if you were a twenty-year-old. Age is nothing more than a number.
Set your goals, move the dial every day, and take risks, regardless of your age. Your time is now.
Tip 2: Identify and reframe limiting beliefs
“You make your beliefs and then your beliefs make you” – Marisa Peer.
Do you have limiting beliefs about your age lurking in the shadows of your subconscious mind?
Firstly, identify the critical negative belief that is spinning around in your mind. For example, maybe you have a thought that you are too old to apply for a dream position, thinking that a younger person would be more suitable.
Secondly, stop for a moment and ask yourself, “Is this really true?” Reflect on why you don’t think you are good enough. Think about it. Have you created another made-up story that younger people are more deserving than you?
Thirdly, say out loud, “No, that is not my reality. Cancel, cancel.” Finally, replace that negative thought with a bold, powerful truth that lifts you higher and reframes and recodes your limiting belief.
“I am a phenomenal professional, with amazing content knowledge built up over many years. I am just as good if not better than any younger individual.”
Keep repeating this type of positive affirmation until it becomes your reality. Start recoding, rewiring and reframing any limiting beliefs about age, and see how you start to truly thrive. Jot down your limiting beliefs every day as they pop up for about seven days. Reframe them immediately with a better thought. See how your reality changes.
Start shattering every “I can’t”. Your best chapter starts today.
Tip 3: Start thinking better thoughts and speaking better words
Did you know that the word Abracadabra means “I create as I speak”?
Every word you say affects your reality. Start making your thoughts positive instructions to your mind, regardless of your age. You have already made a commitment to reframing negative beliefs.
Choose thoughts and words that empower, inspire, and fuel your dreams. Stop opting out by saying, “It’s just my age”, creating false narratives that your needs and wants are not available to people your age.
Once you make a habit of thinking better thoughts and speaking better words, you will see that midlife breakthroughs are possible as you create a more positive reality. One of my eldest clients in Guernsey, who is incredibly sprightly and runs several businesses, starts every morning saying, “Great things happen to me today.”
As Shakespeare wrote:
“There’s nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so” – Hamlet.
Start making your thoughts positive instructions to your mind today. Jot down and track your positive thoughts and comments for around seven days and see how your reality changes for the better.
Tip 4: Believe you are good enough
This is one of Marisa Peer’s powerful insights as Founder of the I Am Enough Movement.
Firstly, write I am good enough on mirrors, on screen savers, anywhere and everywhere. Start believing it. Start saying it repeatedly. It might sound cheesy to begin with, and you may feel self-conscious as you say it, but it is fundamentally important to say it.
Secondly, write four powerful statements about yourself:
“I am a wonderfully experienced manager.”
“I am a phenomenally loving parent.”
“I am an incredibly energetic person.”
“I am a fabulously kind person.”
Keep saying these statements out loud, too. Use incredibly powerful and descriptive language.
You see, you can’t be put down, rejected, diminished, or ignored by others when you know you are enough. Others will pick up on your energy. You interact so differently when you know you are enough.
It’s time to own your enoughness. What does it feel like? What does it look like? How do you look after yourself when you know you are enough?
You expand into a better life when you know you are enough. People just start to take notice of you and sit up in your presence. Fix the feeling of not being good enough inside instead of relying on external validation from others.
Always remember, you weren’t born thinking you were not good enough. You were taught, shown, or subtly conditioned to believe it. Start focusing on being enough every day and jot down how your energy changes over seven days.
Tip 5: Develop an abundant mindset
According to Dr. Joe Vitale, people think about 60,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day. Most of them are the same as the day before. They include doubts, worries, negativity, and inner criticism. Do you really believe that adding one positive thought into your sea of negativity is going to help you manifest your dreams? As Wayne Dyer said, “You don’t manifest what you want, you manifest who you are.”
Firstly, think about money and write down your limiting beliefs about it.
“People won’t like me if I am too wealthy.”
“Rich people are not kind.”
Secondly, now write the affirmations that oppose those limiting beliefs.
“If I am wealthy, I can make a positive difference to society with my money.”
“Many rich people are generous and philanthropic.”
Make sure that you are cultivating an abundant mindset every day. Don’t let your mind think with a lack mindset. Create your reality that abundance is in the infinite. There is always more than enough available.
Make a list of what abundance means for you and start cultivating it every day.
Tip 6: Do not accept others’ reality
Anything is possible, whatever your age. Who you are is entirely limited by who you think you are, as the Egyptian Book of the Dead pointed out. After all, Louise Hay was 58 years old when she started Hay House and published You Can Heal Your Life, which went on to sell 50 million copies worldwide. There is no age limit on success.
So, if someone pours cold water on your great new idea, just say, “No, that is not my reality. Cancel, cancel.” Make sure you are never incorporating others’ limiting beliefs into your reality.
To conclude, it’s never too late to transform your life. Perfect Mindset exists to help you rewrite your script and change your story. You have a choice to get outside your comfort zone and make progress or shrink into inertia.
Let’s work together to get to the root cause of your issue and help your subconscious mind accept new dynamic ideas, thought patterns, and models of reality. Always remember that happiness is your true birthright, regardless of age. Renewal and reinvention are always attainable.
Don’t let your subconscious mind be your biggest downfall. Make it your greatest asset. It’s time for you to create your legacy. Book in for a complimentary discovery call with Dr. Tanya Hames of Perfect Mindset.
“I’m not interested in buzzwords. I am interested in great results.”
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Dr. Tanya Hames, Rapid Transformational Therapist
Dr. Tanya Hames is a certified Hypnotherapist and Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) Therapist. RTT was created by the award-winning, internationally renowned Hypnotherapist, Marisa Peer. Dr. Tanya Hames is registered with the General Hypnotherapy Register and the International Association of Counselors and Therapists. Her background includes a doctoral thesis on motivation and mindset, years as an Analyst in Singapore creating groundbreaking educational programmes, and presenting at international research conferences. Dr. Tanya Hames helps clients rewire subconscious blocks to transform their lives, both personally and professionally.
