Self-Governance – It Starts With You
- Brainz Magazine
- Nov 21, 2024
- 4 min read
Nichell has done over 10,000 Readings. She uses a person's Astrological Natal Birth Chart to read from. A birth chart is like a blueprint of a person – mind, body, and spirit.
Self-governance may sound like a lofty concept, reserved for political discussions or societal structures, but its true power begins on a much smaller scale—with you.
Forgive, heal, mind your business, and get ready for Pluto in Aquarius
Self-governance is a big word with even bigger implications. It sounds like something reserved for society as a whole, but the truth is, it starts on a much smaller scale with you. Yes, you. That means minding your business, dropping the judgment, and forgiving others for their inevitable screw-ups.
One of my favorite sayings from my Roman Catholic catechism days is: “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” That line from the Our Father prayer has stayed with me, not just because I heard it daily as a child, but because it speaks to the heart of self-governance. If you can’t forgive others for their mistakes, how can you expect forgiveness for your own?
Here’s the kicker, though: forgiveness isn’t just for them; it’s for you. Herman Hesse, in Demian, says it best: “What is not a part of us does not affect us.” If something in someone else is getting under your skin, it’s not about them. It’s about you. That trigger is a mirror reflecting something unhealed within you. So, instead of pointing fingers, take a deep breath, turn that finger around, and dive into your own shadows.
1. Treat others the way you want to be treated
This one’s kindergarten-level wisdom, yet we struggle with it every day. We love to be treated with kindness, patience, and respect, but how often do we extend that to others? The cashier who got your order wrong? The friend who forgot your birthday? Your ex who keeps showing up like a bad penny?
Self-governance asks you to pause before reacting and choose the higher road. Treat others with the grace you wish they’d show you. And if they don’t? That’s on them, not you.
2. Drop the judgment
Here’s a tough pill to swallow: you don’t know everyone’s story. Sure, you might think you know why someone acted a certain way, but chances are, you’re missing a lot of context. Judgment is just a way to avoid dealing with our own mess. It’s easier to critique others than to face the parts of ourselves we don’t like.
But if we’re going to ascend, we’ve got to leave the judgment behind. Being a good person doesn’t mean having the best comebacks or always being right; it means extending compassion, even when it’s not deserved.
3. Forgive and let go
Forgiveness is a superpower. It doesn’t mean excusing bad behavior or letting someone off the hook. It means releasing yourself from the chains of anger, resentment and hurt. It’s a declaration: “I’m not carrying this anymore.”
And here’s the deal: the Divine already has everyone you’re worried about. That friend who betrayed you? God’s got them. The person who cut you off in traffic? Also, God’s problem. Let it go, and trust that the universe will handle the justice part. Your job is to keep your side of the street clean.
4. Mind your own business
This one’s simple but not always easy. Stay in your lane. You don’t need to fix everyone, solve everything, or have an opinion about every situation. The energy you spend meddling in other people’s business could be used to heal your own wounds.
When you feel tempted to step into someone else’s drama, ask yourself: “What’s my business here? What’s theirs? And what belongs to the Divine?” Nine times out of ten, you’ll realize it’s not your circus and definitely not your monkeys.
5. Heal yourself first through self-governance
We’re all carrying some kind of trauma. It’s part of being human. But if we’re going to evolve, it’s time to stop running from those deep wounds and start doing the work. Therapy, meditation, journaling, Reiki, shadow work, pick your tools, and start digging.
Because here’s the truth: Pluto in Aquarius is not waiting for anyone to get their act together. If you’re still clinging to old baggage, you’re going to miss the train. This is the time to level up, clear out the clutter, and align with the highest version of yourself.
Be kind. Be accountable. Be present
The road to self-governance isn’t about perfection; it’s about presence. It’s about showing up every day with kindness, accountability, and a willingness to grow. It’s about choosing love over fear, compassion over judgment, and healing over avoidance.
So, let’s get to work not on fixing the world but on fixing ourselves. Because when each of us takes responsibility for our own energy, the ripple effect will transform everything. Let’s step into the energy of Pluto in Aquarius, ready to lead not from ego but from love.
Now, go mind your business, heal your wounds, and trust the Divine. The universe has big plans, and it starts with you.
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Nichell Delvaille, Holistic Soul Coach, Intuitive Astrologer
Nichell is a Wellness Practitioner. Healing effects all aspects of a person. She is a Holistic Soul Coach, Intuitive Astrologer, Reiki Master and Herbalist. Nichell also has certifications in Yoga, Meditation and Ayurveda.
