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Conscious Relationships Vs. Abusive Relationships – Choosing Love Over Fear

  • Jun 18, 2023
  • 3 min read

Written by: Brooke Kekos, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

Executive Contributor Brooke Kekos

Relationships can be a source of great joy and fulfillment, but they can also be a source of pain and trauma. In this article, we will explore the differences between conscious relationships and abusive relationships, and why it is so important to choose love over fear.

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Conscious relationships


They are built on a foundation of trust, respect, and open communication. Both partners are committed to their own personal growth and the growth of the relationship. They recognize that they are each responsible for their own happiness, and they work together to create a partnership that supports and uplifts them both.


In a conscious relationship, there is a deep understanding that each partner is a unique individual with their own needs, desires, and dreams. Both partners are committed to honoring each other's individuality while also coming together to create a shared vision for their life together.


Conscious relationships are rooted in love, compassion, and empathy. Both partners are committed to treating each other with kindness and understanding, even when they disagree or have conflict. They recognize that every interaction is an opportunity to deepen their connection and strengthen their bond.


Abusive relationships


In contrast, abusive relationships are built on a foundation of fear, control, and manipulation. One partner seeks to dominate and control the other, often using physical, emotional, or psychological abuse to maintain their power.


In an abusive relationship, there is a lack of trust, respect, and open communication. One partner may try to isolate the other from friends and family, monitor their every move, and use threats or violence to keep them in line. The abused partner may feel trapped, helpless, and unable to leave.


Abusive relationships are rooted in fear, anger, and resentment. The abuser may have experienced trauma or abuse in their own past, which they then perpetuate on their partner. They may use their power to belittle, degrade, and humiliate their partner, often justifying their behavior by blaming the victim.


Choosing love over fear


The choice between a conscious relationship and an abusive relationship is ultimately a choice between love and fear. In a conscious relationship, both partners are committed to choosing love in every interaction, even when it is difficult or uncomfortable. They recognize that every moment is an opportunity to deepen their connection and grow together.


In an abusive relationship, fear dominates every interaction. The victim may be afraid of physical harm, emotional abuse, or psychological manipulation. The abuser may be afraid of losing control or being abandoned. Both partners are trapped in a cycle of fear and pain, unable to break free without outside help.


If you are in an abusive relationship, it is important to reach out for help. There are resources available to help you escape and heal from the trauma of abuse. No one deserves to be abused, and there is always a way out.


If you are in a conscious relationship, celebrate the love and connection that you have built together. Remember that every moment is an opportunity to deepen your bond and grow together. Cherish your partner and honor their individuality, while also working together to create a shared vision for your life together.


Ultimately, it is important to be able to see where your relationship may not be working for you and make the needed adjustments. You deserve to have a safe haven, and loving space in all relationships.


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Brooke Kekos Brainz Magazine

Brooke Kekos, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Brooke Kekos, is a Magnetic Mindset Coach, RTT Practitioner, and Clinical Hypnotherapist. A traumatic childhood raised in a controlling religious sect, and an abusive father led her to stay stuck in an abusive marriage for 17 years. Once she broke free she transformed her life and career to dedicate her life to helping others heal from their own trauma and suffering to raise their own states of higher consciousness. She is now CEO of Life Coaching Goddess, an international speaker, and soon to be an author of her own memoir.

 
 

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