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How To Change Your Negative Thoughts Into Positive Ones

  • Writer: Brainz Magazine
    Brainz Magazine
  • Jun 25, 2024
  • 2 min read

Karen Tomasi is passionate about providing holistic guidance and support to those going through a Divorce or Breakup. She helps them transform their lives by overcoming their feelings of overwhelm, loss, and heartbreak through a process of healing, self-empowerment, re-discovery of their true selves and the creation of a new and inspired life.

Executive Contributor Karen Tomasi

Karen Tomasi is passionate about providing holistic guidance and support to those going through a Divorce or Breakup. She helps them transform their lives by overcoming their feelings of overwhelm, loss, and heartbreak through a process of healing, self-empowerment, re-discovery of their true selves and the creation of a new and inspired life.


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How you can navigate divorce by applying this effective technique

 

Identify the negative thought

Start by recognizing the negative thought or belief that is causing distress. It could be something like:


  • "I'll never find love again,"

  • "I'm a failure because my marriage ended," or

  • "I'll never be happy without my ex-spouse."

 

Challenge the negative thought

Once you've pinpointed the negative thought, challenge it and ask yourself questions like:

 

  • Is it fair to define my entire future based on my current feelings?

  • Have I successfully overcome challenges in the past that initially seemed insurmountable?

  • Are there examples of people who have found love and happiness after divorce?

 

Flip the thought

After challenging the negative thought, consciously reframe it into a more positive or realistic perspective. For example:

 

  • "While this divorce is difficult, it doesn't define my worth or my future. I have the strength and resilience to create a fulfilling life on my own terms."

  • "Divorce is a transition, not a failure. I can learn and grow from this experience, and it doesn't diminish my value as a person."

  • "Though it's hard to imagine now, I have the opportunity to rediscover myself and to build a life that brings me joy and fulfillment."

 

Repeat and reinforce

Practice using the 'Flip-it' Technique regularly, especially during moments of heightened emotional distress. Over time, you'll find it easier to challenge negative thoughts and to create a more positive outlook on your post-divorce journey.

 

By applying the 'Flip-it' Technique, individuals going through a divorce can shift their mindset from one of despair and self-doubt to one of resilience, hope, and empowerment. 

 

I hope you'll find this technique useful. It's been a game-changer for many of my clients, accelerating their healing journey and helping them to create and maintain a positive mindset.

 

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Karen Tomasi, Holistic Breakup & Divorce Coach

Karen Tomasi is an accredited holistic Breakup & Divorce Coach & Intuitive Healer focusing on Self-Empowerment. Having experienced a painful divorce followed by a Spiritual Awakening during the Covid-19 Global Pandemic, she has embarked on a personal journey of transformation more than once. Her signature transformation programme, "Breakup to Breakthrough," is designed to guide and support individuals on their transformative journeys before, during or after divorce or breakup.

 
 

This article is published in collaboration with Brainz Magazine’s network of global experts, carefully selected to share real, valuable insights.

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