How To Navigate Comparison And Fear
Written by: Mireya Nasser, Executive Contributor
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Are you often comparing yourself to others? Do you find yourself letting fear strike and thinking that you aren’t good enough?
This had been a battle of mine for years. It is something that affects us negatively in different ways.
Your ups and downs likely arise because you feel:
You are not doing enough
You are not successful enough
You are not popular enough
You are not fit enough
Enough for what? Compared to what? In some cases, I think comparison can be good. There are times when it can be healthy and can help you to move forward without fear.
If fear does strike though, there are two things that may happen:
1. We move forward because we are fearful, but we move forward with a competitive mindset. We fear somebody will take our clients. Or that somebody will get “there” first. Maybe we fear somebody will launch a similar product to ours before we do.
2. Fear may paralyze us. We have to understand that this fear comes because of a lack of faith in what we are doing and a lack of belief in ourselves. We believe others can do things better than we can. But we can do anything we put our minds to. Everything is possible for us, but we have to have the faith and discipline to make it happen.
Having a competitive mindset or feeling paralyzed by fear can put us in a negative state of mind. We are not here to compete. We are here in this world to create. We are here to do God’s work: creation. Creation is beautiful. You form an image in your mind of what you want, and nobody in this world can see the exact same thing you are seeing. Nobody can replicate it because it came from your individual mind. Then you take action to make your creative idea come to life. This process can be a source of pride and positive feelings.
I want to share with you what I have discovered to overcome this fear and unnecessary tendency for comparison. Here are four tips:
1. I have learned that the only comparison you should engage in is comparison of oneself, every year, to see how much progress you have made. Take a look at your habits, at your health, your sales, your family, and see where you are at compared to where you were at the same time last year.
2. There is uniqueness within you. Embrace it, love it, express it and share it. Once you start loving and believing in yourself, everything flows and ideas of creation come to you. You don’t need to compete anymore.
3. Remove the triggers of comparison. This may include blocking people on Instagram, removing yourself from certain Facebook pages and ending conversations with certain people that encourage this kind of comparison.
4. Have a mastermind creation group. This involves meeting with four or five people and helping each other create meaningful work.
Life can be a blast when you stop comparing yourself to others. Don’t listen to the noise, hear yourself and express yourself beautifully.
Mireya Nasser, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Mireya Nasser is a personal development coach focused on mindset and wellness. After years of struggling with insecurities and limiting beliefs, she was able to turn her life around and make a radical change. She decided to dedicate her life to helping people believe in themselves and go after their dreams. She believes growth and wellness go together, you cannot be completely healthy without working on improving yourself and life. Her company has different wellness and personal development programs with clients around the world. This year her first book came out and a transformation journal.
