How To Navigate The Inflated Ego And False Humility In Modern Spirituality And Religion
- May 8, 2024
- 3 min read
Ellen Mennell is recognized when it comes to her work in Social Justice, Inner Healing, Awakening, Religious Deconstruction and Religious Trauma. She is CEO of Advocate of Soul, an online coaching business, an International Speaker, Women’s Circle Facilitator, the author of AS IS, Book 1 & 2, and the host of Advocate of Soul., on YouTube.
In our fast-paced world of hashtags and self-promotion, traps of ego-driven spirituality and religion are tempting. From Instagram gurus touting their enlightenment to religious leaders preaching superiority, the dangers of always selling oneself as the best are detrimental to the core values of humility and genuine spiritual growth.
An inflated sense of self-importance can sneak into our spiritual practices and beliefs without us realizing it. By pursuing likes, followers, and validation, we walk the road of comparison, evaluating our spiritual journey and seeking external approval rather than focusing on inner growth and self-awareness.
Even though modern spirituality emphasizes a form of personal empowerment and self-realization, there's still a danger of feeding into the ego for recognition and praise. When spirituality becomes a look-at-me fest rather than a journey of character development and connection, we risk losing touch with the essence of humility and compassion at the heart of many spiritual traditions.
Here are a few examples of an inflated spiritual ego
Excessive Attachment to titles around being a guru or "master" of something.
Boasting spiritual experiences, one's vast knowledge, and even spiritual achievements to assert prominence over another.
Emphasize material gain by showcasing expensive items, luxury vacations and retreats, monetary wealth, and being a part of exclusive memberships as the end game rather than personal transformation and serving others.
Highlight renowned spiritual teachers, groups, or practices to show honor and unity without revealing the competitive edge and sought-after prestige.
Bypass uncomfortable emotions, conflicts, or challenges by retreating into spiritual practices or beliefs.
Forming exclusive spiritual high-paying groups closed to outsiders who can't afford it and fostering an elitist mentality among its members.
Seek admiration from followers or peers using flattery or high-vibe language around spiritual prowess, experiences, or insights.
Use spiritual teachings or positions of authority to manipulate and exploit vulnerable people for personal gain around financial donations or loyalty.
Religion falls into a similar trap when it creates a dangerous ego in its followers by leaders claiming infallibility. People become alienated and forsake foundational teachings of humility and service. Left unchecked, a religious institution becomes one of privilege and success by self-aggrandizement taking over. Spiritual enlightenment and connection to the heart eventually become lost and obscure.
A second trap entwined to an inflated Ego is that of false humility. The embodiment of true humility requires introspection and discernment because false humility masquerades itself under the guise of humility.
When a person's abilities, accomplishments, or opinions are veiled, this can be an example of false humility. People don't want to appear arrogant or lacking self-confidence, so downplaying personal strengths and achievements to seek validation or approval from others seems the better route. But is it?
While humility recognizes our limitations and imperfections with honesty and grace, false humility hinders personal growth and professional success by preventing individuals from owning their accomplishments and pursuing their goals. False humility erodes self-esteem and creates barriers to effective communication and collaboration with others. In essence, it leads to many missed opportunities and stifles inner potential.
True spirituality should not be how awesome we make ourselves appear before others but how authentically we show up with compassion and deep reverence for the sacredness of all life. It is being open to learning from others, showing empathy, and recognizing the contributions of those around us. The journey toward spiritual growth is a walk of humility guided by love, wisdom, and a genuine desire to serve the greater good.
If you desire a healthy balance of humility and confidence, remember it's an ongoing journey of self-reflection, self-compassion, and authenticity. Celebrating achievements with genuine joy without seeking the external reinforces a balanced sense of self-worth. By integrating these principles into our lives, we cultivate a harmonious circle and foster a deeper connection with ourselves and those around us. Discerning these things unlocks one's full potential and contributes positively to the world.
Ellen Mennell, Spiritual/Empowerment Coach
Ellen Mennell, a trail blazer for Freedom, believes compassion, love, and understanding is key to healing our planet. This led her to live in more than 20+ nations leading humanitarian efforts around Social Justice. These experiences shaped Ellen’s life forever and gifted her with a diverse way of thinking, living and being. Overcoming Life’s challenges and Spiritual awakening led her to abandon decades of religious fundamentalism. Her journey has inspired others to rise into their own power. Ellen’s coaching strategy, writings, speaking events, and inner healing work gives permission to people everywhere to live from their own truth, by walking their own path, and by saying YES to what stirs their soul.
