top of page

How To Change Your Negative Thoughts Into Positive Ones

Jun 25, 2024
2 min read

Karen Tomasi is passionate about providing holistic guidance and support to those going through a Divorce or Breakup. She helps them transform their lives by overcoming their feelings of overwhelm, loss, and heartbreak through a process of healing, self-empowerment, re-discovery of their true selves and the creation of a new and inspired life.

Executive Contributor Karen Tomasi

Karen Tomasi is passionate about providing holistic guidance and support to those going through a Divorce or Breakup. She helps them transform their lives by overcoming their feelings of overwhelm, loss, and heartbreak through a process of healing, self-empowerment, re-discovery of their true selves and the creation of a new and inspired life.


Hand protects the joyful emoticon from the sad ones

How you can navigate divorce by applying this effective technique

 

Identify the negative thought

Start by recognizing the negative thought or belief that is causing distress. It could be something like:


  • "I'll never find love again,"

  • "I'm a failure because my marriage ended," or

  • "I'll never be happy without my ex-spouse."

 

Challenge the negative thought

Once you've pinpointed the negative thought, challenge it and ask yourself questions like:

 

  • Is it fair to define my entire future based on my current feelings?

  • Have I successfully overcome challenges in the past that initially seemed insurmountable?

  • Are there examples of people who have found love and happiness after divorce?

 

Flip the thought

After challenging the negative thought, consciously reframe it into a more positive or realistic perspective. For example:

 

  • "While this divorce is difficult, it doesn't define my worth or my future. I have the strength and resilience to create a fulfilling life on my own terms."

  • "Divorce is a transition, not a failure. I can learn and grow from this experience, and it doesn't diminish my value as a person."

  • "Though it's hard to imagine now, I have the opportunity to rediscover myself and to build a life that brings me joy and fulfillment."

 

Repeat and reinforce

Practice using the 'Flip-it' Technique regularly, especially during moments of heightened emotional distress. Over time, you'll find it easier to challenge negative thoughts and to create a more positive outlook on your post-divorce journey.

 

By applying the 'Flip-it' Technique, individuals going through a divorce can shift their mindset from one of despair and self-doubt to one of resilience, hope, and empowerment. 

 

I hope you'll find this technique useful. It's been a game-changer for many of my clients, accelerating their healing journey and helping them to create and maintain a positive mindset.

 

Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, or visit my website for more info!

Karen Tomasi, Holistic Breakup & Divorce Coach

Karen Tomasi is an accredited holistic Breakup & Divorce Coach & Intuitive Healer focusing on Self-Empowerment. Having experienced a painful divorce followed by a Spiritual Awakening during the Covid-19 Global Pandemic, she has embarked on a personal journey of transformation more than once. Her signature transformation programme, "Breakup to Breakthrough," is designed to guide and support individuals on their transformative journeys before, during or after divorce or breakup.

 
 

This article is published in collaboration with Brainz Magazine’s network of global experts, carefully selected to share real, valuable insights.

Article Image

How Can You Notice Life's Small Transitions Before They Overwhelm You?

Most life transitions do not arrive all at once. They build quietly, one small shift at a time, while we are too busy to see them. Autumn offers a simple way to notice them sooner, so the bigger...

Article Image

The Success Trap That Takes You Further From Yourself

Success is supposed to be rewarding. We pursue it with determination, sacrifice for it, and measure our progress by how much of it we achieve. The promotion. The recognition. The impressive title. The thriving business.

Article Image

Climate Solutions Are Great Opportunities for Entrepreneurs

Climate solutions aren’t just environmental necessities, they’re rapidly becoming some of the most profitable business opportunities of our time. From clean energy to climate‑resilient infrastructure...

Article Image

How to Build a Professional Podcast Media Kit That Sells Sponsorships

If you're serious about attracting corporate sponsors, one of the most valuable marketing tools you can create is a professional podcast media kit. Think of your media kit as your podcast's sales brochure.

Article Image

The Side of Joy No One Talks About

Why joy can’t exist without contrast, and how embracing life’s full emotional range makes happiness more meaningful and lasting. Do you truly know what joy is? For a long time, I wasn’t sure I did...

Article Image

What If Your Child Chose You?

We spend so much time thinking about what we will teach our children. We imagine the values we will pass on, the opportunities we will offer, and the love that will help them feel safe in the world...

How Can You Notice Life's Small Transitions Before They Overwhelm You?

The Success Trap That Takes You Further From Yourself

Climate Solutions Are Great Opportunities for Entrepreneurs

How to Build a Professional Podcast Media Kit That Sells Sponsorships

The Side of Joy No One Talks About

What If Your Child Chose You?

When Your Values No Longer Fit and What Misalignment Can Reveal

Staying One Step Ahead of AI

The Loneliness of Being Easy to Love

bottom of page