Press the Reset Button on New Year’s Resolutions
- Jan 13, 2021
- 4 min read
Updated: Feb 6, 2024
Written by: Marlena O´Donnell, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Traditionally, gym membership goes up in January. On average, only half of the new members keep going to the gym after 6 months. Of course, this year is unusual as gyms are closed, and we are using yoga mats, home equipment, and fitness videos instead. However, the gym membership fluctuation is just an example of how we approach New Year’s resolutions. After the festive period of indulgence and being faced with several months of cold weather and not a lot to do, we feel that we need to make changes in what we look like, how healthy we are, and how we feel. We make New Year’s resolutions, and we vow to do more fitness exercises, take up new hobbies, learn new skills, change jobs, move house, give up bad habits, and the list goes on. It all starts well at the beginning of January, and then our resolve begins to wane.
Why do most New Year’s resolutions fail?
There are various reasons why we give up. The most common ones relate to the difference in our expectations and reality.
You set unrealistic expectations.
Is it possible to learn to play the piano like a virtuoso in a couple of hours? Not really, yet we often fall into the trap of giving ourselves hard to attain goals.
Smaller achievements are better than no achievements!
Your heart is not in it.
We often think that we should please others because it’s the right thing to do or because this is what we expect from ourselves. But if we set out to do something for the reasons that do not lit up our hearts, the chances of success and satisfaction are slim.
Take losing weight as an example. If you are doing it as all your friends are slim and you no longer fit into your clothes, you may not be inspired to carry on. On the other hand, if you set out to lose weight because you want to be healthy and fit to enjoy your hobbies or time with your children, you are more likely to stick to the goal.
You don’t like the process.
There are often many ways to achieve our goals. We usually get fixated on one way rather than allowing our creativity to take over and develop a process that we enjoy. If you want to get fit but hate exercising, how about some intensive gardening or power walking or dancing around the house to your favorite music?
You lose motivation.
Most of us believe that we have to feel motivated to take action. But… you can take action even when you are not in the mood, when you feel like spending your day in bed binge-watching Netflix, when you think you have no energy to do what’s needed to get you closer to your goal.
Feeling motivated is not a prerequisite to getting things done!
Your failure sets you back.
We have good intentions, and then we slip. We may choose to go on a vegan diet, but one day the smell of a bacon sandwich is just too overwhelming, and we cannot resist it. Sometimes this one small slip weakens our resolve to carry on. After all, what’s the point? The damage is already done.
But this is not true! Past failure is not an indication of future success. You can always press the reset button and start again.
You don’t believe you have what it takes to succeed.
Most of us (even if we don’t want to admit it!) have beliefs that are not serving us well. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that we are not good enough, that we are not worthy, that we don’t have what it takes to achieve success.
Your success is determined by your actions, not by your thoughts! You are capable of much more than your thoughts let you believe.
A recipe for success.
Set goals that make you want to get out of bed every morning with excitement, don’t give up at the first hurdle, remember that a reset button is always at your disposal, small wins will get you the big win, and you are capable of much more than you think!
I’d love to know what goals you are going to create using my recipe for success! Please post your comments.
If something is holding you back, let’s talk. Remember - you are capable of achieving much more than you think!
Marlena O’Donnell, Executive Contributor, Brainz Magazine
Marlena O’Donnell is a certified life coach, mentor, and motivational speaker specializing in freeing her clients from beliefs that are not serving them well. Marlena has successfully helped many people gain an unwavering belief in themselves, confidence, motivation, and courage to go after what they want in life through individual and group coaching, mentoring, and workshops. Marlena has personal experience of overcoming significant challenges in life and succeeding against all odds. This, combined with her thorough understanding of both business matters and personal issues, puts her in a unique position to help her clients successfully navigate their way through difficulties they face in all areas of life and achieve “the unachievable.” As a motivational speaker, Marlena inspires others to make powerful and lasting changes in their life. She has been a keynote speaker at business events, online conferences, and summits.
