Written by: Roxy Rapedius, Executive Contributor
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Do you often describe your day, your week, or your month as crazy-busy? I believe we are all culprits of saying and feeling like that, however, how well are you handling your crazy-busy?
I often hear from my clients that they are crazy busy and wonder why they are stressed, exhausted, frustrated, unfulfilled, anxious, not achieving any of their goals and their relationships are suffering. They are constantly running in a vicious circle and can’t get out of it. And many think that crazy-busy is a sign of being successful and important! It’s not!
Brene Brown states that “one of the most universal numbing strategies is what she calls crazy-busy. She often says that when they start having 12-step meetings for busy-aholics, they’ll need to hire football stadiums because we have a culture of people who’ve swallowed the idea that if we stay busy enough, the truth of our lives won’t catch up with us. It is a justification for not bothering to pause, evaluate what’s going on in their life and reconsider decisions regarding lifestyle, work, family and perhaps whether it’s really necessary to be crazy-busy.”
When you are crazy-busy your stress hormones rise and remain there and the primary functional role of the prefrontal cortex decreases meaning that your impulse control, your judgment, your memory falls apart and your anger and anxiety are increasingly triggered. Are you experiencing this?
One can be extremely successful and important without the crazy busy! It’s all in how we react to the stress created in our life!
Here are a few steps to follow:
In your crazy state, you are always busy and stressed out because you are responding to every challenge the same way. When you are crazy-busy everything is urgent! When you organize and prioritize every challenge coming to you by what is urgent (immediately life-threatening), serious (non-life-threatening), non-urgent, and finally not self-serving, your reaction to challenges will change and your life become easier.
Plan your meals
Plan your whole week's meal on the weekend so you have a healthy meal on the table instead of ordering fast food. If you don’t like prepping, take advantage of Hello Fresh / Chefs Plate / Life Fit Food or other meal delivery services to eliminate the decision-making of what to cook every day.
Remove bad foods from your house to eliminate temptations.
Use a scheduler/planner and list
Do not leave anything to remember. Schedule urgent/important things as non-negotiable and follow through.
Organize your home
Decluttering your home helps declutter your mind.
Organize and collocate everything that needs to be together. For example, store everything you need for your trips together so you don’t spend hours on end looking for stuff shortly before you travel. H.G. Chissell says that clutter is a physical manifestation of fear that cripples our ability to grow.
Put your phone away
Hide your phone and carry on with your tasks quickly instead of procrastinating by texting or engaging on social media. I challenge you to keep tabs on how many minutes, even hours you spend on social media or other non-self-serving things…you will be appalled at how much time you waste during one day!
Take care of yourself. You cannot help anyone when you are working on half empty. It is senseless for you to work so hard early morning until late at night with limited sleep. Take the time to properly rest, exercise, eat and rejuvenate your body and mind. Filling your cup first will allow you to be more present with others.
Roxy Rapedius, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Roxy Rapedius’ decades of professional experience include progressively increasing responsibility and measurable positive results. Roxy has built significant and unique skills through these roles. She has experience in life coaching, public speaking, training, teaching, behavioral analysis, addiction, trauma, mental health, palliative support, grief and bereavement support, opioid dependency treatment, finance, insurance, event planning, financial planning, environmental development, immigration, dental, and banking. As CEO and Coach of Life Coach With Roxy, she approaches her work and life as an established leader who gets results. Roxy has a curiosity and keen desire to expand her knowledge and acumen to reach greater heights in serving others as a leader in business and life.