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Tips For Healing Painful Memories

Written by: Lisa Tahir, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

Executive Contributor Lisa Tahir

Here you are – ready to embark upon a journey into your past to explore your emotional wounds and resulting areas of vulnerability. Creating a physical setting to do this work is helpful, and I encourage you to set aside a specific time and space to do this introspective work.

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You may also consider lining up a trusted individual/professional to speak with during this process, and procure a journal in which to document the insights and patterns that will emerge for you during this time.

Employ empathy, love, and forgiveness while you allow memories to surface. Especially the painful memories. This will soften your experience and aid in your healing. I like the way the Fourteenth Dalai Lama speaks of our ability to hold space for one another when he says, “Our innate capacity for empathy is the source of the most precious of all human qualities.”

Empathy involked within us amplifies our intuitive abilities and enhances our ability to shift our thoughts and beliefs in order to heal our lives. This is why it’s so important to honor our intuition. “Intuition is a spiritual faculty and does not explain but simply points the way,” said Florence Scovel Shinn, New Thought spiritual teacher and metaphysical writer, in 1871.

I encourage you to embrace your own intuition as your innate ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.

Empathy is defined as the ability to understand and share the feelings and experiences of another person. Practices that teach us to view ourselves through a lens of forgiveness engender empathy, and will bring long-lasting peace and happiness to our lives.

As an artist and therapist, and one who is a seeker, I have been taught to look for the weak links in a system in order to offer a plan to correct and support it. But there is a shadow side to having such an analytical perception. The vision and willingness it takes to see untapped potential in others means that what might arise is the propensity to criticize others when they are not living up to their potential. At the very same time, we often judge ourselves harshly when we forget that we are works in progress too. Instead, we deserve to love ourselves as the beautifully imperfect humans that we are.

I actively work to encourage my clients (and myself) to heal core wounding and vulnerability through the eyes of love and compassion, instead of criticism and judgment. I ask you to become aware of your priceless value for choosing to be a catalyst of change to promote energetic healing at a global level. As we journey on our individual paths we support healing for the collective.

Every time we take responsibility for our words and actions and make amends for our wrongs, an energetic and etheric shift ripple across the entire world and reaches people we will never meet or know. When we heal ourselves, we model permission for others to do the same.

It is my passion to educate and inspire by revealing some of my own experiences to you. When working with emotional wounding, here are some things I consistently remind myself, and I ask you to do the same.

When painful memories arise

  1. Do have respect for your feelings while being gentle and patient with yourself in this process of discovery.

  2. Do commit to trust and believe that you can heal.

  3. Do believe that you can shift from fear as your motivator, to love as your motivator.

  4. Take a quiet moment each morning to remind yourself to honor and respect yourself today.

  5. Remind yourself to praise yourself throughout your day—no matter what happens. You can say things to yourself like, “I’m doing really well,” “I love who I am,” and/or “I am making great decisions,” for instance. This foundation will facilitate the creation of a safe emotional space in which you may contain your work of complete self-forgiveness.

Learn more about healing your emotional wounds in my book, The Chiron Effect: Healing Our Core Wounds through Astrology, Empathy, and Self-Forgiveness, endorsed by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and available everywhere books are sold.

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Lisa Tahir Brainz Magazine

Lisa Tahir, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Lisa Tahir, is an inspirational podcast host of All Things Therapy, where she seeks to "Change Consciousness One Conversation at a Time.' Her book, "The Chiron Effect: Healing Our Core Wounds through Astrology, Empathy, and Self-Forgiveness," has been acclaimed and endorsed by His Holiness the Dalai Lama. Tahir draws her strength through combining the psychological with the spiritual, and as a licensed therapist seeks to help others in visualizing and creating their very best lives no matter what has been true in the past.


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