True Welcome – Leaving Your Comfort Zone to Meet Others Where They Are
- Brainz Magazine
- Oct 2
- 5 min read
Written by Annette Hutcheson, Speaker, Author
Annette Hutcheson is The E.P.I.C. Life Designer, a speaker, author, and transformation expert helping women design intentional lives of health, freedom, and purpose using science-backed tools and real-world experience.
We often hear phrases like, “Come sit with us. You are welcome here.” At first glance, it sounds warm and inclusive. But if we listen closer, there’s an unspoken imbalance hidden in that invitation.
I once heard an influencer say, “Come sit with us. You are welcome here.” Her husband was a principal, and I believe she was a teacher, so I know her intent was to promote inclusion. But the phrase didn’t resonate with me because that kind of invitation keeps the inviter in their comfort zone while asking the invitee to leave theirs. When we say, “Come sit with us,” we’re really inviting someone into our space, on our terms, expecting them to do the hard work of moving physically, emotionally, and even socially toward us. In other words, the burden of belonging falls on the invitee. To me, that isn’t true welcome, that’s assimilation.
The subtle difference between inclusion and welcome
Inclusion often looks like opening a door and saying, “You can enter.” Welcome looks like stepping outside and saying, “I’ll come to you.”
Inclusion allows access. Welcome requires sacrifice.
Inclusion asks others to adapt. Welcome chooses to adapt ourselves.
Think about it. If someone is sitting alone, shy, or hesitant, telling them, “Come sit with us,” may feel overwhelming. They must break into an already-formed circle, risk rejection, and feel like a guest in someone else’s established space.
But when we stand up, walk over, and sit with them, the power shifts. The message becomes, “You matter enough for me to leave my comfort zone and join you in yours.”
That’s not just an invitation, it’s an act of love.
Never make people feel that they are always invited but never welcome.
Why true welcome matters
Leadership
True leaders don’t sit at the head of the table waiting to be approached. They walk the floor, enter the break room, and meet people where they work and live. Trust is built when leaders step down from the platform.
I own a portion of a company, though I’m not involved in its day-to-day operations. Last week, my husband and I decided to stop by the workplace simply to connect. Instead of calling everyone into a central office or break room for the “honor” of meeting us, we chose a different path. We walked from station to station, greeting each employee where they were. We offered water, a snack, a smile, whatever small gesture would show they mattered. Some wanted hugs, others a fist bump, others just eye contact and a kind word. We adjusted to them, not the other way around. The point was simple, we went to them. People feel most valued not when they’re asked to leave their post to enter our space, but when we care enough to enter theirs.
Friendship
Real friends don’t just say, “You’re welcome to join us.” They notice your silence, your isolation, your hesitation, and they choose to enter it with you.
My mother may be the best example of true welcome and friendship I have ever known. She never forgets a birthday. She never puts off a phone call when someone needs to be checked on. She shows up with meals, flowers, and love for everyone in her life, young and old. Even at the age of 79, with hands twisted by severe arthritis, she continues to serve family, friends, and strangers alike, making sure they know they are not only invited, but always wanted and always welcome.
She bakes, quilts, sews, gardens, and creates small works of beauty for anyone who needs encouragement or a lift in life. She never does it for recognition, never for applause. She does it because love is who she is. My mother is a living example of pure, Christ-like love and friendship, a true friend to every single person she meets.
Faith and humanity
The deepest examples of love in history are not invitations from lofty heights, but movements downward, toward the lonely, the hurting, the marginalized.
When my husband was indicted, it was very public, both locally and nationally. Most people never asked for details, instead, they avoided us, especially at church. Not because they lacked curiosity, but because an indictment and arrest carry an assumption, if the government says you’re guilty, then you must be. In that shadow, we lost nearly everything, our home, our savings, our animals, our friends, and they even tried to strip us of our dignity.
That season forced us to move to a small mountain town, a place already aware of our public situation. On our first Sunday walking into church, I was terrified of how these strangers might treat us. Would they whisper? Would they turn away? Instead, to my overwhelming relief, they did the opposite. They opened their arms, their homes, and their hearts. They showed up with meals, with flowers, with hugs, and a shoulder to cry on. They offered rides for our kids to church, school, and sporting events. They didn’t make us prove we belonged, they met us exactly where we were, spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
It was a beautiful example of welcome amid the most tragic chapter of our lives.
Comfort zones and the cost of true welcome
Here’s the uncomfortable truth, truly welcoming others will feel like it has cost you something. It may ask you to give up a bit of your ease, loosen the familiar bonds of your established group dynamic, or step out of the comfortable glow of the spotlight or comfort the shadows. At first, those sacrifices can feel heavy because they challenge the very things that make us feel safe. But in time, you realize that it never cost you anything at all. What you gain in return is far greater, genuine connection, the kind of trust that can’t be forced, and a sense of belonging that feels like home.
When you leave your comfort zone, you’re not just extending a hand, you’re embodying humility. You’re saying, “I see you. I’ll adjust for you. You don’t have to prove yourself to be worthy of my company.”
A new kind of invitation
Maybe it’s time we rethink our language. Instead of saying, “Come sit with us”, what if we said:
“May I sit with you?”
“I’d love to join you.”
“Tell me about where you are, I want to be there too.”
This is what transforms an invitation into a welcoming act of love.
The next time you see someone sitting on the edges, whether literally at a table or metaphorically in life, pause before saying, “You’re welcome to join us.” Instead, rise, walk toward them, and ask to sit with them. Because true welcome doesn’t ask others to cross into our world, it compels us to step into theirs. And when we do, something beautiful happens, two worlds begin to weave together, and the table itself grows larger.
That’s the heart of The E.P.I.C. Life™, not waiting for you to come to us, but meeting you where you are and walking beside you as you design a stronger future. The way we come to you is through our E.P.I.C. 6-week challenge, where you’ll be supported step by step. We’ll come sit with you.
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Annette Hutcheson, Speaker, Author
Annette Hutcheson is The E.P.I.C. Life Designer, a speaker, author, and visionary guide helping women rebuild their lives with intention, strength, and science-backed strategies. Drawing from her own powerful journey of personal transformation, Annette empowers women to take control of their health, mindset, and income by blending nervous system regulation, goal-setting, and exogenous ketones. Through powerful content, events, and storytelling, she inspires women to stop settling and start designing lives they truly want to live.
