How To Get You Out Of Your Victim Mentality
- Sep 3, 2024
- 3 min read
Written by Maria Mulone, Life Coach & Hypnotherapy
Maria Mulone is a Certified Life Coach and Registered Hypnotherapist. Her focus is to guide individuals towards transformative growth and helping them discovering their own potential.
We can all agree that we will experience good and bad things in life. This is part of being human and of the learning process.
Without knowing what is and feels good to us we wouldn’t be able to recognise if something is bad or feels bad to us (generally speaking).
Some people are convinced that they are unlucky in life, that bad things always happen to them, and they might say there is a curse on them. These people are playing the Victim in their life.
How to recognise a victim
When something bad happens or receiving bad news they start their sentence with “I knew it was going to happen…”, “Of course it was going to happen to me…”;
Describing their past as terrible/horrible, “This has been a terrible year…”, “I have always had a horrible life…”;
Taking for granted good things that happen to them. The victim doesn’t get too excited because good things won’t keep happening and stay in their “victim reality”;
Blaming the external world for their misery;
Feeling powerless as they have no control over it;
Putting other people down when they are excited about something, often using the excuse of being Realistic and don’t want others to get their hopes up;
Sometimes, they might be excited about other people's good news and they think this will never happen to them because they are “obviously” cursed in life;
Dramatize insignificant events;
Justifying their behaviour by the fact they have experienced traumas;
If you are a victim reading this, or if you know someone who is exactly like this, I am here to tell you that being a victim is an illusion and there’s no such thing!
Nobody is destined to be unlucky and experiencing only negative things, it is all created by the story you tell yourself!
Below, I want to give you 5 simple steps to get you out from your victim mentality.
How to get out of the victim mentality?
Get into the habit of writing a journal at the end of each day with 3 good things that happened to you.
When you wake up in the morning write down in your journal at least 5 things you are grateful for in your life, the more the better.
When you catch your mind thinking about how unlucky you are, consciously stop it and read the journal or think about something good that happened in your life.
Stop blaming anybody and accept that things sometimes go wrong and sometimes go right (yes even for you).
If you have traumas that need to be addressed, going to therapy will help not only to heal but also to release all the frustration.
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Maria Mulone, Life Coach & Hypnotherapy
Maria is a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist, she thrives by helping people boosting their self-esteem and unleashing their inner power, helping them achieving their goals. She always felt the urge of helping others and discovered throughout her life that the only way to build a beautiful life start with self-love.
