The Roller Coaster Of Self Discovery
- May 31, 2022
- 2 min read
Updated: Jul 22, 2022
Written by: Sarah Moody, Executive Contributor
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I’ve been noticing something fascinating with my students lately. I’ve been calling it the Roller Coaster of Self Discovery.
It goes something like this.
A new client comes to me. She’s tired of feeling like she’s not doing enough at her job and at home and just wants to be able to feel calm, happy, and connected.
We start working together on learning how to understand and intentionally direct her brain with cognitive tools. I see the spark in her eyes: I don’t have to feel shitty anymore because I can change my thoughts!!
This is the climb of the roller coaster. The possibilities are endless! Don’t like that feeling? Change the thought! Don’t like that habit? Change the thought!
And then, we reach the top of that hill and come shooting down.
Because eventually, being in an intimate and clear relationship with your thoughts reveals something to you.
The fact is that no matter what, you still have a human brain, and the human experience will be 50/50.
50% awesome, 50% suck.
And this can feel like a crushing disappointment when you thought that once you changed all your bad thoughts, you’d be free from any suffering or negative emotion.
But the ride isn’t done yet!!
Instead, we start the climb again. Because while you can’t change every thought to avoid negative feelings, you CAN learn to allow, process, and channel emotions.
And that’s where we get into the fun stuff. The interesting, juicy, powerful shit that is holding us back from feeling connected and safe within ourselves.
Because a FELT sense of safety and love in our bodies is way fucking better than a blank plateau of mindless happiness. Sometimes we need to get OUT of the logical overthinking brain and tap into what our bodies are telling us. From that space, we get to be creative and messy and discover new depths of our badassery.
It’s pretty fucking awesome.
Yes, it's a roller coaster. It’s not going to feel pretty every day. But it's the ride of a lifetime and it is the key to unlocking the life you didn’t even know you could have.
Sarah Moody, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Sarah is the only certified coach who:
Recovered from decades of anorexia and bulimia.
Has been a tech veteran for the past 20 years and started a company from scratch after getting fired from a job in 2001. Clients are some of the largest software enterprises in the world, and the company has grown by over 400% in revenue.
Has coached hundreds of clients and is on a mission to help other high achievers like herself, break through burnout and bring magic back into their career and life.
