The I.A.M. Daily Practice of Inner Authority
- Brainz Magazine
- Jun 13
- 4 min read
Written by Mark W. Guay, Men's Coach
Mark Guay is an Integral Certified Coach and IFS practitioner. He is the founder of Fathers Without Compromise, a group coaching program and community for business-owning dads to be great fathers and build a great business without compromising one or the other.
You can look successful and still feel lost. You can be the go-to guy. The provider. The protector. The man who gets things done and holds everything together. And still wake up at 2:30 AM with a tight chest, wondering, “If I’m doing everything right, why does it feel like something’s missing?”
That’s not burnout. That’s not ambition fatigue. That’s a deeper signal: you’ve been leading without Inner Authority.
Inner Authority is the grounded power that comes when you’re no longer outsourcing your autonomy.
It’s not about being louder. It’s about being clearer.
It’s the shift from performance to presence.
When you're leading from Inner Authority, you stop chasing the next achievement to feel enough. You stop giving your energy to people-pleasing, overthinking, or old survival strategies. You start making aligned decisions, not just strategic ones.
It’s a return to the Integral Self that never left.
The voice beneath the noise.The one that says, “This is true. This is right.”
The truth is, we were never taught how to lead from within.
We were taught to:
Work harder.
Anticipate what others need.
Measure our worth by how much we provide.
Put our needs last and call it strength.
But here’s the problem: when your leadership is built on protection instead of presence, it creates a quiet war inside.
You smile when you want to speak.
You say yes when everything in you is screaming no.
You execute flawlessly, and then stare at the ceiling, wondering why you still feel off.
This is the cost of disconnection from Inner Authority:
Success without fulfillment.
Service without inner freedom.
Action without alignment.
When you're constantly reacting, especially under stress, your nervous system goes into survival mode.
The prefrontal cortex, responsible for executive function and clarity, starts to shut down.
Instead, the limbic system takes over, running old emotional scripts from your past.
This is why high-functioning, brilliant men can still feel scattered, irritable, or numb.
Because they’re not broken, they’re just stuck in protective patterns they outgrew years ago.
The path back?
Learn to recognize who’s running the show inside you, and consciously shift back into Self-led leadership.
That’s exactly what The I.A.M. Practice is designed to do.
The I.A.M. daily practice
This is a 3-minute reset you can use every morning or any time your leadership starts to slip into reactivity.
I – Identify
Who’s leading you right now? The Achiever, the Pleaser, the Controller, the Drill Sergeant, the Critic?
A – Align
Use 7-Directional Breathing to reset your nervous system. This is a powerful embodiment practice rooted in trauma-informed somatics. It centers your awareness and brings you back to your body.
Breathe deeply into:
Your feet (down)
Your spine (up)
Your heart (forward)
Your back (behind you)
Your left
Your right
Inside your body
M – Move
Ask yourself, What is the smallest step I need to take to move me closer to the thing that needs to happen?
Take one small action led by your Inner Authority.
This doesn’t have to be big.
Text the person you’ve been avoiding.
Cancel a meeting that drains you.
Sit in silence for five minutes.
Say “no” when you mean it.
Every small action rooted in alignment builds inner freedom.
To help you experience this shift directly, I created a free audio meditation that walks you through the first phase of the I.A.M. Practice.
It’s short. It’s practical. And it’s one of the most powerful ways to begin reclaiming your Inner Authority.
Get the free meditation here.
On that same page, you’ll find details about The Inner Authority Method™, my group coaching program for men who are ready to stop leading from depletion and start leading from within.
Leadership without Inner Authority is a slow kind of soul loss. You’re not failing. You’re just leading from a place you’ve outgrown.
But you don’t have to keep performing strength. You don’t have to keep reacting to life like you’re putting out fires.
You can lead from alignment. From clarity. From the core of who you are.
The I.A.M. Practice is a compass. Use it, and you’ll remember the way back.
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Mark W. Guay, Men's Coach
Mark Guay is an Integral Certified Coach and IFS practitioner. He is the founder of Fathers Without Compromise, a group coaching program and community for business-owning dads to be great fathers and build a great business without compromising one or the other. As an adoptee and survivor of childhood domestic violence, he leads with this approach: To really change our lives, we must heal the past and embrace the unknown. To do this, we need self-accountability, the courage to take decisive action, a community of support, and trust that doors will appear, leading us on our path.
