How I Pivoted When Doing Everything 'Right' Still Didn’t Feel Like Success
- Aug 18, 2025
- 3 min read
Chaila Renée Scott is a dynamic leader, policy advocate, and cultural strategist with over a decade of experience in workforce development, community advancement, and storytelling. She is the co-founder of Black Women for Self and author of The Playbook: Rules for Life More Abundantly.
I followed the ideal career script: degrees, professional roles, leadership titles. But still, financial strain, burnout, and invisible ceilings followed. Here’s how redefining leadership on my terms unlocked a more authentic path.
We’re taught there’s a blueprint for success: get the degree, land the job, climb the ladder, and someday, the dream will pay off. I followed that script faithfully fast-tracking my bachelor’s, securing work in my field, earning my master’s, and excelling in leadership roles. On paper, I had “made it.”
And yet, I still found myself in financial uncertainty, bumping up against glass ceilings, ceilings that are doubly thick for Black women. My earlier essay, Many Are Falling Short Chasing the American Dream, shares how I “did everything right” and still landed in a system where my education and dedication didn’t guarantee equity, stability, or respect. Please read it here.
The pivot point
Leaving the corporate and institutional world wasn’t an impulsive leap it was an awakening. After years of navigating pay disparities, invisible labor, and the constant undercurrent of “know your place,” I realized the real work was internal. I had to stop proving my worth to systems built to undervalue it, and start building something on my own terms.
This wasn’t just a career shift. It was a transformational process that pushed me to dig deep, confront my fears, and reimagine what leadership looked like for me. The process was equal parts strategy, faith, and self-reclamation.
Finding my lane
That deep work led me to embrace my roles not only as a civic leader, but as an author, cultural strategist, and founder. Through Black Women For Self, I channel my energy into creating intentional spaces for radical self-care, holistic wellness, and leadership development for Black women. This work isn’t just about empowerment, it’s about rewriting the rules, dismantling barriers, and building sustainable pathways for the next generation of leaders.
Leadership as legacy
The lesson I carry forward and the one I share with every leader I mentor is this: leadership is not about fitting into a mold; it’s about designing your own. True leadership blends authenticity with strategy, and it requires the courage to walk away from spaces that diminish you, no matter how prestigious they look on a résumé.
Your next step
If you’re standing at your own crossroads, wondering how to pivot without losing yourself, my book The Playbook: Rules for Life More Abundantly offers a framework for navigating transformation with clarity and intention. It’s the process I used to govern my own evolution and it’s one you can adapt for your own journey. Get your copy here and start building a version of success that feels as good as it looks.
Read more from Chaila Renée Scott
Chaila Renée Scott, Cultural Strategist & Spiritual Consultant
Chaila Renée Scott is a storyteller, advocate, and cultural strategist who believes in the power of community to transform lives. For over a decade, she’s worked at the intersection of policy, equity, and grassroots leadership, helping people and organizations step into their full potential. As co-founder of Black Women for Self and author of The Playbook: Rules for Life More Abundantly, Chaila weaves wisdom, strategy, and heart into everything she does. Her mission is simple: inspire intentional living, honor our cultural roots, and create spaces where we all rise together.
