Written by: Royce Morales, Executive Contributor
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If you are trudging along most any spiritual path, there is a universally accepted commandment that is perhaps the toughest to apply. To paraphrase: The secret of a happy life is not minding what happens. There are more crude ways to express this piece of wisdom, but you get the gist.
When I explain this concept to students, eyes widen, foreheads furrow and their inevitable response is: Huh? Aren’t we supposed to mind? Wouldn’t that mean we’d all be walking around like robots letting ourselves be walked over, not caring about helping others or the planet? And how in the heck do you do that, anyway? Sounds impossible.
My response is to clarify that the only reason you mind is because a fear has been triggered. You mind because your subconscious (or conscious) mind took what happened and made it mean something. Like when that person cut you off on the freeway, you mind because your thoughts made it mean that you could’ve been hurt. Or worse.
So, said student continues, shouldn’t we mind that we almost got killed?
My answer: Yes, of course, on a physical, human level, how could you not mind? Afterall, it was tough to get here and even tougher to survive. But on a spiritual level, all of that is meaningless. The spirit cannot be harmed or die. It doesn’t feel an attachment to the body that it’s temporarily inhabiting. Its only concern is to evolve and do what it committed to do here – your higher purpose.
Usually at that point, eyes glaze over, and they back off from the discussion. Most likely, they’re having an internal dialogue about how impossible it would be to reach that state of nirvana, even if they wanted to. Perhaps they flash on all the times they did mind and maybe feel a sense of pride about those choices no matter the outcomes.
I then smile and trust that, when they’re ready, they’ll get it. In my personal experience, it’s a journey that takes as long as it takes. Lifetimes, perhaps.
What happens from minding
Since life consists of countless big or small irritations, you might be in various degrees of constant minding. The key is recognizing what’s being triggered.
How? By looking within to determine the real issue, also known as what you made it mean.
Checking in is always the first and best choice before taking action based on feeling irritated. Once you recognize that you are in an autopilot, reactive state, you can make wiser, more mindful, and intuitively based choices.
Minding dualities
Knowing the difference between minding from a trigger versus minding from a higher consciousness place, can prevent violence, war and other fear-based actions.
How do they differ?
When you mind from a spiritual place it comes from an attempt to awaken your higher purpose, why you chose to be here. It’s knowing that a situation is spurring you to take action based on a strong sense that there is a bigger, significant reason to do so.
The difference is that one action is from a survival-based fear, the need to be right, the desire to stop or destroy something. The other is from love, knowing there is a higher consciousness reason to do something. It feels pure, a deep sense of purposefulness and often has nothing logical behind it. You. Just. Know. When this part of you insists that you do take action, it will never be from anger, vindictiveness or attempting to prove something.
The example of someone almost getting into a car accident could have been an event to awaken their higher consciousness mission. Maybe they are here to create a completely safe vehicle that will never hit other vehicles. Or perhaps becoming a driving instructor.
Once you tell the difference between minding from a trigger versus minding from a higher consciousness place, you can determine how to respond when things happen. You will know when to take action, big or small, real or symbolic, to assist the situation, thus fulfilling your purpose.
You will also know when you are minding due to fear-based reactiveness. This recognition will have you choose to not take action which will allow your true power and intuition to emerge, generating miraculous results.
Since most humans have relegated their higher consciousness to the back row, it’s often challenging to finally hear and trust it. Especially when it tells you to not do anything or instructing that it’s better to not mind. My advice? Keep asking.
What if you do mind?
As a spirit inhabiting a physical body, it’s difficult to not mind. You’ve been taught to mind from day one by people who are experts at it. So, getting to a place of not minding is a practice that takes commitment and the willingness to do some inner delving. Discovering what your minding is really about is the key.
I repeat what I said previously: It takes as long as it takes, maybe even lifetimes. And, just so you know, it’s one of those skills you can’t fake so don’t even try.
Hints to not mind
It’s just fear. Spend a minute looking inside. It’s worth investing your time and energy to not get caught up in that surge of anger and inner protest trying to direct you. Stop, look within, and see what the situation symbolizes to you. Recognize what it’s really about – just a triggered fear making it mean something. Remember the accurate acronym for fear: False Evidence Appearing Real. It’s that false evidence that’s making you mind.
Feel feel feel. Not minding doesn’t mean suppressing your emotions. Emotions are neon signs indicating that a fear has been triggered even though they usually show up as sadness, anger, etc. Allow yourself to feel them, acknowledge them, talk about them and complete them without judgement and without acting on them. Once they’ve been felt, take a deep breath, and see what they’re really about. That anger, indignance, desire for revenge and the internal sermon about respect is camouflaging the real issue. And the real issue is always a triggered fear.
See the mirror. A quick way to resolve most of the oomph of minding is recognizing what the situation is “mirroring” to you. In other words, what have you done that’s the same or similar? Are you suppressing an aspect of yourself that feels the same way? What is this situation trying to awaken in you that you’re in denial of about yourself? And most importantly: What is the higher consciousness lesson being presented from this experience?
Practice taking those three steps rather than trying to jump into a phony state of Zen-like acceptance. Otherwise, you’ll be one of those people that tells the same story over and over about something that happened years ago, still trying to extract pitiful reactions and attention to validate why you haven’t let it go.
Granted, it’s tempting to mind what happens. You are in a body, after all. But in the long run, minding only keeps you stuck, unevolved and distant from the empowered, loving person you are meant to be.
So, be open-minded and keep all this in the back of your mind. Or at least broaden your mind to change your mind to not give a piece of your mind even when it feels justified. After all, you are looking for peace of mind, right?
Royce Morales, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Royce Morales is a renowned trailblazer, creator of an innovative, spiritually based approach to inner transformation. Her program, Perfect Life Awakening, emerged from a lifetime of frustration searching for inner work that worked. She discovered that revealing specific subconscious origins of self-sabotage, removing its persistent influence, life can shift.
She developed a clearing technique that releases programmed, false beliefs from this as well as previous lives. Negative patterns and hidden fears resolve so paralyzing issues lose their impact. This exclusive, time-tested work takes students from triggered to empowered, uncovering their authentic, purpose-driven life.
PLA also provides applicable tools to navigate daily life – ways to rapidly shift from anger to calm, fear to acceptance, judgement to connection. The work emphasizes awareness of, trusting and following one’s innate intuitive wisdom, then taking bold, inspired, real-world action.
The Perfect Life Awakening courses take place remotely and are presented in small groups to provide individual attention. Royce offers private inner discovery sessions to facilitate deeper work, utilizing her proprietary spiritual clearing technique called Spiritual Cognition Integration.
Royce is the author of three books about her teachings: Want – True Love, Past Lives and Other Complications; Know: A Spiritual Wake-up Call and Back: Rebirth After Stroke, all available on Amazon.
Go to Royce’s YouTube channel where she shares enlightening information about her teachings. She posts weekly blogs and writes articles for several other publications.
