Are You Having Difficulty To Adapt Change?
- Jul 8, 2023
- 4 min read
Updated: Feb 12, 2024
Written by: Halldór Bergmann Halldórsson, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
Let's talk about change! Why is it so hard for people to adapt á new positive change? Let's start out with the typical gym goer!
This most likely is a man "Could be a woman off course "Between 30s and 50s he/she already knows that doing some form of exercise is good for your health and you already know this!
I want to mention that there are people who wait for some sort of crisis until they start to begin to get their health in order!
When the crisis hit, they all of sudden woke up from the resting state and all of sudden they start!
Why is that?
I will continue with the story!
He/she announced that to her "Spouse" that he or she is going to the gym and buys 12 monthly membership!
Okay, says the spouse "Well she has heard this before, and the spouse deep down knows that this is not going to happen. Are you with me?
He/she thinks it's better to announce to the friends as well.
He/she is full of motivation, and this time it's going to happen, and the intention is there.
He/she throws in a selfie at the gym just so that is confirmed he/she is there.
Have you heard this kind of story before?
I will continue!
He/she goes to the gym a few times, and it's like something is moving forward right now. Damm, it's so good to be on track!
Somewhere on the line, life hits, and he/she can't seem have time... Okay, I will go tomorrow.
He/she hits the gym, but this is happening more and more frequently... Then the motivation is decreasing, and what is happening is that he/she is saying on the line it's not enough time?
I can't make it!
Now!
Let's stop for a minute and take a look at what's happening behind the scenes!
1. When you repeatedly say that you don't have time over and over, it forms a "Belief," and after saying that repeatedly to our self it becomes your reality!
One example!
I had a client he wanted to go down in weight!
He was driving to work back/forward 4 hours each day along he was sitting at work "8 hours," he "Believed" that he didn't have time!
He managed to find 30 minutes when he got home. "He took a walk" along with proper nutrition, and after 5 months, he lost 13 kg!
Awesome, right?!
Here are some more examples that "Maybe some of you are familiar with"
Ahh I forgot my gym bag att home!
I don't feel like it!
I'm to bloated!
I'm to tired!
I haven't eaten enough today!
Too much people in the gym att this hour!
Is this something that you want to live by?
Continue!
All of sudden, he/she is on the same spot again at square one!
What's creeping in is a feeling of unworthiness.
And then creeps in!
I'm to old.
It's so late to start now.
It's never going to work.
I will never get this.
It's going to take so long time.
And the person goes back to the same old reality.
So what people tend to do is talk themselves out of possibilities to not do it!
Tip!
What you want is to create a level of awareness!
What I mean is that you have to think about what you are thinking about so that you are not talking yourself out of possibilities!
If you would notice, would you cave in?
Would you?
And then spouse is asking questions like were you not supposed to be in the gym?
And she got the classic answer that he/she didn't have time!
Both you and I know that this is bs.
Maybe then she makes jokes as long as the friends and he/she is trying to laugh, but deep down, that person is not laughing!
Exactly, there comes that feeling of shame/unworthiness, and the person is looking down to the floor.
Then the gym is getting monthly sponsorship from the person!
What I see is the belief system in us that has mold us through life and that energy which we give into are you with me?
As well by talking themselves out of possibilities by not doing it!
Could this also be that the personality that they are now is hindering them to get ahead?
My tip is to start questioning that belief!
It can make wonders when we flip the switch, and the world will totally change!
Some people need accountability to get them going like my former client!
20 years ago I got my health checked because I recently got sober and wanted to check my health if everything was fine after using drugs and alcohol for 5 years daily everything was fine so she suggested that I started to train for the health benefits!
I've been in the gym since then and still loving it!
Here are few tips!
You can not have faith in that "Motivation" feeling...
Do you think I've been motivated to go each time over 2 decades?
He'll no!
I've been tired and that chatter has been trying to convince me to not go I've caved in few times but I'm aware that is happening and I don't listen to it but when I go even though I don't feel like it or I'm tired I've noticed that's when I'm having a blast!
That was a surprise!
Have you heard off to be in alignment with your goals?
You probably have!
Who do you need to be to get the job done?
Maybe you need to take that gym bag with you in the morning so that you don't talk your way out of training afternoon "Hint"
Halldór Bergmann Halldórsson, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Halldór Bergmann Halldórsson is a coach who helps people to develop from the inside and out. After going through many stages in his life he started the journey on himself when he quit using drugs and alcohol daily for 5 years after that he has transformed himself in many ways and is inspiring and helping people who wants to change themselves! In his journey he has developed spiritual gifts that has helped him to see right through people who comes into his life! Like he says choose people who lift you up!
