Misalignment or Resistance? – The Leadership Question That Separates Burnout From Breakthrough
- Brainz Magazine
- Aug 19
- 3 min read
Written by Laurie Hawkins, Leadership Advisor
Laurie Hawkins is a transformational leadership advisor and founder of Hawk Inspired, guiding high-achieving leaders to align ambition with authenticity. Blending soul, strategy, and nervous system wisdom, she helps leaders rise with purpose, power, and deep fulfillment.
In the journey of leadership, understanding the difference between misalignment and resistance is crucial. While resistance often points to growth, misalignment signals a need for change. This article guides high-achieving leaders through these challenges, helping them make decisions that foster long-term success and fulfillment.
You’ve hit a pause.
It’s not burnout. It’s not laziness. It’s not a lack of ambition.
You’re circling a decision, feeling the tension in your chest, wondering:
“Is this fear holding me back, or truth pulling me forward?”
For high-achieving leaders, this question is no longer optional; it’s foundational. When you’re building something bigger than yourself, you must learn to listen to yourself.
Because real leadership? It doesn’t come from external strategy alone.
It comes from the internal alignment that makes every move resonate.
So, let’s get to the heart of it.
Resistance: a sign you’re on the edge of expansion
Resistance is the last gatekeeper before growth. It shows up like:
Racing thoughts
Spiraling “what ifs”
Tightness in your chest
A secret knowing that this matters, even though it scares the hell out of you
Resistance is the ego panicking before a big leap. The nervous system flares up in fear of its own evolution. It’s uncomfortable, but it often points toward growth.
In fact, for most high performers I work with, resistance signals a YES beneath the fear.
They’re not out of alignment. They’re about to become someone new.
Misalignment: When you’re performing a life that no longer fits
Misalignment feels different.
There’s no activation. There’s a drain.
You’re walking the “right” path, checking all the boxes, and still… You feel hollow. Resentful.Numb.
It’s the meeting you dread. The offer that doesn’t light you up. The team you’ve outgrown.
Misalignment doesn’t ask for a leap; it asks for a pivot.
And if you don’t make it?
The cost is clarity, creativity, and confidence.
The difference lies in the body; not the mind
The brain can be deceiving. The body rarely lies.
Here’s how to tell which is showing up:
Symptom | Resistance | Misalignment |
Physical sensation | Buzzing, racing heart, tightness | Heaviness, fatigue, shutdown |
Emotional response | Fear, doubt, excitement | Resentment, apathy, low-grade dread |
Inner voice | “What if I’m not ready?” | “I just don’t want this anymore.” |
Future-self reflection | Pride and stretch | Regret and self-abandonment |
Before you push forward or walk away, ask:
If I weren’t afraid, would I say yes?
Is this fear of expansion, or truth calling me in a new direction?
What part of me is driving this decision, ego or essence?
Your answers won’t just inform your next step.
They’ll redefine how you make decisions from here on out.
Leadership isn’t about pushing; it’s about precision
We’ve been sold a version of leadership that glorifies grind and calls it courage.
But in this next evolution of leadership, the one that actually sustains you, it’s not about pushing through resistance or bypassing misalignment. It’s about knowing which is which.
That’s how you stop building things that deplete you.
That’s how you start creating things that restore you.
Because if you want longevity in your leadership, alignment is non-negotiable.
Ready to lead with truth, not templates?
This is your invitation to step off the hamster wheel and into your deepest knowing.
Join me inside The Awakened Leader newsletter: monthly real-talk on nervous system wisdom, identity evolution, and embodied leadership. You’ll get a free guide to help you tune into what alignment feels like in your body and business.
Or step fully into the work at Hawk Inspired. We blend neuroscience, strategy, and somatic awareness to help you expand your capacity without burning out.
Because the version of you who already knows?
She’s not lost. She’s waiting.
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Laurie Hawkins, Leadership Advisor
Laurie Hawkins is a transformational leadership advisor, speaker, and founder of Hawk Inspired. She helps high-achieving entrepreneurs and executives align ambition with authenticity, blending business strategy, identity work, and nervous system intelligence to fuel sustainable success. With over 30 years of experience in sales leadership and personal transformation, Laurie is known for creating powerful spaces where leaders can expand into their next evolution. She is the creator of the Wake the F Up Festival, Ready for More, and The Expansion Room, designed to support those craving a deeper, more fulfilling way to lead and live.
