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Are You Wasting Time Trying To Figure Things Out On Your Own?

  • Nov 24, 2024
  • 4 min read

Naseha, a healing coach with a Master's in NLP, TimeLine Therapy certification, silva practitioner and a background as an ex-airforce officer, adeptly guides clients to inner peace.

Executive Contributor Naseha Shaban

In today’s fast-paced world, we often feel like we have to do everything on our own. Whether it’s in our personal lives, careers, or business, many of us try to figure things out by trial and error. We watch free videos online, read articles, and ask our friends for advice. But here’s the truth: these "one-size-fits-all" solutions don’t always work, and sometimes, they can make things worse.


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Think back to the old days. In the past, people had gurus, elders, or wise mentors who guided them. Families were closely knit, and you had people around you to help when you needed it most. and it wasn’t uncommon to have someone to turn to when you faced a challenge. In many ways, those deep connections made life a little easier.


But today, things are different. While we have access to endless information on the internet, it’s easy to get lost in a sea of advice that doesn’t necessarily fit our specific needs. It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the noise. And often, the advice we find online isn’t tailored to us—it’s generic, and one-size-fits-all. And let’s face it: what works for someone else doesn’t always work for you.


This is where the power of coaching comes in.


Why coaching matters

A coach is not just someone who tells you what to do. A coach is a guide, a mentor, someone who listens to your challenges and helps you create a personalized plan to overcome them. They don’t give you generic advice. Instead, they help you understand your unique strengths, weaknesses, and goals—and work with you to reach your full potential.


Here’s why a coach makes sense


  1. They help you see what you can’t see: When you’re too close to a problem, it’s hard to see the full picture. A coach can look at things from a different angle and show you solutions you might never have thought of.

  2. They hold you accountable: It’s easy to make excuses or get distracted when you're going solo. A coach will keep you on track and make sure you follow through with your plans.

  3. They save you time: Ever wasted hours or even days trying to figure something out on your own? A coach helps you skip the trial and error, getting you to the right answer faster. Time is valuable, and a coach makes sure you use yours wisely.

  4. They push you to be better: It’s easy to get comfortable in your routine, but if you really want to grow, you need someone to challenge you. A coach will push you out of your comfort zone and encourage you to reach higher.

  5. They offer expert advice: Why struggle with problems that others have already solved? A coach brings years of experience and knowledge, giving you access to strategies and advice that work.

  6. They give you support when you need it: Life isn’t always smooth sailing, and there will be tough days. A coach is there to encourage you, remind you of your strengths, and keep you moving forward, even when things get tough.

  7. They help you stay focused: In today’s busy world, it’s easy to get distracted. A coach helps you stay focused on your goals and make the right choices, no matter what life throws at you.

  8. They celebrate your wins: It’s important to celebrate progress, no matter how small. A coach is there to recognize your achievements and help you stay motivated to keep going.

  9. They help you make better decisions: When you're stuck, making the right choice can feel impossible. A coach helps you think through your options and make decisions that move you closer to your goals.

  10. They help you find balance: Sometimes it’s not about working harder, but working smarter. A coach can help you find balance in your life, ensuring you focus on what matters most without burning out.


You don’t have to go through life trying to figure it all out by yourself. It’s natural to want to figure things out by yourself. But the truth is, most successful people didn’t get where they are by doing everything alone. They had guidance and a support.


When and where do you need a coach?

The question isn’t if you need a coach—it’s when and where you need one. Maybe you’re already at a point where you’re ready to make a change, or perhaps you’re on the edge of a big decision. Whatever it is, take a moment to think about how a coach can help you right now.


Decide when it’s the right time for you to get that extra support and take the next step toward your goals. It might be sooner than you think!


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Naseha Shaban, Healing Coach & Timeline Therapist

Naseha, a former air traffic controller in the Pakistan Air Force, transitioned into motherhood before rekindling her passion for learning. She achieved mastery in NLP and became a Timeline Therapist and a Silva Practitioner. Engaging in social work for special kids with the Pakistan Association Dubai, she now empowers clients as a healing coach, guiding them towards inner peace.

 
 

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