Helping My 6-Year-Old Son Reprogram His Mind, The Most Effective Way
Written by: Tommy Walker, Executive Contributor
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So many people out there talking about mind reprogramming, why is it that so many still struggle to make changes?
Let me share the most effective way to reprogram the mind for good, without pushing or trying to convince someone how to think.
“Dad, I am ugly” – This is what my kid told me some time ago. I didn't want him to feel or think this… but check what I did. I didn’t do what most people do.
Reprogramming the mind is not as easy as most people say it is. So many people out there think that by doing affirmation they can reprogram their subconscious mind.
It doesn't work for most. Others teach us to write the old story, break it, toss it away, burn it, and by writing the new story, boom, reprogramming happens. Doesn't work.
Many push you to deny that thought "It's not you..." "That is a lie/false" and creates a new thought... Again, doesn't work for most.
So why is it that most people don't see changes with these techniques? Why is it that so many people keep following these and "resonate" with them? Because it has to do with our childhood.
Most of us have been exposed to some kind of authoritarian parenting. "Eat all your food" "Study..." "Behave"... We didn't have much power over decisions as kids, we were told what to do.
That creates self-doubt, low confidence, and low self-esteem.
Doesn't this sound familiar? Yes, most people struggle with this, and most don't want to accept it.
So when you deny a false or negative belief, that is a kind of authoritarianism. You are not understanding and accepting that there is a part of you that feels like that. I don't mean accepting as giving up, I mean as a stepping stone to making the change.
Let me give you a perfect example, of what happened to me and how I applied this that I am sharing here. Let's go back to the "Dad, I am ugly" story.
The typical authoritarian response would have been: "Don't say that... that is not true, you are beautiful". Does this seem the automatic response most people have, deny thought or emotion? As I am someone he looks up to, he would have denied and repressed that belief and pretended it never happened. This is not reprogramming, although it might seem, it is just repression. This creates a belief in his head that his thoughts are wrong, and that he needs someone to tell him what to feel and think. Hence, self-doubt, low confidence, and low self-esteem, are what most people struggle with.
Instead... look what I did.
I said: "Ok, why do you feel ugly?"
Kid: "I don't like my face"
Me: "What don't you like about your face?"
Kid: "My eyes"
Me: "Why don't you like your eyes"
Kid: "Because they have a different color than my brother"
He had created a negative belief about being ugly because his eyes were different than his brothers. I listened, understood, and accepted what he was saying. I NEVER denied or repressed it.
I asked him about the color of his eyes, that by the way, are the same as his. I asked him if my eyes were ugly, to which he said no. Then I said: "If your eyes are very similar to mine, and my eyes are not ugly... are your eyes ugly?" And he said no. I explained to him that our uniqueness makes us special, and that people are different. He smiled and walked away.
That Is What Reprogramming Is About…
Identify, accept, understand, and learn from a belief... Denial and repression will only feel ok for a little while, but the problem will not go away. If you really want to reprogram you need to change the way you do it. Love that part of you, accept it, learn from it, and then re-educate it. That is reprogramming.
Let me know if this makes sense.
Tommy Walker, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Tommy Walker has combined the best practices out there in the world and developed Rapid Subconscious Reprogramming, a proven system that combines coaching, neuroscience, therapy, inner child connection, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence. He struggled for over 30 years till he met the mentor that helped him change his life. He now has impacted the life of over 120.000 people around the world. His mission is to help people become their True Self and succeed in life and biz.
