How To Stay Sober And Celebrate Mindfully During The Holidays
- Brainz Magazine
- Dec 2, 2024
- 5 min read
Chris Cardone, Founder of Continuous Beverage Solutions, has over 24 years of experience in hospitality. He's trained staff, consulted on openings and serves as Chief Mixologist for Via Carota Craft Cocktails. Named Bartender of the Year in 2017, Chris now judges Diageo World Class competitions and has been featured in numerous prominent outlets.
My name is Chris Cardone, and in 2015, I made a transformative decision to embrace sobriety. This choice not only reshaped my personal life but also forced me to confront insecurities in my career and relationships. Working in the hospitality industry, I faced unique challenges navigating a world centered around alcohol. Over time, these struggles fueled my passion for helping others break free from alcohol and lead healthier, more fulfilling lives. Today, I’m proud to own Continuous Beverage Solutions, a company that empowers individuals to embrace a life without alcohol, providing support and guidance to those ready to make lasting changes.
For those who are sober or in recovery, the holiday season can feel particularly challenging. The holidays are often synonymous with indulgence and socializing, and many traditions revolve around alcohol. Whether your decision to stay sober is motivated by health, personal growth, or recovery, the pressure to partake in alcohol-fueled celebrations can be overwhelming. However, embracing sobriety during the holidays isn’t about missing out on the fun—it’s about enhancing your experience and staying true to your values. With the right mindset, tools, and support, you can navigate the season with clarity, joy, and presence.
Reconnect with your “why” for sobriety
Before attending any holiday event, take a moment to reflect on why you’ve chosen sobriety. Whether you’ve quit drinking for health benefits, personal growth, or recovery, your reasons serve as the foundation of your commitment. Revisit the positive changes that sobriety has brought into your life—more energy, better relationships, or mental clarity. Keep a reminder of these reasons with you, perhaps in a phone note or journal. In moments of temptation, this simple act can help you stay grounded and focused on the bigger picture. No fleeting pressure to drink is worth sacrificing the life you’re building.
Tools and tricks for navigating alcohol-fueled events
The holiday season is often filled with events where alcohol plays a central role. Whether you’re attending family gatherings, work parties, or friendly get-togethers, having strategies in place can help you confidently navigate these situations.
Order or Bring a Non-Alcoholic Drink: It can be awkward when everyone around you is holding a drink, but having something in your hand can help you feel more at ease. Opt for a non-alcoholic beverage you enjoy, such as sparkling water with lime, or a drink from Seedlip, Lyre's, or Ritual Zero Proof. These brands offer a variety of sophisticated non-alcoholic options that are perfect for celebrating. Other options include Aplós, Töst, and Peroni 0.0.
Set Boundaries with Confidence: If someone offers you a drink, a polite but firm “No thanks, I’m not drinking today” will often suffice. You don’t need to justify your decision unless you feel comfortable doing so. The more confident you are in your choice, the more others will respect it.
Create a Distraction: When alcohol is the primary focus of an event, engage in other activities that keep you present and grounded. Help with food prep, participate in games, or have conversations with others who share your interests. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, take a short break to clear your head and reset.
Lean on your support system
The holidays can be isolating, especially if you’re around people who don’t understand or respect your sobriety. A strong support system is key to staying committed to your journey.
Attend Support Groups: Many recovery groups, like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or SMART Recovery, offer additional meetings during the holidays. These gatherings provide valuable support when you need it most.
Use Online Resources and Apps: Apps like Sober Grid, I Am Sober, and Nomo Sobriety Clocks can help you stay connected to others in recovery and track your progress.
Reach Out to a Sober Friend: Having a friend you can text or call during difficult moments can provide reassurance. Plan to check in with someone who understands your journey, especially if you’re feeling tempted or uncertain.
Talk to Your Family: Open communication with your family about your decision to stay sober can prevent misunderstandings and awkward moments. If your family isn’t supportive, lean on friends or chosen family who understand and respect your choice.
Create new, sober traditions
The holiday season is often filled with traditions that center around alcohol. However, there’s plenty of room to introduce new, meaningful rituals that support your sober lifestyle.
Host Sober Gatherings: If you’re hosting an event, consider making it alcohol-free. A cozy gathering with non-alcoholic drinks, games, and good conversation can be just as enjoyable as any traditional holiday party.
Try New Activities: The holidays don’t have to revolve around drinking. Consider going for a hike, ice skating, volunteering, or cooking a special holiday meal together. You can also create new traditions, like decorating gingerbread houses or making ornaments. These activities allow you to build positive memories without the need for alcohol.
Stay focused on the big picture
While the holidays can feel intense, remember that they are just one chapter in your long-term journey of sobriety. Stay focused on the benefits of sobriety and the progress you’ve made.
Celebrate Your Achievements: Every sober day is a victory, and every event you navigate without drinking is a testament to your strength. Take time to reflect on how far you’ve come.
Look Beyond the Moment: The holidays may bring challenges, but they’re also a chance to reflect on the positive changes sobriety has brought into your life—clearer thinking, stronger relationships, and better health.
Practice Gratitude: Use the holiday season as an opportunity to reflect on what you’re grateful for. Acknowledge your progress and the support you’ve received. Gratitude can shift your focus from temptation to appreciation, helping you maintain a positive mindset.
Conclusion
Staying sober during the holidays isn’t about missing out; it’s about fully embracing the season with clarity and purpose. With the right tools, a strong support system, and a commitment to your values, you can celebrate mindfully and make lasting memories without alcohol. Keep your focus on the long-term benefits of sobriety and stay grounded in your reasons for choosing this path. The holidays are just one chapter in your journey—and you have the strength and resilience to make it through with grace and confidence. Embrace the season, celebrate your progress, and continue building the life you deserve.
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Chris Cardone, Beverage Consultant, Chief Mixologist & Public Speaker
In 2015, Chris took a year-long break from alcohol, recognizing that his dependance was harming his life. After nine months without alcohol, he realized his fears about quitting were unfounded and that he was becoming a better person overall, which led him to quit drinking permanently. However, he noticed the lack of non-alcoholic options in bars and the skepticism towards a sober bartender. People suggested he change careers, doubting his ability to stay sober or create balanced cocktails. This inspired him to launch Continuous Beverage Solutions, with the mission to educate, empower and inspire people to decide for themselves how, when and why they drink, ensuring everyone feels included.
