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Why High-Achieving Women Struggle To Leave The Work Hat Behind And Embrace Their Authentic Selves

Ana is a passionate and dedicated mentor and life coach, and she advocated for women's empowerment. With over 8 years of experience in the field, she has helped countless women reconnect with themselves, achieve their goals, and cultivate fulfilling relationships.

Executive Contributor Ana Salido

In today's fast-paced world, high-achieving women often find themselves juggling a multitude of roles and responsibilities.

Woman working on desk at home

They are executives, entrepreneurs, mothers, partners, friends, and more.

Yet, amidst all these roles, the "work hat" often seems glued to their heads, while the "woman hat" representing their true selves and personal needs remains neglected.

In this article, I delve into why it's so challenging for women to leave the work hat behind and how they can learn to embrace their authentic selves without sacrificing their professional success.

The work hat: A symbol of identity and validation

For many high-achieving women, their professional identity is a significant part of their self-worth.

The work hat represents more than just a job; it's a source of validation, accomplishment, and financial independence.

Society often applauds professional achievements, reinforcing the idea that success at work equates to personal value.

This external validation can make it incredibly difficult to set boundaries and prioritise personal needs.

The pressure to perform

The expectation to constantly perform and excel at work creates immense pressure.

High-achieving women often feel they must prove their worth continuously, leading to long hours, high stress, and burnout. And, this is even more true if they work in a male dominant environment.

Women often try to fit in and lead the same men would do it but we never ask men to lead like women.

The fear of being perceived as less dedicated or competent if they step back even slightly can be overwhelming.

This pressure is compounded by the internalised belief that taking time for oneself is indulgent or unproductive.

The myth of the superwoman

The cultural myth of the superwoman, who effortlessly balances a successful career, family, and social life, adds to the struggle.

This unrealistic standard sets women up for failure, making them feel inadequate when they can't do it all.

The superwoman myth discourages women from seeking help or admitting they need a break, perpetuating the cycle of overwork and self-neglect.

The importance of embracing the woman hat, womanhood

Wearing the woman hat means acknowledging and nurturing one's personal needs, desires, and well-being.

It's about embracing the multifaceted identity that includes but is not limited to professional success.

High-achieving women must recognise that their worth is not solely defined by their work.

Embracing the woman hat allows for a more balanced and fulfilling life, fostering happiness and overall well-being.

Strategies to overcome the struggle

  1. Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries between work and personal life. Designate specific times for work and stick to them. Communicate these boundaries to colleagues and family members to ensure they are respected.

  2. Prioritise self-care: Incorporate self-care into your daily routine. Whether it's exercise, meditation, reading, or hobbies, make time for activities that recharge you. Remember, self-care is not a luxury but a necessity. See here.

  3. Seek support: Build a support system of friends, family, and professional networks. Don't hesitate to delegate tasks at work and home. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

  4. Practice mindfulness: Engage in mindfulness practices to stay present and reduce stress. Mindfulness helps in recognising when the work hat is taking over and allows for a conscious shift towards personal well-being.

  5. Reevaluate goals: Regularly assess your personal and professional goals. Ensure they align with your values and overall life vision. Adjust them as needed to maintain a balanced approach to success.

  6. Celebrate small wins: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, both big and small. Recognising your efforts boosts self-esteem and reinforces the importance of personal fulfilment.

Introducing my signature program Goddess empowerment: 3 months to a thriving you

If you're a high-achieving woman struggling to balance your many hats, my signature program Goddess Empowerment is designed just for you.

This comprehensive coaching program will guide you through practical strategies to prioritise self-care, set effective boundaries, and rediscover your authentic self.

Over the course of three months, you'll receive personalised support, actionable insights, and the tools you need to thrive in both your personal and professional life.

Imagine a life where you can excel at work while also feeling fulfilled and balanced.

It's not just a dream, it's possible.

Join me on this transformative journey and learn how to leave the work hat behind when needed and embrace the woman you truly are.

Sign up today and take the first step towards a thriving, balanced life.

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Ana is a passionate and dedicated mentor and life coach, and she advocated for women's empowerment. With over 8 years of experience in the field, she has helped countless women reconnect with themselves, achieve their goals, and cultivate fulfilling relationships.

Driven by her journey of self-discovery and personal growth, Ana is deeply committed to guiding women on their path to self-love, authenticity and empowerment.

Known for her warmth, compassion and unwavering support, Ana creates a safe and nurturing space for women to explore their innermost desires, confront their fears and step into their full potential.



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