How to Add Mindful Pauses to Your Leadership – Creating Space for Conscious Action
- Brainz Magazine
- 2 days ago
- 5 min read
Written by Aang Lakey, Life Coach, Consultant & Speaker
Aang Lakey is the founder and CEO of Increasing Consciousness, a company dedicated to facilitating global equity through leadership coaching and education. Aang is well known for connecting key research areas in the self-development, human intelligence, DEI, and violence prevention realms to empower leaders to facilitate systemic change.
Most leaders know how to act under pressure, but few know how to take a moment to truly capitalize on their emotional and social intelligence, or how to use that space to create conscious choice. Learning to develop and maintain a mindful pause practice is the key to regaining access to your awareness, clarity, and insights so that you can make conscious choices. When we learn to pause with presence and intention, we reclaim the space between stimulus and response, and within that space, our leadership transforms.
What is a pause practice and how does it support presence?
Developing the ability to pause in your leadership is a foundational aspect of leadership presence. It is what trains your body and mind to create deliberate micro-moments of stillness that allow you to reconnect your intentional awareness with conscious action. Pausing is quite literally the only way to integrate any developmental aspects into your leadership. Whether you are working on your emotional intelligence, strategy, or governance, you cannot intentionally bring these areas into your leadership unless you have the capacity to pause and create the space to bring in conscious choice.
While your leadership presence is sustained through four interdependent capacities, focused attention, self-attunement, attunement to others, and consistent pause practices, the foundation of these capacities is the ability to pause, which strengthens each of the others. When you consistently practice pausing to create space, you develop the ability to interrupt your habitual reactivity, listen to your somatic and emotional cues, and make decisions from a grounded, values-aligned state rather than from urgency or defensiveness.
A simple way to understand how to capitalize on an effective mindful pause practice for your leadership is to look at it as a five-stage process that goes beyond simply pausing for effect. You must make your pause intentional and use it to:
Notice what is happening in your body, mind, and environment.
Regulate your nervous system.
Label with precision.
Track related habitual patterns.
Use your insights to capitalize on your situation.
Each of these stages will help refine your perception and build your emotional agility. When practiced together, this process can help you explore your physiological, psychological, and emotional reactions, as well as what they are trying to tell you, so that your presence becomes a lived experience rather than an abstract concept.
Why performance without pause leads to reactivity
When leaders equate constant performance with effectiveness, they lose access to the reflective capabilities necessary to bring about conscious choice. A culture of constant performance keeps the nervous system in a state of vigilance that, over time, the body normalizes and trains us to believe that our reactivity is simply responsiveness. However, reactivity without mindful pause and exploration only reinforces the body and mind’s natural inclinations within the context they are operating in, and in most cases, that context is filled with bias, incorrect assumptions, or inherited beliefs about expectations.
Without mindful pauses, our emotions escalate faster, our attention narrows, and our perception becomes distorted. While decisions made from this state may look decisive, they often lack discernment, with individuals responding to pressure rather than to purpose. The absence of mindful pause erodes clarity, intentionality, and congruence, and it also impacts broader trust, communication, and psychological safety.
On the other hand, a regulated leader, with a mindful pause practice to check in and explore when needed, demonstrates steadiness in their internal environment that can calm external systems. The fundamental difference between reaction and presence is our level of consciousness and our ability to pause to ensure alignment.
How presence emerges through intentional pause
Presence does not simply appear because we decide to be more present. It emerges when we deliberately build conditions that allow our awareness to stabilize and create space for conscious choice. Intentional pause trains the nervous system to return to balance and anchors the mind in observation rather than judgment.
In practice, this might look like taking three slow breaths before entering a meeting or noticing a surge of frustration and pausing long enough to explore which emotion is surfacing. These micro-pauses expand perception and allow curiosity and intentionality to create space for conscious response.
Leadership presence begins when you can remain aware of all the intensity and complexity that life brings. In this sense, pause and stillness become a form of strength and a way to stay connected to one’s values and the collective purpose, even when the room heats up.
Simple ways to ritualize a pause in daily leadership
What makes mindful pause so powerful and effective is when it becomes a rhythmic part of your routines that retrains your body and mind to operate differently. It must become a habitual pattern of returning to the center throughout the day. Some practical ways to begin integrating pause include:
Begin and end meetings with breath awareness. Three breaths can reset both your personal attention and that of the collective.
Use transition moments as cues. Before checking emails or shifting tasks, take five seconds to notice posture, breath, and focus.
Integrate reflection rituals. End the day by asking, where did I react? Where did I respond? What can I adjust tomorrow?
Model pause publicly. When pressure rises, name it. “Let’s take a moment before deciding.” This normalizes reflection as a leadership behavior rather than a luxury.
Pause when a physiological or emotional trigger surfaces. If you notice a tight chest, clenched jaw, or sudden irritation, take it as an invitation to explore what is arising instead of suppressing it. Breathe into the sensation, name the emotion, and allow curiosity and intentionality to guide your next response.
These rituals turn pauses into a shared cultural practice that allows teams to begin mirroring that composure and ultimately reinforces a regulated, collaborative space.
Creating space for conscious action
As with all things in life, leadership practice requires both speed and conscious action. When teams create a culture of urgency that consistently rewards speed, they unconsciously undermine intentional and conscious choice. Without space to surface awareness of multiple perspectives and possibilities, it becomes impossible to consciously choose the best path forward.
Because conscious choice and action require time and space, you must intentionally practice pausing to shift the balance back into baseline awareness. You must retrain yourself to access intuition and insight in critical moments and to balance action with discernment.
Awareness can only be cultivated through stillness, and conscious choice can only emerge when paired with a commitment to maintaining alignment with core values. When we no longer rush to fill silence, insight emerges naturally, and the mindful pause becomes the bridge between intention and behavior. This is the moment where consciousness meets leadership.
Call to action
If you want to explore creating and integrating a pause practice into your leadership, you can explore it in depth in my book Leadership Presence, part of the Leadership Consciousness Essentials series. The book examines each element of leadership presence and the phases of the pause practice in detail.
Begin integrating intentional pause into your leadership rhythm today, and observe how stillness sharpens awareness, strengthens relationships, and transforms impact.
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Aang Lakey, Life Coach, Consultant & Speaker
Aang Lakey is a leader in ushering in a new wave of global consciousness. Their work facilitates global equity by educating and coaching leadership teams to integrate reflexivity, intentionality, and anti-oppressive practices into their daily lives and leadership styles. Through the principle of refraction, Aang encourages leaders to touch as many people as possible by living with integrity and emanating congruence in their leadership. Their approach is simple: elevate your own consciousness and watch the ripple effect that has on every aspect of your life and with every person you interact with.
