Regulate to Rise – How Attachment and the Nervous System Shape Career Success
- Brainz Magazine
- Nov 3
- 5 min read
Sogol Johnson is an award-winning experience designer who left her Fortune 500 career on a mission to break generational cycles of trauma for the next generation. Founder of the Cycle Breakers Lab, Author of Wiggles McGee – The Magic Within, is an educator and somatic practitioner empowering individuals to reset and rewire their nervous system in order to thrive instead of survive.
What if the real key to thriving at work is not about working harder, but learning how to regulate our nervous system? Success has long been measured by how much we can push, produce, and perform. In my practice, I have been noticing a growing number of limiting beliefs being voiced by everyone from C-suite executives to managers and entrepreneurs. Once we unpack and explore these beliefs more deeply, the realization that many of them stem from nervous system wiring, attachment trauma, and long-standing survival mechanisms is the kind of goosebump material that changes everything. It reveals how deeply our inner world influences our professional world.
Why your nervous system is your career engine
Every challenge at work, from conflict avoidance to overworking, can trace its roots to the nervous system. These patterns are not flaws in discipline or drive, but survival strategies learned long ago. By understanding this connection, we can begin to see how rewiring our nervous system supports clarity, creativity, and confidence at work.
Behind every challenge at work, whether it is avoiding conflict, overworking, struggling to say no, or freezing up in meetings, there is something deeper at play. These behaviors are not flaws in discipline or drive. They are survival patterns shaped by our nervous system and attachment history.
Our bodies learn to adapt early on. If you grew up needing to earn approval, you might overperform or people-please. If speaking up once led to rejection, your nervous system may still equate self-advocacy with danger. These unconscious coping mechanisms follow us into our careers, influencing how we negotiate, lead, and respond to stress.
When we operate from a constant fight, flight, freeze, or fawn state, our nervous system stays on high alert. This limits creativity, focus, and confidence. I have so many individuals ask me why they freeze and cannot respond to their bosses, or why they cannot let go of control and do not like micromanaging. The truth is we are wired to do so. We repeat the same relational dynamics at work that once helped us survive but now keep us stuck.
The problem with traditional professional development
Corporate culture celebrates performance over presence. I remember when I was in corporate America, performing but struggling with being truly present. Senior directors would often ask me to write up emails, reviews, and schedule endless meetings, tasks I did without questioning their purpose. The people pleaser in me kept saying yes with a smile, even when I felt disconnected. I was a dedicated but disconnected professional who had become a busy worker, and I was not alone. The rest of the fifty or so team members in my department were doing the same, performing instead of being present. The worst part was that I was in leadership, setting this example.
Corporate, or even startups for that matter, often teach tactile communication skills and productivity systems but ignore the physiological foundation of success, the nervous system itself.
Without regulation, no amount of strategy or mindset work can stick. Burnout, imposter syndrome, and emotional fatigue are symptoms of a body that no longer feels safe enough to grow.
Modern professionals do not need another productivity framework. Research from the Harvard Business Review and the American Psychological Association has shown that while productivity systems like the Eisenhower Matrix and OKR frameworks improve short-term efficiency, they do little to address long-term well-being and sustainable focus. What most professionals truly need is a regulation framework that targets the root of performance, safety, self-trust, and emotional balance. This approach focuses on regulating the nervous system through consistent practices such as mindfulness, coaching, and breathwork, which have been proven to enhance both productivity and emotional resilience.
Before we can create meaningful change, it helps to pause and recognize that every pattern begins with awareness. Reflecting on the nervous system's role in our professional lives is the first step. Once we see how stress shapes our reactions, we can begin to understand how to move from awareness into practice, transforming insight into new patterns of behavior.
From survival to strategy
We can all learn to move from reaction to regulation. Just like building physical strength, emotional resilience develops through daily repetition and intentional practice. Through affirmations, somatic therapy, coaching, meditation, and breathwork, we begin to rewire the nervous system to feel safe enough to respond instead of react. These are learned behaviors stored in the body, not fixed traits. This work reminds us that how we cope is not who we are, it is simply what we learned, and what can be relearned with awareness and practice.
Using evidence-based somatic practices, trauma-informed coaching, and attachment science, participants learn to:
Recognize and rewire old coping patterns that block confidence or assertiveness.
Respond calmly under pressure instead of reacting impulsively.
Access clear thinking and presence during high-stakes moments.
Build internal safety so growth no longer triggers old fears of failure or rejection.
Final thought
The realization that so many of our professional habits stem from nervous system wiring and old survival mechanisms was goosebump material for me. It shifted everything I thought I knew about success and performance, revealing that transformation begins within our biology and self-awareness.
Imagine a world where executives train their nervous systems the same way they train for marathons. Where burnout is replaced by emotional agility. Where leadership begins not with authority, but with co-regulation. Instead of co-workers we would have co-regulators.
In this world, emotional awareness becomes the new intelligence, and mindfulness is not a luxury but a leadership skill. Teams would thrive because they feel safe enough to innovate and communicate openly. Workplaces would prioritize nervous system health alongside performance reviews, fostering genuine engagement instead of exhaustion.
My wish as an ACC and trauma coach is to see a future where emotional regulation becomes second nature for professionals. I hope to help create that world one person at a time, showing that true success is not measured by constant output but by presence, balance, and calm confidence.
Sometimes the ways we show up at work stem from what we once had to do to survive. They do not need to define our identities or dictate our success.
Sogol Johnson, MA, ACC, Author and Founder of the Mental Gym Program
Sogol Johnson, an award-winning designer with a master’s in Human-Centered Design, left her Fortune 500 career as a strategist to focus on breaking the cycle of generational trauma. Now an educator, writer, and advocate for healing childhood trauma, she combines her expertise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Somatic Therapy, and trauma-informed coaching to empower parents and communities through self-parenting and healing practices.
