Four Journalling Techniques for Courage and Boundaries
Updated: Aug 5
Anna is a journalling coach and wellbeing advocate on a mission to share the transformative power of writing with 100,000 people. Through her company, Writing with Purpose, she helps women navigate life’s challenges and rediscover their joy through creative expression and nature connection, alongside hosting the Writing with Purpose podcast.
Think of a doorway left ajar, or a gate leading somewhere you haven't been. Most of us have stood at a threshold like that this year, even if we didn't call it that at the time. It is a metaphor for a decision half made or a conversation you keep rehearsing but haven't had.
To counteract this state of limbo, journalling offers a self-care practice that could help you find the courage to cross that line. It starts with a simple idea: the edge you're standing at right now can tell you a great deal about yourself, if you're willing to look at it honestly.
What does courage mean?
Courage doesn't mean the absence of fear. It means doing the thing anyway, stomach in knots and all. Most of us are waiting to feel ready before we act, but that feeling rarely arrives on schedule.
Boundaries work the same way. Holding one takes courage. So does dropping a boundary that's been holding you back long after it stopped serving you. Sometimes the brave thing is speaking up and holding your ground. Sometimes it's stepping away entirely. Neither is automatically the right answer, which is exactly why this is worth writing about rather than guessing at.
Why the two are connected
It's easy to think of courage as the big, visible stuff: changing careers, ending a relationship, or giving a speech. Boundaries, on the other hand, can seem smaller and more private: saying no to an extra task or protecting an evening. In practice, though, they rely on the same muscle.
In her research interviews on boundaries and vulnerability, Brené Brown found that the most compassionate people she studied were also the most “boundaried,” not the most accommodating. That finding challenges the instinct many of us carry, particularly women socialised to keep the peace, that being kind and having limits are somehow in conflict. They're not. A boundary is often the most honest, respectful thing you can offer someone.
Boundaries aren't only about other people, either. The most important ones are frequently the agreements you make with yourself: how you spend your time, what you tolerate, and what you're no longer willing to carry.
Try the threshold technique
You don't need a photograph or a physical object for this one, which makes it easy to return to whenever you need it. Picture a threshold: a wooden door left ajar, an open gate leading to a meadow, or a rickety fence at the edge of a dune. You can even choose some picture cards or search for images online if you need to see something. Let whichever image comes to mind first be the right one. There's no wrong choice.
Sit with the image and your thoughts for a moment, then write freely. What did you notice first? What does it remind you of? A threshold represents choice: the edge between what's familiar and what comes next. How do you feel about standing there? Excited, daunted, or both? How you feel tells you something worth paying attention to.
Four journalling techniques for courage and boundaries
1. The threshold prompt
Use the threshold visual technique whenever you feel stuck between two options and can't name why. Write: “What threshold am I standing at right now, however small?” Or use a sentence stem, such as, “The threshold I am standing at right now is...” Pick a method that draws something from within.
2. The writing sprint
Set a timer for five minutes. Choose either “courage” or “boundaries,” whichever pulls at you more, and write without stopping. What does this word mean in your life right now? When did you last feel it, or feel its absence? Close with the sentence stem, “To me, courage, or a boundary, means...” and complete it as many times as feels right.
3. Courage, past and future
Think of a time you showed courage, however small it seemed at the time. What did that feel like in your body? Then turn to the present: where in your life right now is courage asking to show up? Finish with, “The brave thing I keep putting off is...”
4. The self boundary list
Most boundary work focuses outward, on other people. This one turns inward. List the agreements you want to make with yourself this month: how you will use your time and energy, and what you will stop apologising for. Then write one sentence completing, “A boundary I need to honour is...”
What gets in the way
The biggest block isn't usually fear of the big, dramatic act of courage. It's the smaller, daily fear of disappointing someone by holding a limit. That fear is worth writing about directly rather than pushing past it, because naming it on the page can help loosen its grip more effectively than willpower alone.
There's also a common misconception that boundaries are about shutting people out. They're not. A boundary is closer to a gate than a wall: something that lets in what serves you and keeps out what doesn't, on your terms. Reframing it that way, in your own words, often makes the whole exercise feel less like conflict and more like clarity.
Begin your own threshold work
Journalling for courage and boundaries doesn't require a dramatic life event to be worth doing. Start small. One threshold, one honest sentence about where you're standing. You don't need to have the answers before you begin. The writing is there to help you find them.
If you'd like support working through where courage and boundaries show up in your own life, book a Journalling Audit consultation. Together, we'll find the techniques that help you hold your ground or recognise when it's time to step past it.
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Anna Woolliscroft, Journalling Coach & Wellbeing Advocate
As a certified Journal to the Self Instructor and holder of a Master's in Creative Writing and Wellbeing, Anna guides women in reclaiming their purpose through proven journalling techniques and creative writing strategies. From climbing Mount Kilimanjaro to transitioning her marketing business into meaningful work, Anna has learned that transformation begins with honest self-reflection. Whether through live workshops, on-demand training, self-learning resources, or her podcast featuring therapeutic writing experts, Anna's mission remains clear: to share the life-changing power of intentional writing with 100,000 people over the next decade, helping women move from feeling stuck to living with clarity and confidence.
