3 Costly Sacrifices On Our Journey To Success
- Aug 6, 2021
- 3 min read
Written by: Eva Medilek, Executive Contributor
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In our pursuit to have more success, more wealth, better health, and happier relationships, we are killing ourselves. We’ve been sold on the idea that we can have it all. And, in our quest to have it all, we are told we don’t have to compromise. We can be it all, do it all and have it all and not sacrifice a thing.
We can essentially have our cake and eat it too, without getting fat in the process. Gosh, how I wish that were true. The pressure that we put on ourselves to balance wealth, health, and relationships has actually caused us to sacrifice those very things.
In our effort to have it all, we are actually sacrificing it all.
We don’t have to sacrifice everything, but we will have to sacrifice some things. The problem lies in what we are choosing to sacrifice. We are choosing to sacrifice the wrong things.
We are sacrificing our wealth in an effort to appear wealthy. Think about all of the money you spend to have nice clothes, drive nice cars and go on the best vacations so that you can appear to have more money than you actually have. You are sacrificing your wealth to be wealthy.
In an effort to be healthy, we are actually sacrificing our health. We lose too much weight, not enough weight, eat high protein, no carbs, workout to the point of pain and exhaustion, all to conform to a social media standard of what it looks like to be healthy.
But do you know what we sacrifice the most in order to be successful? We sacrifice our relationships. We spend all of our time, effort and energy working so that our families and loved ones can have it all. And, as a result, we spend very little time, effort, and energy with our families and on our relationships. Yet, we claim that we are doing it all for them. Crazy, right?
We sacrifice our relationships in order to appear that we have a great relationship. Look at social media, for example. In 2018, Inc. magazine published an article titled, “The more miserable you are, the happier your social media posts.”
Apparently, someone posted on Twitter, asking folks to share a photo that they posted on social media when they were going through a tough time but appeared to be fine and happy in the photos. Thousands of people responded by sharing smiling photos of themselves, confessing that they were depressed, mentally ill, fighting with their spouse, broke, and even suicidal. In essence, their life was not what it appeared to be on social media.
I’ve spoken to friends, family members, and clients about their happy, smiling posts, only to have them confess how truly unhappy they are. There is no love. No passion. No joy in their relationships. Honestly, I think it should be called “FAKEBOOK”.
So, what should you do so that you can stop sacrificing the people and things that are important to you and start letting go of the things that don’t serve you?
You can start by establishing clear priorities and setting clear boundaries. When you have clear priorities, you make better decisions, and you are 30% more likely to have higher success. It may be easier said than done, but stop trying to do it all.
Make your decisions based on your values and priorities. Stop saying yes to everything that doesn’t support your priorities and values. If it doesn’t support moving your priorities forward, say no.
You Don’t Have To Do It All In Order To Have It All.
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Eva Medilek, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Eva Medilek is a Certified High-Performance Coach and a Relationship Success Coach. She has coached both men and women in the areas of personal development, leadership and mastering habits for success. She specializes in helping powerful, successful women have happier, healthier, more intimate connections in their relationships without giving up their power. Eva knows firsthand how a driven personality type can leave you feeling lonely, disappointed, frustrated and resentful. You can achieve higher levels of success without sacrificing your health, well-being, and relationships. She uses her personal experiences along with her leadership, transformational and high performance training to teach you the pillars of high performance as well as showing you how to communicate in a way that fosters intimacy, influence and connection in your personal and professional life. High performance is succeeding consistently over the long term while maintaining a healthy life full of positive emotions and relationships.
