When You're Having A Shit Day
Written by: Ellen Lorraine Niemeier, Executive Contributor
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As you're trying to hold your breath in your puke-smelling car, you make way to the first thing that wasn't even on your own to-do list in the first place...
Oh wait, that part comes later...
You wake up, and whoops you looked at your phone before your eyes were even adjusted to the daylight, and you see tons of messages needing something from you. Research this, respond about that, do this, take care of...whatever. You try to get out of bed, but your kiddo has climbed in next to you, is sound asleep and pulling your hair over him like it's a blanket...
You try to refocus, but you're met with more distraction, more things pulling you away from yourself. And you aren't even out of bed!
You notice you're kind of on edge, but you do your best to stick to the plan of the day and get things done and just move through the challenges. But of course, when you're having a sh*t day, that stuff you're trying to get done, tends to give you more shiz to deal with! Not to mention, the entire day is suddenly about putting out fires everyone else has deemed urgent, not your priorities to begin with!
You get in the car, and even though the milkshake spilled 4 days ago in the back seat, and you've spent many intimate hours scrubbing and steaming and enzyme cleaning the entire interior of your car, you're hit with sour milk smell. And you want to barf. Then, you head to the store, to handle that first item that wasn't even from your own to-do list, and the thing you were there to buy, isn't even the thing anyone thought it was, so now you're researching like crazy to try to make the perfect selection, terrified of making a mistake. Like really? But hey, this is the day, it's on the new list, let's do it. And the shiz keeps rolling downhill from there.
Been there, done that.
Then, as you continue your path to get it all done, keep going even though you started out exasperated and exhausted, you become more and more like a pot ready to boil over. Forget the image of potatoes cooked to perfection with the water delightfully and easily strained out. NO. Potatoes are total mush, the kitchen is a disaster and the pot is boiling over everywhere. While the demands on you keep coming.
Then, no matter how great of a job you were doing trying to stuff them down to get through the day, the emotions ALL come up at ONCE. You literally have no choice but to feel them, let the primal screams out, cry out the sobbing cry, have a stern talk with the Universe while shaking your fists about your needs that aren't met.
Sucks, right?!
You're all committed to creating a Soul-Led Lifestyle. One that fulfills you. One that creates more EASE.
So, what is this crap showing up?!!!
This is the very crap that needs to be noticed so that you can feel it and move beyond it by moving through it.
What can you do to be in it, yet shift from the victim mentality that inevitably comes up during these times, to a more empowered, neutral space?
Feel the feelings. Have the cry. Scream the scream. Make every effort to avoid doing this toward your loved ones! DO apologize to anyone who may have gotten caught in the crossfire. Say the forgiveness prayers for how you feel about yourself and others. Sit in those yucky feelings. Do some gentle yoga to breathe through it if that is appealing to you.
Notice the needs that come up that have not been met. Speak them, think them, have a convo with your Guides and Angels about them.
When you feel ready to move out of this feeling space, choose one need that hasn't been met and meet it. Are you hungry? Do you need to take a break? Do you need a minute to yourself? Do you need a break from your phone? A bath? A walk? What calls to you?
Notice the biggest trigger that came up before the blow-up/boil over/sh*t got fanned.
Chances are it stems from something you feel you don't have enough of. Something needed that isn't there yet, or a need not yet sufficiently met. Be it money, or some kind of support, or the tools for a project, or help with childcare, or whatever it may be.
These feelings, these needs that suddenly SCREAM to get your attention are your GUIDEPOSTS to guide you deeper into YOU.
Sometimes something has to make you REALLY uncomfortable to get your attention in such a way that you TAKE ACTION. That you demand more for yourself. That you notice yourself, and nurture the Divine Being you are, so that this gorgeous Soul inside you can shine through.
They often come through, rather, slam into your face to notice when you are already feeling worn down. Around moon time, or the new moon, or when the baby's been up all night teething, or you've been working all hours on a project, or during a big transition...
Write down what you need. Grab a journal or a notebook or paper or hop on your computer. Write down what you need. What you want. What you feel you don't have. Then think of all the tiny ways you have received it, either in the past or more recently. Or currently. Even if it's a trickle compared to what you truly need, notice it, and write it down. Tell the Universe how much you loved receiving it. How much you loved it when it showed up. How you loved the way it came in. How you appreciated it. You might at first notice one tiny thing but if you stick with it, notice how much that list grows.
Notice what this does to how you feel. Does it stop the boiling pot? Maybe to a slow roll? Does it allow some neutrality? Does it shift your thinking and pull you out of the downward spiral of despair going on all day before?
Is there a part of you that you need to say goodbye to, in order to allow in a new way of being? A new way of being where this repeated struggle is no longer the star of the show? Write a goodbye letter to that part of you. Thank it for doing its best. Thank it for trying to keep things the same. Thank it for trying to stay safe by avoiding fresh new experiences. Write it a love letter. And then take that part of you by the hand and call in the experience you want. Tell that part of you it's coming with you now through a door to an experience where your needs and desires are met with ease. Where you feel fulfilled. Where you have the support and relationships that nourish you.
Call in what you need in this new space. Call it all in. Anything you think of, call it in. At the end, 'Thank you Thank you Thank you, and So It Is'. Take a deep breath in and release, knowing and trusting that you have just taken the first step into this new beginning.
Trust the next steps will come at perfect timing. Know that you are supported and loved. In all versions of you from the past, present, and yet to be.
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Ellen <3
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Ellen Lorraine Niemeier, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Ellen Lorraine Niemeier is an Advanced Soul Realignment® Practitioner, Master Akashic Records Reader, Expert Intuitive, and Channel.
She first learned about the Akashic Records when she was seeking support for herself on her surprise journey into single motherhood 8 years ago. Shortly after the birth of her son, she became a certified practitioner and Soul-Level Healing LLC was born.
Clients from around the world share their soul's deepest pains and deepest longings as she supports them to discover their divine gifts, clear their energy, and create the Soul-Led Lifestyle of their dreams.
Ellen is a professional member of the Holistic Chamber of Commerce, Healers Magazine and Heal. Me.
