3 Rules To Stop Your Self-Compassion And Use It To Your Advantage
- Oct 28, 2022
- 4 min read
Written by: Adrian Holguin, Executive Contributor
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It is very common to believe that self-compassion makes you inferior to others and that it is a weakness. In a society that changes very quickly and in which you have access to too many stimuli through social networks of successful, perfect lives, abundance, and so on, it is quite normal to experience this. Whenever you begin to act based upon ifs and lack of opportunities, that is the beginning of self-compassion. Comparing yourself with others is the first step. "If I didn't have kids" "If I was taller" "If I was younger" "If I were richer" "If I was born in that house" In response to this comparison, you begin to say, well this is who I am, this is the life I was meant to live, but it doesn't happen to me, I am used to it. As usual, I am like this or it is just my luck.
Throughout our lives, we have all had moments of self-compassion, especially when things don't seem to go our way. As a result, we feel anxious and depressed and lose confidence. As our confidence diminishes, we risk reducing our own potential as well as the security of achieving goals on a personal and professional level.
It is no secret that pessimistic and negative individuals are not popular in their workplaces or in their social circles. Therefore, being highly self-compassionate reduces the chances of integration into work teams or friendship groups.
Now that you understand the point, let's move forward to use this to your advantage.
1. Self-knowledge.
Understanding yourself is the first step to overcoming them, and recognizing them is the first step to overcoming them. Become aware of your excessive self-compassion. Self-compassion isn't bad, but you need to recognize when enough is enough. Change the words. Creating compassionate relationships with ourselves helps to promote emotional well-being, according to Kristin Neff, author of the book "Be kind to yourself". There is growing evidence that self-compassion can also have a positive impact on physical health. It goes from the immune response to stress to the stabilization of glucose in diabetics. By changing your words and treating yourself with kindness, you are applying your growth mindset. A growth mindset increases motivation and changes long-standing patterns. A growth mindset encourages people to strive for improvement since their abilities and personalities are malleable. Self-compassion is what leads people to adopt a growth mindset. There is a huge difference between saying, "I knew I would fail" and saying, "I failed, but I can do it better next time.". This attitude is essential for success in the workplace.
2. Self-control.
Make them aware of the thoughts you have and take control of them. You just have to change your words but inside your head. Approximately 60,000 thoughts occur each day in humans, 90 percent of which are repetitive, according to Stanford University's Fred Luskin. The mind is full of noise. Could you imagine what you could create, understand, or see if even 10% of it ceased? Consider all the possibilities. Now that you've changed your words, let's change the way you think about yourself. The simple thing with a simple thought is to start thinking "Oh God! It's just my luck!" instead of "Oh God, it's just my luck." Even though your brain is not an actual muscle, you can train it like one. Every thought in your head is the same as the repetition of crunches you do at the gym. Initially, you'll feel uncomfortable and sore, but after a couple of weeks, you'll see some definition and a six-pack after long hours of work. As with your brain and thinking, the more you practice, the happier you will feel.
3. Have faith.
We all experience bad situations at some point in our lives, and we must draw up plans to get out of them. In order to grow, you must believe in yourself and be comfortable with the process. Nobody. I mean, no one grows at the same rate. Although you may not have as much money as you'd like at your age, it doesn't mean you're poor, you likely have a lot of skills and talents that haven't blossomed yet. Over the course of my personal and professional life. It has been my pleasure to know many people. According to my conclusions, there are some rich people who are very impoverished, and there are some poor people who are very rich. Sometimes happiness isn't only about material things. We all know the history of Colonel Sanders; he was very old and mature when he became a billionaire. Believe in yourself, and never stop learning because you never know when one of your special abilities will shine, and open doors and opportunities that you never had before.
Put an end to comparing yourself with others. Say all the nicest things to you, and treat you like you are the most precious possession because you are. You have everything you need inside of you to succeed. You can build something new from your mistakes by using every failure as a step toward your goals. Remember that what you do today does not define who you can become tomorrow. Each day has 24 hours, so when you go to sleep you can change and try a new path.
"Change your thoughts, change your life"
Adrian Holguin, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Adrian Holguin is a leading industry executive and thought leader. Holguin has developed long-term growth strategies for companies in order to increase their revenue. Holguin has collaborated with top executives to understand their demands, develop practical solutions, implement procedures to address your problems, and develop innovations and transformation strategies that create value. Throughout his career, Holguin has worked for international corporations as well as small and medium-sized companies in the food industry. He is dedicated to helping individuals change their mindset so that they can achieve everything that they desire in life. "Change your thoughts, change your life" is his karma.
