Swipe with Intention, Connect with Heart – A Ritual for Modern Love
- Brainz Magazine
- 1 day ago
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Written by Angela Dawn, Sex, Love & Relationship Coach
Angela Dawn is a Certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach and a Certified Tantric Sex Coach whose mission is to empower you to find fulfillment in love & life, enrich your intimate relationships. and help couples "Get Closer."
As a Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, I often support clients through the dating process. Much of that work involves helping them come home to themselves, understanding who they really are, and learning how to communicate from that authentic place. We also need to be clear on what kind of relationship they truly want to create and what sort of person they want to share it with.
Once those foundations are in place, they're ready to begin meeting people, either in person or online. With dating apps, I teach a unique and intentional method for engagement. I call it "Mindful Swiping".
This three-part method brings self-awareness, clarity, and emotional grounding to the dating process. It's a powerful antidote to the distraction, disconnection, and burnout many people experience on dating apps.
What is mindful swiping?
Mindful Swiping is a structured, 15-minute daily process made up of three parts:
Mindset preparation: Cultivate clarity, confidence, and emotional regulation.
Intentional swiping: Engage with the app from the body rather than the overactive mind.
Conscious correspondence: Communicate with matches in an empowered, open-hearted way.
Before you begin, ensure your dating profile reflects who you are, as well as who and what you're seeking. If that piece needs refining, working with a qualified love coach can make a meaningful difference.
Step 1: Mindset preparation (5 minutes)
Start by preparing your mindset. Sit quietly for five minutes in meditation or visualization. The intention is to regulate your nervous system, anchor into presence, and connect with your deeper self.
Desperation and disconnection will not lead to meaningful matches. If you're feeling emotionally off-center, it may be better to pause and return to the apps when you're in a more grounded state.
One helpful approach is to call in a strong, wise, or empowered part of yourself. Imagine that part of you sitting beside you as you navigate the app.
Step 2: Intentional swiping (5 minutes)
Set a timer and begin swiping with full presence. No multitasking. No background distractions. Give your complete attention to the process.
I teach a method called Look, Gut Check, Choose:
Look at the profile.
Gut check - Notice how your body responds.
Choose - Swipe based on that embodied response.
If your body gives a clear yes or no, trust it. If you’re unsure, take a moment to skim their profile and feel into your response. The goal is to stay out of “checklist mode” and tune into your intuitive sense of compatibility.
Step 3: Conscious correspondence (5 minutes)
Spend five minutes replying to messages and reaching out to matches. Begin by responding to anyone who has already contacted you. Then initiate a conversation with new matches.
Make the first move if you feel a spark. When starting a conversation, include an open-ended question, something that invites depth or curiosity.
Once a conversation feels engaging and mutual, it's often a sign to move beyond the app, whether to a phone call, video chat, or in-person meeting.
Why time it?
Dating apps are intentionally designed to be addictive. The endless swipe-scroll cycle can become a source of emotional exhaustion, detachment, or self-doubt. Some people find themselves swiping constantly with no intention to connect. Others feel overwhelmed and avoid the app entirely.
Mindful Swiping is designed to protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being, while helping you use the apps in a way that is aligned with your goals and values.
A quick guide to the Mindful Swiping practice
Preparation
Sit somewhere quiet.
Open your app and set your timer.
Step 1: Mindset (5 minutes)
Meditate or do a visualization.
Invite a strong, grounded part of yourself to guide your experience.
Step 2: Swiping (5 minutes)
Engage with focus. No multitasking.
Use the Look, Gut Check, Choose method.
Step 3: Correspondence (5 minutes)
Reply to messages.
Initiate contact with new matches.
Ask open-ended questions.
Try mindful swiping today
Whether you’re brand new to dating apps or have been using them for a while, this practice can transform how you relate to the process, and to yourself. Mindful swiping helps you stay connected to your values, your body, and your true desires.
If you'd like support customizing this practice or refining your dating profile, I invite you to reach out.
Angela Dawn, Sex, Love & Relationship Coach
Angela (she/her) is a Certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach and a Certified Tantric Sex Coach, dedicated to helping couples Get Closer. With a wealth of experience in yoga and Tibetan Buddhism, she brings a holistic approach to her coaching. Angela's mission is to empower clients to find fulfillment in love and life, free from societal taboos. Based in Annapolis, Maryland, her unique perspective and extensive training in tantric practices make her the ideal guide for enriching your intimate relationships. Don't wait; the time for the best version of yourself in love and intimacy is now!
