Build Self-Trust Through Curiosity – The Real Path to Psychological Safety
- Brainz Magazine
- Aug 7
- 5 min read
Written by Charlotte Phelps, Founder
Charlotte Phelps, Founder of The Alchemy of Being, transformed her life from a terminal prognosis into a mission to empower others. She offers tools and insights, born from her own journey, for personal growth and holistic health, helping individuals curate their unique 'Toolbelt for Life'.
What if your greatest source of clarity wasn’t found in certainty, but in curiosity? In a world that prizes quick fixes and confidence, we often forget the quiet superpower of not-knowing. In this article, we’ll explore why non-judgmental curiosity is the doorway to psychological safety and how it strengthens your inner discernment so you can live your wellness your way.
What is psychological safety, and why should you build it internally?
Psychological safety is the felt sense that it’s safe to speak, explore, or reflect without fear of judgment or harm. While the term is most often used in the workplace, its most transformational application is personal. When your mind, body, and nervous system experience you as a safe presence, everything changes.
But most people unknowingly outsource their safety, waiting for validation from a partner, employer, influencers, an expert, or a health authority. To make us feel “ok”. The result? A fragile kind of stability that crumbles under pressure and is, essentially, outside of our control.
According to research in Health Affairs Scholar, cultivating psychological safety is linked to reduced burnout and greater resilience in high-pressure environments. These benefits apply not just at work, but in our inner worlds too. When safety is self-sourced, trust can bloom. And that begins with curiosity.
Why curiosity is the key to inner trust
Our brains are hardwired for survival, not truth. Anything unfamiliar is registered as a potential threat, as unsafe, not because it’s dangerous, but simply because it is unknown. That includes ideas, feedback, or even inner sensations that challenge our comfort zone.
This is where curiosity becomes powerful. In my first article, I shared how my healing began when I questioned mainstream medicine and explored alternative paths. That act of curiosity wasn’t passive, it was courageous. It created a new foundation for trust in my own body.
When you greet your thoughts with wonder instead of wariness: “Why did I feel that?” instead of “What’s wrong with me?”, you shift from fear-based analysis to resonance-based exploration. Over time, this builds internal trust, and your nervous system begins to learn that you’ve truly got your own back. Practicing curiosity trains your nervous system to stay open in the presence of ambiguity. This builds trust at the neural level with the brain encoding: I can handle what arises in me.
The difference between judgment and discernment
Judgment is a subtle saboteur. It’s fast, rigid, and reactive. It often stems from past programming or inherited beliefs. It says, “This is good, that is bad,” and shuts the door on inquiry. While discernment asks, “What is true for me here?” – it’s responsive. It invites you to sense your truth in real-time.
Curiosity, on the other hand, is fluid. It doesn’t rush to conclusions. Instead, it creates enough internal spaciousness for your discernment muscle to feel what’s aligned, not just think about it.
As explored in my last article, true discernment arises when you’ve cultivated enough inner space to feel what resonates, not just think it.
And that space? It’s created by non-judgmental curiosity.
Four daily practices to build psychological safety through curiosity
1. Pause with “what if…”
Next time you feel triggered, instead of shutting it down, ask: “What if this discomfort has wisdom?”, “What if there’s something else going on here?” or “What if this discomfort is showing me something important?” This gently softens your reactivity.
2. Track sensations instead of stories
Inspired by my article on sleep, begin noticing how your body communicates with you, such as tightness, warmth, restlessness, without labelling it. Sensations often speak louder than thoughts.
3. Flip self-criticism into wonder
When you catch a judgmental thought (“Why can’t I get this right?”), try flipping it: “What might this be revealing?” or “What is this teaching me about myself?”. This opens a window to self-trust. It’s a subtle shift that can transform shame into insight.
4. Curiosity journaling
Each morning, write three open-ended questions without answering them. For example: “What feels incomplete in me today?” This trains your nervous system to stay open without needing resolution. Over time, you’ll notice your brain becoming more exploratory.
How this build long-term discernment
Every time you allow curiosity to soften judgment, you strengthen your capacity to perceive clearly. You’re no longer trapped in inherited assumptions or other people’s expectations, you’re sourcing your decisions from your own resonance.
This is where discernment flourishes: not as a rulebook, but as a subtle, moment-to-moment skill rooted in psychological self-trust.
Why is this path more sustainable than quick fixes
Back in May’s article, we discussed how sustainable growth requires nervous system safety. That’s exactly what curiosity builds. It’s not about “getting it right”, it’s about staying present long enough to trust what arises.
When safety comes from within, you stop looking for someone else to give you permission. You become your own anchor.
Ready to strengthen your discernment muscle?
If this resonates, I’d love to offer you two next steps:
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Live your wellness, your way
Ultimately, wellness is not a formula. It’s a lived experience that unfolds uniquely for every person. When you give yourself permission to be curious, non-linear, and discerning, you begin to design a life that feels safe because it’s built on your terms.
That’s how self-fulfilling psychological safety becomes a foundation, not a fantasy.
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Charlotte Phelps, Founder
Charlotte Phelps's life took a pivotal turn at 33 when she was given just six weeks to live due to a likely bowel perforation. This diagnosis came after a decade of being told she was fine by the medical world, making it both validating and shocking. Forced to explore unconventional options to survive, Charlotte not only regained her health but underwent a transformative journey of soul, mind, and body. She also developed a profound need to understand how she had lived, which sparked a decade-long exploration of holistic practices and alternative approaches. This journey ignited a deep passion to share what she’d discovered with others, leading to the creation of The Alchemy of Being.
