5 Secrets Why You Should Forgive
Written by: Shira Raymond, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
I don’t know about you, but I have found that holding on to grudges only affects one person. Me! I realized long ago that the secret you have is learning to forgive everyone including yourself. When you learn to forgive, you allow yourself to heal and grow from the situation. What could be more empowering than that? You will always be faced with challenges that involve other people. It is our choice how you respond. You all know the story of the Hatfield’s and the McCoy’s, they have been fighting for generations and that hatred has been passed down through the years. Do you think the younger generation even knows why they hate one another? Maybe or maybe not but why waste all the energy when it can be used for ideas and people that empower you? Life is always about choice. Which direction do you go when you come to the fork? Do you follow the same path that you have gone down your whole life or choose a different direction and be open to new experiences? I hope you are encouraged to try something new in the future. It might be the most powerful thing you have ever done.
Secret #1 Free your mind
How many times has someone wronged you and you hold on to that anger and frustration for years? You find yourself in victim mode and feel justified hanging onto negative feelings. When you choose to let go and forgive someone in your heart it free’s up our mind to focus on more important things in your lives. Quantum Physics tells us that everything in life is made up of energy and vibration including our emotions. When you are in victim mode you are vibrating at a very low level and attract more of the same into your lives, since you know like attracts like.
Secret #2 Empowers you
Imagine how empowering it is to take control of your emotions and your wellbeing? Every day you are faced with situations that can affect our lives negatively. Our choice is on how you are going to react. When you can transform our emotional state of being into those positive emotions, we build resilience and can overcome most challenges that life throws at us. You begin to see every incident in your life as an opportunity for growth. This is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself and those in your life.
Secret #3 You take control of your life
When you make the decision to take control of your lives, you choose to take responsibility for everything that happens to you. You give up playing the blame game since it doesn’t serve you anymore. If you believe in God or Universe, you understand that everything that happens in your life is for your benefit. To grow! Have there been times when you get stuck in the indignation of the event, leaving us to feel anger or frustration. Again, the choice is yours how you respond to every incident in your life. When you take control of your life you open to life’s challenges and embrace them for what they are.
Secret #4 You don’t need to tell them
Have you been taught that to truly forgive someone you need to tell them that you forgive them? Who said? Eva Kors was a holocaust survivor and one of Mengele’s twins. She and her sister had horrible experiments done on them. After the holocaust was over, she got married and raised a family, but she was a very bitter and angry woman over the events that happened in Nazi Germany. The emotions poisoned her life and her relationships with everyone around her. She said that her life began at the age of 80 when she decided to forgive the Nazi’s for what they had done to her. By shifting her emotions to gratitude for the wonderful things in her life she was finally free from the emotional confines that she put on herself. At the time she made that decision there was no one to tell that she forgave them. It didn’t matter, the most important thing was that she let it go in her heart and mind and was finally free to concentrate on the people in her life that give her joy.
Secret #5 Bless and release
Imagine getting to a place where every time you catch yourself thinking negatively about someone you can bless and release them from your thoughts. When you live your life from a place of gratitude you learn that holding onto those negative people or emotions no longer serve you so why give them any emotional energy? Blessing and releasing is a great way to take back your power so you can shift your perspective to positive emotions that keep you on a higher vibrational state of being. Happiness comes from within and only you can create it.
I hope you find these steps helpful in shifting your perspective and learning to forgive yourself and others. It’s your life and your choice. Choose wisely!
Shira Raymond, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Shira Raymond, is a leader in the life transformation field for women, who are Suddenly Single. After leaving her marriage of 24 years, Shira has dedicated her life to empowering women to heal the past, gain clarity about what is important in their life and to create it. Her coaching encompasses all three aspects of self, mind, body and spirit. She helps her clients to master their mindset and emotions so that they can change every aspect of their lives. She is the CEO of Suddenly Single and Shira Raymond Coaching. She has three books coming out in the first quarter of 2022. Her mission: Create the next chapter of your life, on your terms.
