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How to Use Fashion to Align Your Identity With Your Personal Brand

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Shardia O’Connor explores identity, power, leadership, and social conditioning through a values-led, critical lens.

Executive Contributor Shardia O’Connor

Fashion is rarely trivial. It is a tool of self-expression, a visual language, and a psychological lever. What we wear communicates identity, values, and confidence before a word is spoken.[1] Outfits are statements of selfhood in a world that judges quickly. Philosophically, dressing is an embodied act of integrity, a way to align outward presentation with inner truth.[2]


Woman with curly hair and long earrings poses in a dark setting. She wears a black off-shoulder dress and gazes over her shoulder.

Thawadar was born from this understanding, and from my own creative journey. As a writer and media creator, I work with words, stories, and ideas. But I also have an aesthetic, creative side, feminine, tactile, and visual. Thawadar became the outlet for this part of me, allowing me to express what I've always loved about fashion and style, the way it shapes presence, projects personality, and influences how we move through the world. For me, balance is vital, the analytical and the aesthetic, the psychological and the beautiful, the professional and the personal. Each piece of clothing becomes a canvas for identity, a bridge between the mind and the body, the seen and the felt.


Psychology confirms this instinctively understood truth. Enclothed cognition, explored by Adam and Galinsky (2012), shows that clothing influences thought and behaviour. Participants wearing a lab coat described as a doctor's coat performed better on attention tasks than those wearing the same coat described as a painter's coat. Clothing primes mindset, shapes performance, and reinforces identity. Philosophically, this mirrors ethical principles that outer actions reflect inner character.[3]


Clothing also functions as a social signal. Observers infer authority, confidence, and competence from visual cues alone.[4] In leadership and professional contexts, this is not superficial, it is strategic. Your wardrobe communicates values and intention even before you speak. From a theological perspective, Thomas Aquinas argued that virtue must be visible, moral and intellectual life cannot be hidden from the world.[5]


Historically, subcultures have used fashion to anchor identity. Punk, goth, and hip-hop styles were not trend, they were manifestos, signalling rebellion, introspection, or pride (Hebdige, 1979). Clothing created community, shaped narratives, and expressed values. Today, micro-trends, social media, and fast fashion have diluted these subcultural markers, eroding their symbolic depth and fragmenting identity.[6] What once communicated resistance, belonging, or ideology is now often commodified and shallow.


Intentional fashion becomes radical in response. Thawadar demonstrates that style can remain purposeful while aligning with personal values. Timeless design, quality craftsmanship, and deliberate selection allow wearers to project authenticity, moral clarity, and psychological coherence.[7] Fashion, in this framework, is not vanity, it is ethical self-expression, a daily practice of identity, and a way to embrace both intellect and aesthetic intuition.


Psychologically, dressing in alignment with identity boosts confidence, sharpens focus, and reinforces authority. Misalignment creates cognitive dissonance, undermining self-perception and performance.[8] Philosophically, this reflects congruence, integrity demands that outward expression mirror inner truth.[9]


In a world of fragmented identity and fleeting cultural markers, intentional dressing is resistance and stewardship of self. It communicates authenticity, strengthens presence, and navigates the tension between cultural erosion and self-definition.[10] Clothes speak before we do, and when chosen deliberately, they speak the truth of who we are.


Make your style your statement. Explore Thawadar and dress with purpose, confidence, and clarity.


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Shardia O’Connor, Cultural Consultant

Shardia O'Connor is an expert in her field of mental well-being. Her passion for creative expression was influenced by her early childhood. Born and raised in Birmingham, West Midlands, and coming from a disadvantaged background, Shardia's early life experiences built her character by teaching her empathy and compassion, which led her to a career in the social sciences. She is an award-winning columnist and the founder and host of her online media platform, Shades Of Reality. Shardia is on a global mission to empower, encourage, and educate the masses!

References:

[1] (Lennon, Johnson & Rudd, 2021)

[2] (Aristotle, 350 BCE/2009)

[3] (MacIntyre, 1981)

[4] (Aghaei et al., 2017)

[5] (Thomas Aquinas, 1274/2014)

[6] (Muggleton, 2000; Nair, 2024)

[7] (Damhorst, 1984)

[8] (Festinger, 1957)

[9] (Sartre, 1943/2007)

[10] (Lennon, Johnson & Rudd, 2021; Adam & Galinsky, 2012)


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