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Why Everything You Think About Sales Is Wrong

  • Writer: Brainz Magazine
    Brainz Magazine
  • Feb 23
  • 3 min read

Paulina is a World Class Leadership Coach for CEOs who excels at igniting iconic presence and personal power in top-tier leaders. She is also an International Speaker and Bestselling Author. For over 15 years, she held senior roles in Global Corporations serving Fortune 100 companies.

Executive Contributor Paulina Stankiewicz

If you flinch at the word sales, you're not alone. For many entrepreneurs, CEOs, and leaders, selling feels uncomfortable, awkward, or even downright sleazy. We've been conditioned to see salespeople as pushy, manipulative, and only interested in closing the deal. No wonder so many business owners avoid selling altogether.


A multiethnic senior couple is signing a business agent agreement with an estate investment consultant during a meeting.

But here's the truth: selling is not about convincing; it's about serving. And until you shift your beliefs around sales, you'll continue to struggle with revenue, growth, and impact.


The limiting beliefs that are costing you money


Most entrepreneurs have at least one of these running in the background:

  • “Selling means being pushy.”

  • “If I were truly good, I wouldn't have to sell.”

  • “People hate being sold to.”

  • “Asking for money feels awkward.”

  • “Sales is about taking, not giving.”

  • “I'm not the 'sales type.'”

  • “If someone says no, it means they don't see my value.”

  • “Selling is manipulative.”


Sound familiar? These beliefs aren't just thoughts; they're roadblocks stopping you from growing your business and making the impact you're here to make.


The irony? The best salespeople aren't convincing anyone of anything. They're simply offering solutions, creating trust, and leading powerful conversations.


Ready to shift this once and for all? Grab our amazing The Art of Selling Course.


Reframing sales: From pressure to partnership


Selling isn't about pushing; it's about connecting.


When done right, sales is one of the most powerful ways to serve. It's how you help the right people find the right solutions. It's how you create transformation, not just transactions.


Imagine if you started seeing sales as:


  • A natural conversation, not a performance.

  • A process of uncovering needs, not forcing decisions.

  • A way to help, not a way to take.


What if selling became easy, intuitive, and even… fun?


Mastering the art of selling (without feeling sleazy)


If you’re ready to shift your relationship with sales, here’s what you need to embrace:


  • Selling is an exchange of value. When people pay, they commit, and that’s how real transformation happens.

  • People love to buy, but hate to be forced. Your job isn’t to convince; it’s to create clarity.

  • The right people want what you have. Stop trying to “sell” everyone. Instead, focus on the ones who are already looking for what you offer.

  • Confidence is everything. If you’re uncertain about your value, your potential clients will be too.


Selling is a skill, and it’s one you can learn


You weren’t born knowing how to lead a team, build a business, or make strategic decisions. But you learned.


Sales is no different.


If you’re tired of avoiding sales, resisting growth, and staying stuck in outdated beliefs, it’s time for a shift.


Because the truth is: Sales isn’t something you do to people. It’s something you do for people.


Are you ready to master the art of selling?


Grab our amazing The Art of Selling Course and shift this once and for all.


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Paulina Stankiewicz, Leadership Coach for CEOs

Paulina is a World Class Leadership Coach for CEOs who excels at igniting iconic presence and personal power in top-tier leaders. She is also an International Speaker and Bestselling Author. For over 15 years, she held senior roles in Global Corporations serving Fortune 100 companies. This experience coupled with her MBA for Executives allows her to bring the business conversations with her clients to the next level. She is focused on improving the culture of organisations — starting with the top. She holds multiple International certifications and has been trained by the best teachers and coaches in the world. Her mission is to change the world, one leader at a time.

This article is published in collaboration with Brainz Magazine’s network of global experts, carefully selected to share real, valuable insights.

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