How To Manage Fear In 6 Steps
- Jul 14, 2021
- 4 min read
Updated: Mar 25, 2024
Written by: Amy Morgan, Executive Contributor
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Fear is one of the most powerful emotions we have. It has strong effects on your mind and your body. Fear is a response to any circumstance our bodies perceive as any sort of danger, and our brain is trying to keep us safe.
Some people become anxious or overwhelmed by fear. Fear is a normal feeling. It’s important, however, not to allow fear to overtake your actions, instead learn the process to overcome it. You can learn to cope with fear. Fear can be managed and worked through them each and every time if you know what to do with it.
Step 1. Recognize the Fear
Firstly, you need to recognize what exactly it is you are fearful of. Write them down so you can look at them objectively. Pay attention to patterns, often a theme comes up that when we look at them, we can see. If you can become conscious of the fear, you have a great opportunity to dismantle it.
Ask yourself some questions:
What experience trigger my fear?
What thoughts trigger my fear?
What are the feelings that I feel when I am in fear?
How does fear affect my behavior?
How does this fear keep me playing small?
After you can honestly answer the questions, you have insight into what your fears are and what you choose to do about them.
Step 2. Be Willing to Change
Once you are able to witness your fear and be specific, you then have to make the decision that you want to change these fears into a better emotion. Often we listen to the voices of fear and give in to it, and that is when the doubt, anxiety & overwhelm come in.
A change in perception and a willingness to see things differently allows you the opportunity to shift. Be willing to let go of those limited beliefs that do not serve to choose a better feeling thought. Instead of fear, choose the willingness to see love.
What would that mean for you if you choose to love instead of giving in to the fear? What would happen for you if you let go of what the outcome may be and just choose love.
Step 3. Move through Resistance
Often it's the resistance to change that keeps us stuck and in fear. We are trying to control the situation because our bodies perceive that as safer than going into the unknown. Most of us live in the past, and it's easier to repeat the past simply because the creation of new is scary to us.
Think of resistance as something that is trying to actually keep us safe, even if our logical brain knows that letting go, expansion, and new is really what we need. If you can pinpoint the fear and what specifically your resistance to it is, try to uncover where the resistance comes from. The quicker you can let go of the control, the limited belief and the block you stop sabotaging yourself.
The resistance is keeping you from your desires, so it's important to acknowledge them and keep going.
Step 4. Choose a loving perspective - remember the falseness of your fear & flip it
Fear keeps us small and safe. Fear is not real. Remind yourself of the falseness of it.
Think of fear as False Evidence Appearing Real. It simply isn’t true. It's almost always a made-up story that you have come up with in your head. Take the time to recognize this and choose to rewrite it to what is actually true.
The opposite of fear is always love, so how can you flip the fear into a more loving perspective. What if the new belief is yes, go for it. How would that change your actions? What then would be possible for you?
Step 5. Release It
Fear never serves us. It keeps us stuck in patterns that we must break. Releasing it to pick love instead is always a better choice. It is never going to get us something new. When you can release it and let it go, you have allowed yourself to open up to new possibilities.
The unforgiving mind holds on to the fear, which leaves us no room for love. Let yourself off the hook; forgive the thoughts of fear. When you can let go of you can create the space for loving guidance to know your next best step.
Step 6. Expect Amazing Things
If you have chosen love over your fear, new and creative options are available to you. Everything may not look exactly like you imagine, but have some faith that amazing things are coming your way.
When you choose to love, calm your mind, have the willingness to choose again, you are able to open yourself to new limitless possibilities. How would it change if you then just expected amazing things to happen? Having the hope that your desires are all available and coming to you is exciting.
Feel into that excitement, into love. The Universe wants to bring you all your desires; you just need to allow it.
Fear is always going to exist. That is inevitable. It's how you move through it, what you are willing to do instead so that you can be resilient, change, and grow. Always choose the love, always say no to fear, and you change your life.
Amy Morgan, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Amy Morgan is a Transformational Empowerment Coach who helps successful women let go of their past, break free of limiting beliefs, and align with their future selves so that they can be unstoppable! Amy uses a holistic approach that allows you to remove the obstacles that are holding you back and cultivate awareness & habit upgrades permanently. Amy created “The Yes You Can” Program that uses Transformational Techniques to provide mindset shifts for her clients to achieve true inner peace, worthiness, and confidence so that their personal and professional dreams become their reality. Amy was named by Yahoo Financial as Top Coach for 2021.
Amy works with both 1-1 private clients and a group coaching program, Yes You Can, using her unique approach so that you can heal, live fully, and transform to achieve all your dreams.
