Out with the Old
- Brainz Magazine
- Jan 8, 2021
- 4 min read
Written by: Gina Cassano, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
As I sit here on the beach, listening to the sounds of the waves, feeling the warm breeze, and studying my mastery program, I started to think about a conversation I had last night with a friend. You see, the company she has worked at for decades recently announced that another company is acquiring it and that nothing is certain. After all the loss and grief she has experienced over the past several years, this news was yet another blow… she simply wanted to have some peace and security in her life.
With this news, the fear of the unknown of what's to come has left her overwhelmed with fear and the inability to overcome grief. Where will she go? What will she do? How will she be able to support herself without losing her home? She’ll be all alone. All of these are valid and real questions. As I sat there and listened, I noticed that much of what she was saying was negative and based on grief and fear. She felt betrayed by the company that she was loyal to for decades and terrified for the rest of her life! So now what???
After listening to her, we openly talked about the possibility of getting laid off. It was then that I suggested trying to think about this situation from a new perspective; what if this is the blessing she needs to move on with her life and get past all the grief she has felt in past years? What if this fear held her back from realizing the potential opportunities that could open up for her once she let go? I explained that although her feelings are very raw, real, and certainly justified, to move forward and accept new opportunities, she must let go of whatever she’s holding onto. Since transformation is about letting go, what must she let go of to move on truly? Let go of the idea of being comfortable and always working for the same company. What makes her so certain that this isn’t the change she needs to get past all the trauma and heartache she has experienced and begin to thrive and grow truly? What makes her so sure this isn’t a higher power closing one door and opening another for her? Then came silence…
We talked about her skills and the things that she’s inspired by and loves, such as art. That’s when she mentioned a job opening she came across, right near her home, and how she has many of the required skills and experience. Ah-ha! That’s a sign! Not only was this a well-known business, she lives in the country, and it’s very rare to find a position like this in that region. For so many people, life is not all sunshine and rainbows, but with change and letting go comes opportunity for growth…if they’re aware enough to notice.
It was like a lightbulb went off! Maybe, just maybe I’m on to something…well, then there’s hope. What if this was exactly what she needed?
While my friend was much more light-hearted by the end and grateful for our conversation, I was grateful too; to be there to show her that one door has to close for a new door to open. While the fear of uncertainty is still there, it’s significantly less, and she now has positive things to think about and even renewed hope. To me, that’s priceless.
Never give up hope on what is possible…you’re exactly where you need to be at this moment in time.
Gina Cassano, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Meet Gina Marie, certified Transformation Mastery Coach & Relationship Strategist, and Founder of MindShift Coaching Services, and TeenLife | TeenStrong. Gina dedicates her life to being a master of mindset, habit, and behavior change, first for herself, then for others. She is living her passion and dream of guiding people towards the life they desire, and most of all, deserve. Gina works with leaders who struggle with their relationships at work and home. She helps them connect and create a shared vision so they can move their business and life forward with enjoyment and ease!
As a former agile business coach, she quickly realized how being unhappy at home impacts mindset and behaviors at work. She supports leaders on creating deep and meaningful relationships so that they show up being present and focused, as the authentic leader that their team and the organization needs them to be. Gina believes that how we show up in our personal relationships affects how we show up in every aspect of our life, and vice versus. So, when things feel unsettled at home, we carry that with us, and it comes out in who we are at work, and everywhere else. One part is learning how to have successful relationships, and looking inward is the other because mastery starts within.
Gina’s Purpose: To support people on their life journey, so they say, “because of working with you, my life has improved, and I’m happier than I’ve ever been.”
Gina’s favorite quote: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou
