Alneja Gašpar Horvat Finally Saying What Women Have Felt for Years
- Brainz Magazine
- Dec 11, 2025
- 11 min read
Brainz Magazine Exclusive Interview
In an era when women are expected to thrive simultaneously as partners, mothers, leaders, and creators, Alneja Gašpar Horvat expands the conversation beyond productivity and into healing. Her work reaches beyond the visible layers of fertility and family planning and into the deeper realms of generational memory, emotional inheritance, and subconscious patterns that shape a woman’s experience long before she enters motherhood. She speaks from embodied transformation rather than theory, offering a space where women are no longer asked to choose between ambition and identity, or between motherhood and selfhood—but are guided to honor all parts of themselves without collapse, sacrifice, or silence.
Alneja Gašpar Horvat is a Transformational Mentor for modern women navigating life’s crucial transitions—from finding love and creating a family to unlocking fertility, becoming a conscious parent, and balancing family with business without losing themselves amidst the many roles and obligations women often carry. She is the author of the “Unlock Your Fertility” program, created from her personal success story, and uses her signature Butterfly Technique to help women and couples overcome fertility blocks, heal core wounds, and become the parents they always wished for but never had. As a Fertility & Mama Coach, she supports clients through miscarriage, failed IVF, and other fertility challenges, walking with them every step of the way—from conception and pregnancy to birth, motherhood, and beyond—guiding them through the challenges that arise in love, life, and work once children arrive.
My body was never my enemy. It wasn’t failing or punishing me—it was protecting me.
What was the moment you knew this healing work was your true calling?
To be honest, I’ve felt this calling my entire life. For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been the mediator in my family, the quiet counselor among friends, the person strangers at parties would confide in. I never questioned it; it just felt natural, like something in me recognized their pain before they even spoke it. I guess I provided that safe space for them to open up and vent—and you know how people say that others recognize your gift long before you do… But I didn’t fully step into this calling until life brought me to my knees.
Within a short period of time, my body started screaming with symptoms—a stage-3 precancerous diagnosis, a procedure that removed part of my cervix, a thyroid autoimmune disease, a burnout that left me barely functioning, and being stuck in a job I literally hated. And then, as if all of that weren’t enough, I was told that becoming a mother would be nearly impossible.
That moment didn’t just break me. It cracked me and broke me open. It pushed me to finally face everything I had carried in silence for years—the childhood wounds, the generational trauma, the emotional pain buried so deep I almost forgot it was there. Opening Pandora’s box was terrifying, but keeping things boxed up was no longer an option. I felt it in every cell of my body that if I didn’t heal this, I was not going to survive the next health issue that came my way. The feeling that life could slip away from me was motivation enough to go within and deal with the core issues that had broken my body and soul.
And as I peeled back the layers and healed the pain stored in my body, something miraculous happened: my health began to shift, my energy returned, my fertility unlocked, I became a mother, changed my life and career, and found my calling.
Somewhere along this healing journey, I learned one of my most valuable lessons:My body was never my enemy. It wasn’t failing or punishing me—it was protecting me. Protecting me from repeating the pain I inherited. Protecting me from creating life and becoming a mother before I healed the parts of myself that needed love the most. And most of all, it was protecting me from the wrong life choices, jobs, and a path that wasn’t aligned with my soul’s calling.
When I saw how emotional, ancestral, and energetic healing transformed me on so many levels, I knew I couldn’t keep this wisdom to myself. I felt called to share it, to support others the way I once wished someone could support me. This was never a career choice. It was a calling born from brokenness, resilience, rebirth, and the quiet, divine guidance that kept whispering, “This is your path.”
You say women can have it all if they trust themselves—what holds them back the most?
Yes, I am convinced that women can have it all—but only when they learn to honor the natural phases and stages of life and the inner archetypes that guide each season. We can have love, family, motherhood, self-discovery, purpose, career, impact, and legacy… just not all at once. Each chapter has its own rhythm, its own calling, its own version of “having it all.” The struggle begins when we try to live every role at once—the lover, the mother, the creator, the leader—and then wonder why we feel overwhelmed, burnt out, frustrated, disconnected, or resentful. When a woman embraces the timing of her life instead of fighting it, everything begins to flow.
What holds women back isn’t a lack of potential—it’s rushing to have it all due to internalized fear: fear of being “too much,” fear of not being enough, fear of failing, fear of repeating old patterns, fear of losing love, fear of disappointing others, fear of missing the right moment or running out of time, and even fear of stepping into our true power and success. Most of these fears aren’t even ours; they’re inherited—passed down through generational pain, cultural expectations, the collective consciousness, and the roles our mothers and grandmothers had to play. But the moment a woman begins trusting her own inner authority instead of external voices, everything changes. She becomes unstoppable. And that’s when “having it all” stops being a dream… and becomes her reality.
How do you combine coaching, regression therapy and ancestral work in your sessions?
My work is deeply integrative because women are complex, layered beings—intellectual, intuitive, emotional, and spiritual. They need a holistic approach that can tap into every layer of feminine energy, as well as address female blocks, pain, or trauma. This requires a combination of techniques and methods to ensure that each individual receives the right approach for her unique issue and story.
Coaching provides the conscious mind with clarity, direction, and strategy. It offers a fresh perspective, those much-needed “aha” moments, and the opportunity to vent and share stories, while also receiving advice and support for mindset and emotional blocks formed in early childhood. It focuses on early trauma, core wounds, inner child healing, and archetypal work.
Regression therapy, on the other hand, reveals and helps heal the subconscious wounds and emotional imprints that shape behavior and attract certain patterns. This tool specifically addresses energy and hidden subconscious blocks.
Meanwhile, ancestral work clears the blocks women carry—but don’t physically possess—such as inherited trauma, loyalty patterns, ancestral fears and stories, and karmic cycles.
When we combine all these layers—the conscious, subconscious, energetic, personal, collective, and ancestral—healing becomes truly holistic. A woman doesn’t just need to change her mindset—she needs to change her DNA, her emotional blueprint, her energetic field, and the story she passes down to her children.
The impacts of this holistic approach are profound. All of my clients tell me that my programs don’t just fix one issue but rather affect their lives on a much greater scale. They experience deep transformation in all areas of life—in love, fertility, and parenting, but also in confidence, health, and abundance.
How has your background in languages and translation shaped the way you work today?
Working with languages has made me skilled at something deeper than words—the translation of hidden clues, suppressed emotions, and deeper meaning. Today, I translate the “language” of the subconscious, the body, the inner child, and the ancestral line. I listen between the lines. I hear what a woman is not saying. I sense the emotion behind the story, the wound beneath the behavior, the fear behind the silence.
My background in languages has also given me access to greater knowledge and wisdom. It allowed me to learn from amazing international coaches and mentors, making me better at what I do. It gave me the foundation and the self-confidence to stand in front of an international audience and speak to them in a language that is not my mother tongue.
Languages trained me to understand people beyond literal speech—to feel their truth, their blocks, their soul. In many ways, healing is a form of translation: it’s about helping someone interpret their pain, find their love language, understand their patterns, and rewrite their story in a language that empowers them.
What advice do you give to women trying to grow a business while being present as mothers?
Balancing motherhood and work is never easy, especially when you feel called to build a successful career or pursue your purpose as an entrepreneur. Children need attention, love, and guidance—they require our time and focus, just as our business does. This constant pull can leave us feeling like we’re drowning in tasks and obligations, spending all our energy on everyone else while feeling guilty for not fully showing up for either.
A day has only 24 hours, yet we try to juggle motherhood, household chores, cooking, driving kids to activities, tracking hobbies and talents—all while living, breathing, and doing our work. It’s exhausting, overwhelming, and suffocating.
Even as we struggle, we often feel we must manage it alone. Wanting equality with men makes it hard to admit that the dual demands of motherhood and work can sometimes be too much. We fear asking for help will make us appear incapable or limited, undermining everything we’ve worked so hard to achieve. Saying, “I’m drowning, I need help,” feels impossible. So we pressure ourselves to do it all, often at the cost of losing ourselves.
Being a business mom is hard, but it’s not impossible. We just need to find the courage to say, “I can’t do it all by myself. I need help. I need a support circle, or I’m going to lose it.” That is not failure or defeat—it’s proof of self-love and bravery.
It’s not really about balancing different areas of life; it’s about being honest with ourselves. Balance is a myth that pressures women to be everything to everyone, perfectly, without flaws, and to excel in every female role or archetype at once—which is simply impossible. Instead of striving for balance, I suggest integration—because integration allows a woman to lead both her business and her family from the same core: her intuitive feminine truth.
So, my advice is simple:
Build a business that works with your current energy, time, and limitations
Drop the guilt and accept that presence matters more than perfection
Trust your archetypal rhythm and honor that some seasons are for expansion, while others are for nurturing
Ask for help and remember that it used to take a village to raise a child. There is no need to do it alone
Create your business around your life and commitments, not the other way around
Adjust your working hours, availability, workspace, and methods to your kids
Share or outsource tasks you can’t or don’t want to do
Build a support circle that helps you care for your children while honoring your energy and limits
Motherhood shifts our capacity to live, breathe, and create—and that’s okay. When the kids are small, they need more of you, which means your business may grow slower but stronger. As they grow older and more independent, you naturally have more space to expand your career, vision, and legacy. By adjusting your business to your role as a mother, instead of resisting it, both areas of life become easier to manage, lighter to navigate, and far more fulfilling in the long term.
How do you help someone who seems successful but still feels unfulfilled?
When a woman is successful yet feels empty, it’s almost always because she has built a life based on expectations—not soul alignment. Achievement without alignment always leads to disconnection and unfulfillment.
Many women create a business to prove something:
To prove someone wrong
To prove to themselves that they are capable
Or to please the people they love—parents, partners, children, mentors
Some end up chasing dreams that were never truly theirs. Others use business as a way to avoid dealing with emotional wounds or to escape the loneliness, pain, or unmet needs in their private life. And sometimes… the business simply isn’t their calling anymore.
So whenever women feel unfulfilled, I guide them back home, back to their soul truth:
What do they truly desire—beyond what they were taught to want?
Which parts of themselves feel ignored, abandoned, or silenced?
Which responsibilities are they carrying that were never theirs?
What wounds are they still avoiding, protecting, or performing around?
Where are they living for others instead of for themselves?
Unfulfillment is not a failure—it’s feedback. It’s our soul saying, “This isn’t who you are anymore.” It simply points out that the external self no longer matches the internal self. Once we bring those two into alignment, fulfillment stops being something she chases. It becomes her natural state: her home, her truth, her soul’s calling.
When we align with our true purpose, we stop hitting walls. We stop pouring energy, time, and resources into things that don’t flow. We stop swimming against the current and allow ourselves to release control, trusting the Universe—or a higher power—to guide us.
That’s when the soul stops resisting, and the blocks dissolve. That’s when life begins to flow naturally, without struggle or force. That’s when the Universe starts showing us the rewards we’ve been ready to receive—if we have the courage to make space for them.
What is the next step or evolution for your work and mission?
For me, the next step in my work is deeply personal—it comes from everything I’ve seen, felt, and learned over the years. I’ve realized that true transformation comes from healing the source, not just fixing consequences, and that my work must begin before we even become parents. I am definitely going to put more emphasis on the “Become a Better Parent” idea.
This year, in particular, I’ve also learned that supporting women alone is not enough; both partners must heal and grow together. When couples step fully into this process, the results are profound—I’ve seen my success rate rise from 80–85% to 100% this past year, as I started working with couples rather than women only. I’ve come to understand that parenting is not a birthright but a responsibility and a sacred calling, and my mission now is to guide couples to embrace it fully as conscious, healed partners.
So, the only logical step for 2026 is the expansion and refinement of my programs and services. My work has always reflected my personal journey, growing and evolving with me. Every decade, it expands and takes on a deeper, more profound shape. Right now, that growth is calling me to step onto an international stage—supporting not only women in my home country and neighboring countries but reaching women and families around the globe.
My mission remains helping women and couples heal their core wounds—the ones that silently cause havoc in love, family, fertility, self-love, parenting, purpose, and happiness. But in 2026, I will also focus on:
Being visible and heard on a global scale
Start writing a book and offering group experiences to reach and inspire more people in a shorter period of time
Offering multi-layered healing containers, such as intensive, personalized 1-week fertility retreats for couples to achieve faster and deeper results
Hosting international workshops and teachings on how to heal and become a parent who doesn’t break or hurt their children, but instead holds space, loves, and keeps them safe
Providing tools that break generational patterns before they reach our children
At this stage, my work is about more than preparing bodies for pregnancy—it’s about helping women and couples become the parents their children deserve. It’s about helping women step fully into their purpose, navigate love, family, work, and self-worth without losing themselves, while raising children who grow up whole, resilient, and empowered.
My vision is clear: to heal women and couples so deeply that their children never carry the same wounds. To transform mothers, families, and generations. To help women have it all without losing themselves, and ultimately, to create a better world—one person, one parent, and one child at a time.
This interview reveals the depth and evolution of Alneja Gašpar Horvat’s mission: not only to help women conceive, but to empower couples to break inherited patterns before they reach the next generation. Her work stands at the frontline of emotional and ancestral healing, rewriting narratives of womanhood, motherhood, and feminine identity with a clarity that is both grounded and spiritual. Through holistic methodology, lived experience, and a devotion to transformation, she offers a model of parenthood and personal growth that transcends achievement and returns to soul alignment. In her world, healing is not an event—it is lineage reconstruction, identity reclamation, and the foundation of conscious family creation.
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