How To Pick Yourself Up When Life Knocks You Down
Updated: Mar 6, 2023
Written by: Leah Bernath, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Whether you are experiencing challenges in your professional life, personal life, relationships, or financial struggles, you may feel defeated, as if the struggles you face are overwhelmingly insurmountable. The truth is not one of us is immune to experiencing difficulties at any given time. In fact, even the most well-known and successful men and women encounter obstacles along their journey to success. Follow these simple steps to get back on track when life knocks you off course.
Allow yourself to feel
The first step is to silence the noise that exists outside you – environment, social media, list of to-dos, other people’s opinions, expectations, and suggestions. Find a quiet space to be still. Turn your attention inward and allow yourself to both feel and process all your emotions, without question or judgement. Understand that emotions are neither inherently good nor bad. They are messages you receive triggered by thoughts you have formed about someone, something, and/or your circumstances. Unconsciously, you assigned a meaning to your feelings, creating an entire narrative around what, why, and how and causing you to dwell in misery, self-pity, or angst longer than you should. Don’t be afraid to sit in the feelings – cry, laugh, get angry – whatever you need to do to move through them and beyond.
Seek outside help – Lean on others
When facing unconquerable difficulties give yourself permission to be vulnerable. Talk to trusted friends, loved ones, and professionals to offer advice, support, and guidance. Be open to new ideas, perspectives, and support received, yet trust your inner voice to determine the best course of action in alignment for you. Sometimes the simple act of feeling seen and supported is enough to propel you forward into action.
Gratitude, Gratitude, Gratitude
Practicing daily gratitude for all of your blessings shifts your mindset from all that is lost, lacking, or not yet manifested to all the good that both exists and awaits you. Take 5-10 minutes each day to journal what you are grateful for, proud of, excited about, and looking forward to in your future. Write down what you desire as if it has already happened. Practicing consistent gratitude reduces fear-based beliefs and enables you to embody desire-based beliefs, ultimately allowing you to see your world through new lenses, solve problems, create innovative solutions and ideas, and tap into your intrinsic power.
S.A.S (small actionable steps)
List out small, incremental, and actionable steps you can take to overcome your struggles. Decide how and when you will go about them. Create a system to hold yourself accountable along the way and solicit support if needed. Implement these changes with consistency, intention, and desire. Even the tiniest shifts can build large momentum and results. Before you realize you will have turned the corner, reached new heights, and looked back with a knowing smile – only you held the power to pick yourself back up when life tried to knock you down.
Leah Bernath, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Leah Bernath, Leader/CEO of Your Best Self, LLC, is a leading Empowerment & Success Coach, helping her clients thrive amidst difficult life transitions, unleash their intrinsic power, gain confidence, and level-up in their careers and relationships to manifest the life of their dreams. With over 20 years as a multidisciplinary expert in interior design, commercial real estate, entrepreneurship, coaching, and health and fitness, her diverse professional career has provided her with wisdom, experience, and success, despite enduring many life changes. Her mission is to elevate women to embody their ‘best self’ to achieve the success and abundance they desire personally and professionally, without limitations.
