My Letter To Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers
- Nov 23, 2023
- 4 min read
Updated: Nov 25, 2023
Written by: Malissa Veroni, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
I want to do something a little unconventional here as the last segment of The Struggle and Hidden Costs of Being a "Good Daughter" to a Narcissistic Mother series. Previous articles in this series spoke about the costs of being a good daughter to a narcissistic mother, signs you may be dealing with this syndrome, what you can do to work towards your own healing, and now today, a note from me to you.
I want to share with you a formal therapeutic letter I wrote for all of the wonderful daughters of narcissistic mothers I serve. Often clients, especially those that have been abused and traumatized are concerned with what I, and other therapists or coaches, may think of them. As daughters of narcissistic mothers, we are never truly seen, and sometimes, sadly, even liked by those around us. It is truly a painful, often silent, and lonely journey to endure.
I hope this letter can help you see what I see in you and possibly even help others on their journey as well. If this letter resonates with you, please hold it in your heart. Read it anytime you feel alone, unsure, scared, or lost.
If you want to talk about what is in this letter and receive support please do reach out, I am here for you too. Together we can heal and help you live your best and well-deserved life.
To all of the daughters of narcissistic mothers out there I see you and I believe in you.
Dear daughter of a narcissistic mother, As I sit down to write this letter, I want you to know that the words that follow are not just ink on paper or words on a computer screen or phone; they are an outpouring of genuine care, empathy, and a deep desire to see you heal and flourish. From the very first sessions we shared, I sensed the strength that resides within you, a strength that has carried you through challenges that many cannot fathom. In the depths of your heart, you have carried wounds inflicted by a relationship that was meant to nurture, but often left scars instead. The pain of growing up with a narcissistic mother has etched itself into your spirit, leaving you questioning your worth, doubting your abilities, and feeling adrift in a sea of conflicting emotions. But let me assure you, your journey to healing has already begun. While you are not responsible for what happened to you, you are responsible for your healing and I am proud of you! Through the countless conversations we have had, I have had the privilege of witnessing your courage and resilience. Your willingness to confront the past, to face the shadows, and to explore the facets of your own identity is nothing short of remarkable. As your therapist and coach, my role is not to merely guide you through this maze of emotions, but to stand by your side as you navigate the twists and turns, offering support, insight, and a safe space to express yourself fully and authentically. Remember, healing is not linear; it is a journey of self-discovery, self-compassion, and self-love. It is about reclaiming your narrative, and rewriting the script that once held you captive to the echoes of criticism and manipulation. Together, we will work to unravel the tangled threads of your past, to challenge the false beliefs that have taken root, and to help you forge a new path—one defined by your strength, your worth, and your authentic self. As you navigate this transformative journey, know that you are not alone. I too have also been there and can relate to what is in you and what lays ahead of you. You no longer need to feel alone. I am here to stand with you, to guide you, and to celebrate each step forward, no matter how small it may seem. I will stand with you, even when you may learn about things you do not like about yourself and show you love and compassion anyways. I will always be your cheerleader and support. The light you seek is already within you, waiting to shine brightly and illuminate the beautiful person you always were and the one that you are becoming. With unwavering support and boundless belief in your capacity to heal. Malissa Veroni
Thank you for walking alongside me on the 4 part journey for daughters of narcissistic mothers. I hope over the last several weeks together it has deepen your understanding and love for yourself.
As always if you want a partner to walk alongside you during your healing journey I would be honoured to be of service to you.
Malissa Veroni, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Malissa Veroni is the founding CEO and lead therapist at Keep’N It Real Solutions. For the past 15 years Malissa has been a foot soldier in the field of social work; teaching, and serving students and clients alike. She is a published author, mentor, and mental health therapist who focuses on combining theory, practical approach and individual quality holistic care to help clients heal and grow from a variety of concerns. Malissa is known as a specialist in the field of Narcissistic Abuse, Intimate Partner Violence, the LGBTQ2s Community, and in Sex Therapy. She is also a Designated Capacity Assessor and a mentor to several social workers worldwide.
