How To Set Boundaries As A Female Leader
- Brainz Magazine
- Jan 20, 2023
- 4 min read
Written by: Anne-Sophie Reinhardt, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
As a female leader, it's important to know how to set healthy boundaries. After all, you can't pour from an empty cup! Whether you're dealing with clients, and colleagues, or simply managing your own time, these tips will help you stay sane and productive. So let's get started!
As a woman, you face unique challenges when it comes to setting boundaries
Let's face it: being a woman you are often fighting an uphill battle when it comes to setting boundaries. It's quite easy to be labeled as bossy when you show confidence and are decisive, something that your male counterparts don't have to deal with. Let's change this narrative though. Ultimately, you have the power to take control of the business environment around you and ensure that everyone feels comfortable and respected in the workplace and if they label you bossy or call you the other b-word, allow them to sit in their own discomfort. After all, it's their issue, not yours.
Do you know your expectations and boundaries?
The first step in setting boundaries as a female leader is to know your expectations and boundaries. This means taking the time to think about what you need from yourself, your team, and other stakeholders. It's important to understand where you draw the line when it comes to workloads, communication styles, respect for others' opinions and ideas, and more. Only when you have a clear picture of what you expect from yourself and those around you, can begin to create an effective workplace.
Once you're clear about what your expectations are, communicate them
It's always a juggling act when you're trying to get a team to work in perfect harmony. After all, it takes more than just putting the right group of people together; your expectations must be communicated so that everyone can be on the same page. Don't leave anything open for interpretation. Communicate, communicate and communicate again. You cannot state your boundaries often enough. Trust me, someone will always be glad you did.
Don't be afraid to say no
Regardless of who you are, it can be hard to say no ‒ especially when the person asking is someone you want to keep on good terms with. And for us women, that includes everyone, doesn't it... But don't let your fear of saying no hold you back: it's OK to protect yourself and ensure that your time and energy are spent wisely. You're not obligated to help others; so don't forget to take care of your own needs first!
Create a supportive community of female leaders
Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals will help you find the confidence and support you need to take charge and stand up for yourself. By creating these spaces for honest conversations about the challenges of being a female leader, you can seek advice when you feel like a certain situation is getting to you more than it should.
Learn to embrace criticism
While it can be tough to hear feedback that doesn't feel positive, try to look at criticism as an opportunity for growth and development. Remember that the goal is not to be universally liked, but rather to lead effectively and with integrity. Listen to those who come to you with genuine ideas and feedback. Be gentle with yourself but also allow yourself to integrate what they have to say.
Remember that you have a right to set boundaries, and don't let anyone make you feel guilty for doing so
Setting boundaries isn't something to be ashamed of; in fact, it shows strength and confidence. You don't need anyone's permission to do it ‒ after all, you know yourself and your needs best. Respect yourself enough to stand up for yourself when someone crosses a line. Sure, there may be some guilt-trippers who try to make you feel bad for keeping them from getting what they want ‒ but don't let that stop you from managing the relationships in your life on your own terms. Be assertive about standing up for what feels right for you ‒ without apology or guilt.
With time, practice, and patience, you'll find that your boundaries are being respected.
Anne-Sophie Reinhardt, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Anne-Sophie Reinhardt works with women who crave a deep sense of belonging – to themselves, their bodies and this life. Having worked as a Body-Mind and Life Coach since 2021, she has developed unique tools, insights and intuition (one of her superpowers) that allow her to quickly get to the root of her clients’ struggles, so they can clear their neurology, reconnect with their true essence and live their boldly magnificent life. An expert in her field, she has been quoted extensively on popular media and is a regular speaker drawing from her lived experience from no sense of self to deep self-love and the highest commitment to living her truth. Se is shining her light, so that others can do the same.
